Please...in need of ....guy help. PLEASE:)?

Question

okay. so i like this guy. he likes me. we officially told each other last monday we liked each other. he hasn't asked me out yet. he said we will end up going out. but apparently he likes another girl. idk how he knows her. they haven't even met yet. but she is pretty & he likes her alot. on his myspace under people he wants to meet...theres a picture of her and underneath it,, it says minnneee:). on his laptop she is his background. i saw it cuz his brother was on it. i know i need to talk to him about everything and wher we stand n if were going to go out or if im wastin my time. can someone please tell me how i should approach this. what should i say. how should i say it. i dont want to sound mad or crazyy. i just simply want to talk about it calmly. i am sooo confused about this. i need an answer. and another thing.....i know this is stupid but we hung out saturday nite n had alot of fun but he barely texted me yesterday and i havvent heard ANYTHING from him today. before saturday nite we texted constantly. im soo confused. PLEASE HELP:(

Answer 1

I guess that depends.  Are you okay trying to date a guy that is clearly interested in someone else?  Is he maybe waiting to see what happens with her first before deciding if he really wants to date you?  He doesn't sound ready to give you his attention, so move on and find a guy that appreciates you and you won't have to worry about this.

Answer 2

he is confused and doen't know who he likes

he's thinking about you and her and when he makes up his mind you'll know

he just dosen't want to hurt either of you, so he's making his decision carefully

Answer 3

Maybe something came up that he needed to deal with between Saturday night and now. I think the best thing to do is to approach him point blank about the issue. Ask him calmly what the deal is with this other girl and if he wants to be with her. Either way you have nothing to lose because if he can't decide who he wants it's best you move on because it's not worth it being an 'option'.  

Answer 4

I would ask him out causally. Just say "Wanna get some coffe later". If he says yes than in the middle of your coffee ask him who that girl is.  

Answer 5

I dont think he likes the other girl, he's probably going out with her.

Answer 6

if he liked you alot

he wouldnt have that girl as his background

and he also wouldve asked you out already

Answer 7

The guy is a nutcase. Who puts a picture of a girl he has never met as his background? That's creepy, he's like stalking her. You can do better.

Answer 8

ask him out before he finds somebody else.

Answer 9

SERIOUSLY ARE YOU THAT DUMB? IF HE DOESNT VALUE YOU AS MUCH AS THE OTHER GIRL WHY ARE YOU STILL STICKING WITH HIM. OBVIOUSLY HE MAKING YOU THE SECOND CHOICE. GEEZ GIVE ME A BREAK THIS IS STUPID.

YOU'RE WASTING YOUR TIME. DONT EVEN BOTHER TO APPROACH HIM. IF HE LIKES YOU HE SHOULD HAVE ASK YOU OUT.  

Answer 10

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Answer 11

ya it hurts when you find out that the guy you like likes someone else...but it's a bit creepy that he has a pic of her on his comp. sounds like hes playing you. he can't like both of you. sorry :(

Answer 12

Yeah, stop wasting your time.

Answer 13

give me a break

Answer 14

learn to solve your own problems, this isn't even a big deal. the only way your ganna learn how to cope with life is trial and error. other people cant tell you what to do all the time.

Answer 15

the girl could've hacked on his myspace and his computer and put her picture there. you never know. or hes just a player just wanting pretty girls. just tell him that you want to know why shes like his obsession. or you can just try liking someone else:]]

Answer 16

Sounds like you are both looking for something different in a BF/GF relationship.  Step back a little and look at what is happening with your head - not your heart.

Don't chase him because you will loose your appeal to him.

Based on what you said I'd put my emotions on hold and wait for him to contact you.  When he does, and he will, treat him like a friend - not a BF - but just another friend (be it male or female).

What you are experiencing for yourself is a very good case for first being friends - keep the emotions out - and get to know him for who he is.  Really, consider what he is already showing about himself.

After he calls, set up an appointment to talk and explain to him what you are observing and feeling - just like you would with a good GF.  Yes, relationships are risky but without taking any risks you won't find out where his head and heart are.  After you have explained where your are - simply ask him where his head and heart are.  keep your emotions in check no matter what you feel so you don't cause him to feel sorry for you.

Hey, life is experiencial - try to enjoy the process and remember that in all relationships both parties are supposed to change one another.  Let it happen and watch for his, and your own, signals and changes in feelings.  Don't try to force anything just let it happen and if it is meant to be it will be - and if it is not meant to be then be open to acceptance.  Trust, not fear of loss, will see you to you own true path.

All the best,

Answer 17

call him and tell him you want to talk to him get him in person or over the phone and let him know how you feel about him. and let him know what you saw and let him how u feel about it. you not going to sound stupid or any thing just look at it as you just want to know want you are heading into before you get mislead

Answer 18

he is a waste of your time

if you started going out, who knows, he might like someone else then too.

Answer 19

If you love him so much, you need to fight for your love.Well, if she likes you, then, that's good! but if he has hurted you, maybe, all i suggest is have hope, freedom of mind, but if you are hurted too much, maybe you will just leave him.Love is just like that, you can be hurted or be happy.You can talk to him face to face too! tell your feelings, say that you truly love him.That's it dear. LIFE GOES ON! :D  

Answer 20

find anouther guy he likes another girl ALOT..so just move on

sorryy guys are stupid  

Answer 21

seems like he might be playing the both of you. he doesnt seem right.