I have been in a 2 in a half year relationship with someone I want to spend the rest of my life with...I didn't think our relationship would turn out to be this way....
How do I start.... last year in spring, we ended up kicked out from a roommate because I'm guessing she just didn't want us there anymore. We had nowhere else to go, and had to end up living in the car almost throughout the entire summer. I told him that I would be there for him no matter what we go through. If I was really that shallow and materialistic I would want to be with someone that has money, or things I want. But I don't.
Now, we have a place of our own, and we've lived there for a year. I have tried to hold on to the jobs I had, the first one didn't work out over "retaliation", the second I had to leave because now, I am 5 months pregnant, and they kept giving me a hard time over me having to try and maintain morning sickness when its not possible especially being surrounded by food.
Now I'm not working, and my boyfriend has a problem with it. I try to have a job, but I'm not having the best of luck, because it's too late for me to work. I won't qualify for maternity leave, and I'll lose my job. At first having this baby would be the greatest thing, but now I'm not too sure. I had an abortion before for a bad reason, and that was to save my relationship, but that didn't work.
Now I'm depressed, stressed, pregnant. and suffering through some pain. All I can think about is how I may become a "baby's mama"... He has been complaining a lot about how he pays for everything, and I try to do what I can. (receiving money from my family for financial assistance). But it's not enough. I do house work (cook, clean, do laundry, and run errands for him). But it's not enough. Our Apt we pay 595 a month, two utility bills, and he gets paid 1600 a month.
Of course whatever else he has to pay for is his business, I just choose to get involved. He doesn't show me love anymore, doesn't give me any physical or mental attention, and he told me that he doesn't want to marry, after a year ago proposing to me. He insults me on my pregnancy, doesn't show me any respect, and always tries to leave the house on the weekend to see his friends and not make time for me.
Now he's been having conversations with me about the "would if it doesn't work out" ugh. I never thought about that. I'm always optimistic, I always think of the bright side of things. He has been talking to me about separation... It frightens me. He already has a baby's mama, and owes a lot on child support, and credit debt. I have nothing to do with that. But because I'm not working to him I'm useless and a waste of time.....
How should I really feel about someone I love so much, change and decide to become this person. because in the past He was never like this. He has done wrong to me before and I forgave him for it. But because of MONEY, it's causing our relationship to turn into this....
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