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Question

my girlfriend and i worked together for 7 months side by side before we quit our jobs and started our relationship. 5 months into our relationship she broke up with me today.

why? well i dont know. she called me over every night to her place we went to dinner all the time and we enjoyed each other. she called me all the time textes all the time and all of a sudden she asked for a break. Some "Alone Time" so i said ok...

she said i love you and i dont want us to get sick of each other, im not breaking up with you its just i get only a few hrs to my self afterwork and i would like to get some things done. Which is understandable guys.

then she asked me out to dinner, and cancelled 5 times on me. kept saying she is tired and we will go tomorrow. after the fifth time i asked her whats up. she said im not giving her space. so i said alright i wont bother you. the next day she textes me and starts talking so i was confused.

i text her the next night and asked her how she is doing and she said she had a headache and she is a month late on her period.she took 3 tests and all were neg. so i said we need to talk and i will call you in a min. she told me 'Nah ill call you before bed" and she never did.

the next mornin i texted her and said we need to talk, she then says "YEAH lets talk about how im not your girlfriend" im shocked a lil bit

then all day we argued back and forth and she was saying she doesnt love me anymore and she doesnt see me like in a sexual way "which we have had s*x like 70 times in that 5 month relationship. but she even went as far to say she had to get drunk the last time we had s*x which is sad when she called me at 11pm to come over even though she had to wakeup at 4am for work. "why would she do that if she was repulsed by me."

but she will not give me a reason at all why she is acting this way except that, my personality sucks and she isnt attached to me anymore. which as far as personality goes we were side by side for 7 months at our job and thats what she loved about me so its not making since.

she said there isnt even another guy she likes or is seeing. she even said i could ask her friends or Nieghbors.now she does work 7 days a week and has only a few hours a night free. i just dont get how someone can say they love you one day and hate you the next. she was making up baby names,wedding plans, discussing us living together,telling me she loves it when i stay over and it all changed and i dont know why.we didnt fight or anything.

im kind of lost now i dont understand what went wrong. im thinking she got bored of me but you cant only intertain someone so long if they only wat to watch movies at home and go to dinner. by the time she getts off work at 8 everything is closed besides dinner and a movie so working all 7 days we were foced to rent mvies and get dinner all the time but, its not my fault i tryed to take her to new places but being in AZ its 115+ degrees outside so indoor stuff like ice skating, movies,skating,malls but she didnt want to cuz it would only be for a hr cuz time wise after she got off work.

what do you guys think? what should i do Next?

Answer 1

i read the whole thing, and it sounds like stress mixed with an irregular menstrual cycle, WHICH MAKES YOU C-RAZY! so I don't think her mood will last very long man, her work is most of the problems - because that mixed with an abnormal period, which makes her crazy PMS even without the work, is just insane!

also, girls/guys tend to want some alone time, thats just normal, that should take a week at most, they usually call sometimes/text during that timeframe

btw I live in AZ, we should go on a stealth mission sometime buddy! it'll be fun!

Answer 2

Seriously? what should you do next? go take a **** on her doorstep ring the doorbell when she comes to the door you push her face in it and then boot her in the ***. and btw when girls say they need "alone time" or "space" it means "i've found some new d**k you should begin shopping for a new snootch"

Answer 3

Just do what she says:

give

her

some

space

Let her get in contact with you, and if yos tart tlking nicely again great - if she continues being really moody and bitchy then she REALLY isn't worth the trouble, and msot importantly - YOU.

And as for her saying she isn't seeing someone or haev a bf - that's probably true because if shedid she sounds like thekind of person that would rub it in??

On the other hand - don't forget there could be stress at home or in her family that's making her unsure. Leave her alone for a while but if shetexts yuo ask how she is etc. but if not wait a month or two then try again - she seems confused but tbh she probably isn't worth it. I knowshe doesn't sound worth it.

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Answer 4

i am a girl and i think your girlfriend is confused about what she really feels for you.my advise is just stay away from her for  while and don't entertain her calls or text for a few days.i believe if she is already certain of what she feels then she will come after you and will really make things clear with you.

Answer 5

sounds to me like you did everything you could

your ex girlfriend sounds just like my ex girlfriend

but please don't do what i did, because she will just continue ruining your life

don't show her that you care so much and your a pushover, do what she says give her some space, no texting, no calling no contact, act like its over, and see what happens, you did everything you could so, you just gotta wait

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but I'm thinking it's another guy. She may be working 7 days a week, but who said she wasn't seeing a guy WHILE she's at work? I dunno. Just a theory.

I think you should move on. Sounds like she just stopped being into you, and she broke up with you all of a sudden. That happened with my boyfriend. Things were going great. We hadn't fought for a while. Then, all of a sudden, he broke up with me. Just out of the blue.

He asked me back and I told him No.

Sometimes you just got to move on. It's hard at first, but that's something.

Answer 7

Why are you so much worried?

Wait for some time and see what happens?

Time is the solution. As a man, why are you showing such sentiments? When a woman is showing her back, you must reciprocate this fast.

OK. do one thing, for the sake of a unfaithful woman, just find a hill and jump, there ends all of your worries. What man. behave like a man. The sky has not fallen. All of us are playing the game of life. Life is short. Just forget her and find another g/f, then you will forget your ex in no time.

Never have infatuation on such silly things. Sky has not fallen on you.

Answer 8

This response could be quite long, but honestly, honey, this sounds like a very immature girl who is quite likely juggling you and others at the same time. When she is cold to you, she is hot with others, and when she is cold with others, she is hot with you.  She may well have a Borderline Personalty Disorder as well -- which is something to be quite fearful of.  Finally, it's difficult to know what role you play in being a bit smothering, as we are only hearing your side of the story, but the outcome is the same -- she wants space and you need to give it to her. She doesn't know how to make use of that space, so you need to help her by not falling into the black hole of calling, texting and obsessing over every communication, during this process. YOU take the high road, and take the break,and don't let her sucker you into reestablishing communication on a whim.   You may find that absence makes the heart grow fonder -- on both sides.

Remember -- quality time is better than quantity time.

Answer 9

Get another girl dude.

Answer 10

get her back and use some psychological judo with methods and techniques that work their magic

Answer 11

DUDE, you made a lot of errors......a ton of errors. Females set a million traps and test you every chance they have. Here is how you defend your territory and counter them!

Don't call her....EVER....don't text her....EVER...and I don't care what she says. Grow a freaking set of testicles (balls). She controls you and you allow it....don't drop everything for a female....PURPOSELY MAKE PLANS to do things with your guy friends....or even lie and say you are going out with whatever or doing whatever.....just NOT to hangout with her (now I know you are wondering why would I say don't hangout with her). You want to make her think....hmmmm is he seeing another girl? What is he doing? You want her to be worrying and thinking what is this guy doing. When she texts you....don't text her back until the following day.....always busy. Don't go over to her house every day of the week...MAYBE once a week...if that. You have to make a girl chase you....you can't be a wuss. When a girl senses you are a wuss and not a challenge...relationships end. At first hanging out all the time is great for her and you...after a little...couple months...it's not NEW anymore...

PS: When you talk on the phone (always make her call you...and don't text or wait for her calls)...always be the one to end the conversation...don't allow it to drag on. You are an alpha male...who has things to do...you can't sit on the phone with her all night....SERIOUSLY....

Answer 12

get back at that ***** by getting another girl

Answer 13

I don't know what to tell you except move on.  She sounds like a ******.  Find someone who will appreciate you.  

Answer 14

She's crazy! Bipolar, psycho, emotional issues, too fragile  and she needs to grow up. She is just messing with your head, because she WANTS to.

Dumb her, ignore her texts and calls. You don't need that kind of stress!

Tell yourself over and over again...you deserve not to be confused!

Answer 15

Maybe she wasnt really into that being attached thing, give her time ad she may come to her senses, however to me she sounds horrible, and Im pretty sure you can find a gf that isnt insane...good luck!