Please offer me some advice...?

Question

I am 20, and I broke up with my first love about 3 years ago (he cheated on me with my sisters friend...and lied about it...it hurt me so bad) and I thought I was over him. I started dating another guy about a year and a half ago, and I am so happy with him and so in love. But for some reason lately I keep thinking about my ex. He had tried to talk to me, and tried to be friends with me but I told him absolutely not. He's apologized to me numerous times but I just wanted to forget about him.

I just don't know why I can't. I haven't told anyone and I just would like some advice on what to do here. It's killing me I can't forget him, even though I have a man who is so great to me.

Answer 1

well first off i am happy for you and i wish i had advice i just don't....sorry

Answer 2

I have a man who's great, too, but I sometimes think about my ex in the same way.  All I can tell you is, you might never forget him, but don't ever stop appreciating how wonderful your man is who you have now, and never let yourself think that it would be a good idea to let your cheating ex back into your life!  You were smart to tell him it's over and that you won't even be friends with him.  Cheating doesn't deserve any second chances.  It's cruel.

Answer 3

This is in the wrong section, but darling you need to force yourself to stop.

Its natural for you to want to make things right with your ex, and its natural not to forget him. He was your first love. No one forgets their first love.

However, he hurt you. Don't forget that. And if he hurt you once, he can do it again, no matter how much he says he won't and that he's sorry. You have a wonderful man now who loves you and adores you and hasn't hurt you.

Be a smart woman and stick with your current man. He's the one who treats you with respect.

Answer 4

I think it's just one of those things that will lessen with time, although he will probably always hold a certain place in your heart. (Despite his betrayal.) Your "first love" can really haunt you for a long, long time. There's really nothing you can do but continue to distance yourself from him. If you try to meet up with him to "get closure" you may fall even more victim to those old feelings from the past. Just try your best to let him go, and keep working on making your new relationship stronger.