Please please help here is the story?

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i posted a ? earlier but here is the entire story ....my husband and i are married for 8 years and for all of those years he has been faith full i have m.s. and for the last 6 months had been deathly ill on top of that my husbands father betray him in a horrible way and his daughter in december after a long bad custody ordeal notified him she wanted to be addopted by her step father ....and boom 2 affairs one right after the other one lasted 2 or 3 weeks the other lasted 2 months till i caught him ......he never once worried about the other woman and has showed emence remorse but saids he does not know why he never wanted s*x he was just loking for some one to talk to he said it felt like a daze he said he was always happy to come home but he never thought what if i found out or that it would hurt me or any consequences....he would leave early in the morning and see her befor work call her when i was in bed sick and so on and so on ....the other affair that i just found out about was with a neighbour friend he knew her as i did for years he said she said he was cute and boom it took off it lasted about 3 weeks and they never actully had s*x but did every thing else again he said he rembered the other 2 woman but the friend he blocked out and even when telling me i noticed it was like a piece at a time he meet the 2 woman on the computer and if he saids that he felt he was doing nothing wrong why delete history why lie when i asked why all the hidding that is a action that is to prevent some one for getting caught oh yahhh and right befor the affair with my frind w hd a boating accident and was in the water for 15 minutes we thought we where going to die this affair happended weeks after he was sexually abused as a child his mother is a bad alcholic he watched and caught his mother cheating on his father for years his family is not a suppotive family at all he hasnt spokken to his parents in over a year as they betrayed him he never deals with any pain ....he was born addicted to alchol and has always had low self esteem and thought he was a loser ....during periodsin his life i noticed no sleep hardley hungry wanders in the night walking driving exc ....very cold very hard ......but h had soo much energy he built a shed painte a house worked full time and laid sod in a month while theses affairs where going on ...i think he is bi polar the dr gave us papers to fill out ...but please help me why the hidding it and deleting history if he didnt think that it was wrong and why and how could his mind block out the othere please help me im at the end of my rope

Answer 1

this is a sad story but here's my advice...

he probably did all this BECAUSE he's bipolar, when your bipolar, some times you believe that there's nothing wrong with what you're doing, and he's probably trying to trick himself into believing that nothing happened. It's a mind control thing to yourself, he is probably tired of all the c**p that has happened. He is trying to forgive himself by pretending nothing happened.He has a much different type of mind because he's probably bipolar. He thinks much differently than people without the disease. My advice: wait until the Dr. says whether he is or not, if he is, than be supportive, tell him that he needs to get on medicine. If he's not than you should tell him how you feel about all of this. Tell him you feel bad about what has happened, but he's a grown man and he is responsible for what he does. tell him you love him but things have to change. Maybe try to get him into a greater trust, like get into marital counseling. But if you're tired of doing all this, then maybe you should seperate...

hope i helped

Answer 2

I'm sorry, stop making excuses for your husbands infidelity, that is exactly why he keeps having affairs. You are the one I sympathize with. You have MS and your husband is to d**n selfish to stop bringing just as much emotional pain to you, as the physical pain you experience. I would be at the end of my rope also. I'm not telling you to do this (because I don't know the whole story), but I would leave him in the wind. You can so bad by yourself! Good luck with what ever you choose to do.

Answer 3

Sounds like your husband is going through the male menopause. If he doesn't know why he's being unfaithful, how can you?

If both of you still love each other and want to keep your marriage, first (1) pray and (2) see a counselor for help.

Answer 4

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