Please if u have a heart help x*x?

Question

how do i stop feeling that ar so deep in my heart but i not felt back for me ive just come out of a 2 year relationship, now 4 months down the line we r still sleeping 2gefa but he only wants me 4 the s*x but he msses with my head and heart i took an overdose i was so mixed up and empty with out him, he says he still loves me HE THINKS but i love him i no i do more than anything how came i let him go i cant get a REBOUND i dont want one but i cant stop ringing texting him crying being sad takng it out on the ones i love i cant do this any more i wish i was dead i no i need counciling but i dont hav any money spare... what do i do?

Answer 1

Your are the only one who can STOP ringing, texting him, crying over him, having s*x with him. You CAN live without him. JUST STOP being with him. You will never get over him if you don't stop seeing him. TELL HIM NO the next time he wants s*x. Refuse to see him. Do whatever it takes. He nor anyone else if worth not wanting to live for. It doesn't really matter if you meet someone for a rebound relationship right now or not. Start to care more about yourself. Keep telling yourself that you are more important to yourself that he will every be. Keep trying and you will accomplish getting over him. Don't let him and you use you anymore. Good luck.

Answer 2

You made him into God. When you make contact with the real God, you will find peace.

Answer 3

You need to get him out of your life.  This relationship is not work killing yourself over.  He is using you. You will not be able to depend upon him for anything, any help or support.  The relationship has no future; it won't last.  Occupy yourself with other things.  In your next relationship try not to be so dependent.  Best wishes.

Answer 4

I say you should mess with his head and start talking about marriage see if he's serious about ur love. And if he says he's not ready for that or some other lame excuse then later on that day say something like, i dont think we should have s*x for a while. I mean, Im kinda worn out. Maybe about 3 weeks. Then see what he says. Hehe.  

Answer 5

Emotions have nothing to do with the heart by the way. They actually come from the amygdala (part of the brain.)

Answer 6

Hon, listen to me. I have been EXACTLY where you are feeling right now. Sometimes we feel like we love so deeply and if we don't get it back we will die. It's almost like a spiritual thing. I recently went through a traumatic experience - we had 2 years together, then suddenly he fell for someone else. Broke me up completely, but he continued to call me and email me every week or two because he couldn't get me out of his head or it "felt right." This has been going on a year and after I finally pulled the plug on him completely, no phonecalls answered, no emails answered, etc. now he tells me he has grown up and realizes that I am the one he loves and wants forever. However our trust has been destroyed and I don't think that is something that can be gained back. If you can't be his everything, then like the song says you need to be his nothing - nothing to him at all. Because when he finds out that you are 100% OVER him (even if you feel like you are dying inside) let him think it's OVER and get all the strength you have to not see/talk or especially SLEEP with him. Period. You keep on telling yourself that you are worth better, you love and respect yourself, do you hear me? Force yourself to smile and go out with friends. Do things that involve helping people. And if you have to cry your eyes out every night for a few weeks then do that. I did. Eventually and trust me on this, eventually you do feel better and OK. Time helps to erase the pain. Our lives are short enough - don't end it because you feel it's not worth living without his love. IT IS. I know, I know, I know in my heart that no matter what I write right now, you will still be hurting inside and all you really want to hear is that he loves you and wants you back. But you can't force that and you have to be strong. You are worth it my dear, and write that down on paper to yourself. Pray to God to help give you strength. I am a Christian and believe I got mad at God and still wanted to end my life. Somehow I stayed alive and the next day I felt better. You will start feeling better, just stop all contact with him and soon you need to start meeting new people. You will be ok, I promise. Please have faith. Email me if you want. I am taking your question seriously because I HAVE BEEN THERE.