Please i need a help for my 5 years old boy?

Question

i have 5 years old boy who is trouble maker for me because he makes me cry everyday. i don't want to screem at him. So he is fine with everyone else in the family when i'm not at home as soon as i come home he starts demanding e.g what did u get for me?. When i go to pick him up from school he starts where r we going, lets go to shops or to my cousins house. When he starts he doesn't stop then he starts to kick me, screem at me, not to listen anything then starts to cry. I have tried everythin like not to screem at him, talk to him nicely, not to get upset or times out. But seems like nothing worked and he knows everything like what he has done because when he goes to bed he always says sorry or when he gets up then he says sorry to me. It looks like when he starts he can't control on himself. So please help me because i cry everyday.

Answer 1

Personally, I think it is time for a good old fashioned spanking.  If you don't nip this in the bud now, it will only get worse and worse.  He needs to learn about respect.  If he kicks you, kick him back, if he hits you, hit him back, and ask if he likes it!  The nice mommy syndrome will not work on a child who crosses every boundry.  He KNOWS that what he is doing is wrong if he is appologizing to you!  You need to deal with each situation immediately!  Put him in his room... whatever form of dicipline you are comfortable with.  The key is CONSISTENCY!  As another Y user put it "They have bottoms.....USE THEM!"  Just don't do it out of Anger, and after he is calm explain what he did wrong and why it is unacceptable. Tell him in the beginning what he could have done differently, and after a while, give him the chance to answer that question.  Good Luck!

Answer 2

okay, i used to do this to my mom, she called it the " mommy sindrum" if its necessary yell at him, it will straighten him out, but dont over do it.

Answer 3

you've spoiled him now by giving him everything he wants. you need to tell him no a lot more often or you'll be crying every night for the rest of your life. they dont grow out of it ever!!.

Answer 4

I know how you feel i have three boys and they still do that to me your son is trying to get your attention by doing all these things he knows he can get to you i know my middle son does it to me try ignoring him. Walk away let it go in 1 ear & out the other. You could also take his favoutite things off him and tell him he can't get it back until he is nice to you if it is for 1 day or a few. You could try some time out just the 2 of you go for a walk sit down and have a chat. When he happens to yell at you and you yell back he has got you attention trust me i know just how you feel let him see you cry and let him know how much it hurts you when he plays up on you i get bad headaches and used to cry a lot . I hope this healped you out and good luck

Answer 5

Wow, sounds like a nightmare.  Normally I'd tell you to have him checked out by professionals but if he acts ok around everyone else, I'd say its because of the way you treat him.  You need to learn how to say no and mean it.  Maybe you should go and speak to a therapist about why you have issues with disiplining your child.  They will help you find answers and suggest ways to deal with your own child.  Good luck honey......I hope things improve soon!!

Answer 6

You'd better learn to yell....he's got you over a barrel that you need to get out from under...

Answer 7

Kids , they are selfish and manipulative by nature. My daughter tried these very same things with me..and this is how I got her to stop..

When she would throw a fit in the store, as the woman above said..I would walk off and go to another aisle..at home..when she would throw fits..I would sit her in her room wtih a wet washrag and tell her to cry it out...and here is a rag to wash your face when your done and when your done you may come out. Now for the first few times I did this, I had to put her back in her room a few hundred times,but it's worth it.Never, ever give them what they were throwing the fit for..even when they have calmed down..because that is still reinforcing the idea that they can scream..hit..etc..and still get what they want.. You teach your kids how to treat you and if you give into his demands and fits  then he is going to continue to do what works. Kids are smart and will play to your every weakness. When he is done with his fit and he is calm sit him down and talk to him about it..in a language he can understand..don't lay guilt trips..just state.."I don't like it when you do these things".."how can we work together to stop this?"

Answer 8

It may be hard for you, but get up and discipline him HARSHLY! When he kicks or hits you, hold his arms to his side and tell him "We do not ________" and send him to his room. When he screams, hold your hand there so he can't scream (he will still breathe, it's okay) until he stops. If he cries, too bad, let him cry in his room even if it means an hour of noise. You're the parent. You have to deal with this if you want change.

Answer 9

When he's naughty just ignore him, I know it's hard but you have to. When he throws a tantrum in the shops just walk off and leave him there( Same at home), he will not do it anymore. When he demands give him something healthy or something like a hi-5. That's what my parents did to me.