Please help...my mum 'found' something and it's really awkward between us... (second time, sorry)

Question

I'm posting this again because I didn't make the last one clear enough, and the comments were great but I just wanted to make sure I was crystal clear on the info.

My mum’s always going on about how I go on the computer too much…

I WRITE and READ yaoi, which is often sexually explicit, and I think my mom would simply disapprove of that, and she might have found that. She's really awkward about this and I said I was doing coursework...

I ROLEPLAY completely innocently, but my mum would get really spazzed at the fact that I was talking to ANYONE over the internet, no matter how harmless. The roleplaying isn't sexual in any way, but I think she might have found the stories I'd saved...and they're definitely not the homework I was making them out to be...

So this morning she told my little brother to turn off the computer and went “tell your sister she can’t go on to do these rubbish things, computers should only be used for good things”.

I asked her what she meant, and she was really angry and went “you know what you’ve been doing” and after I persisted she went “you know, you’re just obsessed with b-o-y…” here she stopped because my brother came in, “just focus on your studies”.

I have NO idea what she found but it’s really awkward because I don’t know what it is…we’re not talking and I have no idea what to do because I want to know what she’s talking about, but I don’t in case it’s awkward…

What can I do?? She’s saying I can’t go on here but I DO have homework to do and I can’t ditch my roleplaying partners. I could NEVER tell her about them because she has a heart attack if I talk to anyone over the internet.

I can't really get a new computer because I wouldn't be allowed, but all I care about is sorting THIS problem out; I need to sort THIS out before worrying about how to stop it next time. I'm only on the comp now cos she's on the phone.

thanks so much for the other answers btw...

Answer 1

Talk to your mom about what she thinks is wrong. Ask her why its so awkward between you two. Also, explain what you do. Its anime and roleplay. Tell her other people to it too. Its not just you and your totally safe and your not trying to do any harm or anything explicit.  

Answer 2

Make it clear what you are doing, that its not dangerous and that you know how to keep yourself safe (e.g. you would never meet up with any of these people)

maybe let her cool down a bit and then work on regaining her trust

good luck!

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Answer 3

So let me get this straight. You DO read sexually explicit material online, and now you can't figure out why your mom is so suspicious of your internet time? Face it. She busted you for reading the s*x stuff. Now she has no reason to believe you that you're using the computer innocently. If she was smart, she'd move the computer to a common area so you can't get into any trouble.

In any case, all you can do is sit down with your mom and talk it out. Ask her why she is so suspicous of you. If she says it is because she did catch you doing inappropriate things, admit it, apologize, and promise not to do it anymore. Then you have to EARN her respect and trust by backing up your words. Trust is earned. Time to start working at it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Just tell your mom the truth, that you haven't been doing anything bad. Then ask her what she found, then  you can explain it. Just don't yell because then every one'll be yelling and prolly wont go well!

Answer 5

I know it would probably be awkward but you need to sit your mom down and talk to her get to the bottom of it and explain if she doesn't get it then sorry I can't help you there