Please no critisism we are not perfect!?

Question

On July 24th I had PROCTECTED s*x with my friend then shortly after we were done doing our business we decided to go for round two. In the middle of round two the condom slipped off and he noticed, so he pulled out and like right after that ejaculated on my leg (His *** did not come in contact with my v****a). So just to be safe because me being the worrier I am I took at test on July 31 approximately one week after the protected s*x I have with my friend and it showed negative. Well the story does get deeper, and this is the main part of my story. I have a boyfriend we have been together 7 years and 8 months and we have a beautiful boy who will be 4 in October. So my boyfriend and I had UNPROTECED s*x anywhere from July 31 to beginning of August till August 10th, we haven’t had s*x since these days from the date it is today Aug. 29 because I have a new full time job (what I went to college for) and it keeps me busy. My b***s began hurting really badly

around the 13th or 14th of Aug. and I just thought it was because I usually start around this time well I didn’t start by the 18th of Aug. so I took a home pregnancy test, it showed positive shortly after peeing on the stick. I have been worried ever since I seen them two lines. It’s not that I don’t want to be pregnant again it’s just I want to be pregnant by my current boyfriend that I will be with for the rest of my life! So I went to the doctor to get blood taken to see how far I am by measuring the HCG levels and that test result came back Aug. 21 saying I was 2-3 weeks pregnant according to the HCG levels. I told my doctor my situation with the friend thing to try and get reassured and she said according to what I said it is my boyfriend’s especially since we didn’t use condoms. I haven’t been on birth control for about 5-6 months now either. It took my boyfriend and I 6 months to a year of unprotected s*x to get pregnant with our

son we have now but we didn’t plan him. Now this time it has taken my boyfriend and I oh, since we had our son of unprotected s*x and that’s almost 4 years now. I thought my boyfriends sperm was just slow moving and wasn’t capable of getting me pregnant anymore but the doc said he is capable evidentially. So what I am asking is if you were me, given all the info I just gave you, what would you think and if you think my boyfriend is the dad? Please help me out here I’m tired of worrying myself sick, I guess why I think that other guy is a possibility is, because of pre-*** when the condom slipped off but I mean it was very UNLIKELY that there was any and yea you get me...help me out in what you think? And what is my conception date. thanks again for your time that you took to read this. I know cheating on my boyfriend was wrong but I had fount out he did it to me and we all do stupid things and mistakes when we are mad. so don't judge me for that

no one is perfect!

Answer 1

I would think that the baby would be you boyfriends and not the other guys...  

Answer 2

Why even bother worrying now there is no way to know for sure until you have a paternity test done. there is no point in getting worked up about it and stressing you and the baby. just be honest with the friend and the boyfriend and figure it out when you can have a paternity test. good luck and sorry to hear about this S****y situation your in

Answer 3

I think there is pretty much a 97% chance that it is your boyfriend who is the father

Answer 4

everyone makes mistakes. the people who have called you a w***e and such shouldn't have wasted their time answering you.

yes you will need a paternity test when the baby is born.  so if you haven't told your boyfriend, you probably should now. but its entirely up to you.

as far as conception date...were your periods regular before getting pregnant? if so counting from the first day of your last period the day you ovulate typically falls around day 14 or so. or whatever day is the midpoint of your cycle. if you typically run 30 days between first day to firs day then the midpoint is day 15.

best of luck to you, your boyfriend and your baby

Answer 5

Oh God, what a w***e. Both of you are cheating on each other? What great role models for your child!  

Answer 6

Go with what the Dr. said. Your current bf is the 4 yrs old Dad so he can have kids.  There is no rhyme or reason for conception. People conceive when they least expect it, others conceive the day they plan too...

Given the situation it sounds as if perhaps you are feeling a bit guilty given the dalliancee with the friend. You said you wanted to be with bf for life... you feel guilty and are "blaming" orcontemplatingg confessing because you could be "caught"

I don't think the Dr. would lie/say the HCG date conception to make you feel better etc. It is what it is. Dr.'s have to deliver different news often if she had to she would.

While you state no one is perfect ....Learn from this experience and vow to be the best Mom and GF you can from now on..

Best of luck

Hate the new spell check throwing me off. That is contemplating and Dr delivers difficult news often so she would not lie to make you feel better...sigh..sorry for awkwardness

Answer 7

UR BOTH WHORES!!! KEEP IT IN  UR PANTS!!

Answer 8

No one is perfect, well that is true, but you have a family.  Not perfect is kissing your friend while you have a boyfriend (and not when you have a child).  Just because your boyfriend cheated on you and you cheated on him does not make the whole situation okay.  Both of you are sick if you think it is.  How immoral.  yes we all do stupid things and mistakes when we are mad, but thats like getting so mad you throw the vase across the room, or you lock your boyfriend out of the house, sleeping with your friend is just irresponsible and so very wrong it is not a mistake you dont accidently have s*x.  Your poor child has you two for parents?  What kind of morals and self respect are you going to teach him?   You need to get a paternity test when the baby is born.  

Answer 9

were you using your friend to get pregnant? you sound like you have busy lifestyle with the men you have in your life so the best real sure way to tell is to take a paternity test when the child is born and that will probably be the best way to ease your mind, so right now don't worry about something you cant change and wait it out.

good luck

Answer 10

So, you cheated on your partner, to get back at him for cheating on you? Made you feel better, did it? Sounds like a lovely relationship, particularly as you already have a child.

Its your boyfriends, i would say, but it may not be. You'll just have to wait and see - hopefully your friend and your boyfriend aren't completely different races, for your sake . . .

Answer 11

your boyfriend is the DADDY, you might want to him what happened with your friend. it might haunt you later.  That wouldn't be cool

Annie G

Answer 12

LULZ.

Answer 13

for the time it would take for you to actually start showing signs of pregnancy, and what you say about having s*x with your boyfriend... Well the times don't match up. I'd say it might be the other guy's.  

Did you and your boyfriend talk about how y'all felt about each other cheating on each other... cause that's serious stuff.