Please help with my relationship question!?

Question

Ok i just posted this but accidently put it in mental health

so me and my partner have been together for a long time bout 5years, we were engaged, anyway he has done some pretty sad things to me in the past(cheated, brusied my arm by pushing me into a wall(thts the only time hes eva been violnt)) but me being young and stupid i stayed with him in the hope he would change. Im 19 now. Last year we broke up for about a month and in this time he got a girl pregnant. He came back to me but has stuck around for his son who is due anyday and will continue to support his son. I dont see him changing tho, h**l always treat me like this because i always forgive him,i just cant break up with him! I love him but i hate him! I dont wana be in this relationship but im so weak i cant let go. With all the things hes done whats wrong with me why i cant just let go! I was 14 when we started going out, is this why i am finding it hard?please anyone been in this situation?

Please no stupid answers,

and please dont just say break up with him coz it harder then it sounds, iv been living with him since i was 15!

Also how did you girls cope after a break up?

Answer 1

Ok I'm almost 50 and I'm still single and dated a girl for about 12 months and broke up with her about 2 months ago and I still think about her all the time. I don't want to be with her anymore but that doesn't mean I don't have feelings for her. You get attached to people and it's like tearing off your arm when you separate. Better to live happier without your arm than together with someone who is not good for you living in misery every day. It's gonna hurt but if you decide to break up with him you can. You CAN. And it takes a long time but you do get better and you can go on. Being busy helps and helping other people helps. Find somewhere to volunteer and get busy doing something, anything. Get busy.