Please help? really upset.?

Question

The female Jack russell i am fostering is going back to the shelter on saturday to get spayed for her new home. I am so upset. I knew this was going to happen but not so soon. I am going to miss her so much. I have fostered dogs before and it was heart breaking and its so hard to cope everytime. Any advice to not be completely devastated like before? i don't want to break down and cry at the shelter when im bringing her in.

Answer 1

Uh oh - foster failure alert! :-)

She is going to a new home, but will always be 'somewhere' - just think of the new home, and how happy she will be there. You'll feel better when you see a picture of her in her new home, doing so well!

  No doubt there is another dog waiting for you, another one who also deserves your loving care, and a home of their own as well.  Go look for them when she flies away - they will be there, waiting for you...

  Try thinking of yourself more as a teacher than a parent - you launch them into the rest of their lives, and what a gift that is.

   Now, go listen to Rascal Flatts' "Every Day...", because that's what you do.  And it's very, very special.

Answer 2

Here is the tough love answer that I have to give myself every time we send one on.

Knock it off. You're being selfish. You're crying for yourself instead of being happy for this dog! Who is fostering all about anyway? And if she is going to a good home, that means you can save another life. Would you prefer she stay and another dog die? Of course not - not when you know she'll be happy and healthy!

With that said, I know you'll miss her, and I'm sorry. Go ahead a cry a few tears, and then pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get ready for the next dear baby that needs you to live!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Personally I think your being selfish !! so sorry you sound really nice ... BUT THE DOG IS GETTING ADOPTED !!!! You should be happy for her... you did the best you can to help her .. now a family needs n wants her ! God bless you for helping these dogs and animals ... but you know before getting involved that this was going to happen .... WHAT YOU SHOULD DO NEXT TIME ... IS THROW THEM A LIL PARTY... A GOING AWAY PARTY ... so you part in a happy and fun way ...... if it is soo painful ... or even keep the next one ......  

Answer 4

im not trying to be mean to you but you are just acting as a temporary foster mom. if its hard for you to give the dogs up after the fact then maybe you shouldnt do it?? i know i couldnt do it cause i would probably want to keep every single dog i got

Answer 5

It never gets any easier.  I take this opportunity to focus on the fact that if this one didn't get adopted, I'd have no room to help the next one in need.  The postcard, notes and e-mails you get from the adoptive family makes it easier, and see to always come when I am about to be a foster failure.  (For those who don't rescue, a foster failure means you kept the dog, therefore you were successful as an adopter, but failed fostering, where the goal is to adopt the dog out.)  The happiness of those helps make it easier to let this one find its own happiness, so you can get the next one ready.  You are doing a GOOD thing.  Remember that.

Answer 6

She knows that you love her.  Just make sure that you make her feel special.  It will be hard losing a loving member of your family. Turn to your family and friends for support  at this time.  

Answer 7

just remember that she is going to go and make another family so happy. try to see if you can go visit her

Answer 8

my philosophy since i started this rescue:

you have to make room for one more.

there's a poem titled " There's always room for one more"

we can't keep them all, but by letting them go to loving homes, we make room for the next.

cry, and look for the next pup. there's always one that speaks to our heart.

Answer 9

I have been fostering dogs for 20 yrs and I can honestly say that each dog that comes into your home will also be in your heart.

What you have to remind yourself is that you are saving a life and giving it the opportunity for a new life.  Without foster homes, many of these dogs would die.

Each one will take a piece of your heart with them when they leave but just keep reminding yourself that another one will need you to help them.

Keep doing what you are doing because as hard as it is to let them leave, it is wonderful that you give them the chance to find a new home.

Answer 10

not to be terribly blunt, but you knew this was coming, and "hardening" your heart and feelings is not the answer. just know you were a part of this dogs life, and that you made it a happy however long of a stay it had with you :]

Answer 11

I don't have any  useful advice at all.

but your fostering dogs is a wonderful thing to do.

I understand why it would hurt to let them go.

Answer 12

Well, I don't foster (my husband won't let me...he thinks I'll keep them all...which I would), but I can imagine that it's heart breaking to see them go. You just have to remember that she's going to go to a great home that the rescue has picked out for her. Her new family is going to love her and take care of her just as you have and she's going to have a wonderful life. Plus...you'll now have room to take in another that needs a chance.

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad :*( Hope you're better soon!