Please read! What can i do about my 6 year old being bullied?

Question

My daughter has ben subjected to a torrent of bullying by a boy in her class it has gone on for about two years but is now starting to get more and more physical. I have been to her teachers, head teacher etc and followed all their advice and they said they were keeping an eye on it, i have spoken to his grand parents about it, they have explained that he has behavioral problems but are quite flippent about what he does. he has even started hitting her in front of me, today at a birthday party he punched her in the face! i have contacted the police but they say there is not much they can do as they are so young. So what do i do???? I don't want to up root her and move her away from her friends and i dont want to stop her from going to social things just because of him, i'm at my wits end!!!! :(

Answer 1

The only thing I think you can do is keep your child away from him. Change classes in school so he never sees her.

Answer 2

You should not invite the kid to any of your parties and talk to the other parents about it. If this does not work, then sue the school and the grandparents. Call DCF or child protective services.

Answer 3

try putting her in a different class. to keep him away from her. and if it happens after school tell the office your getting her before school actuality ends. and if it comes down to it sue the school or grandparents, if she actually has bruises

Answer 4

My son was physically bullied at school from 4. The bully was a child with special needs, behavioural problems and possibly not the best family circle. The school were informed and were also "monitoring the situation" but my son was still getting hit.

Hubby's answer was for my son to defend himself but as my boy's a little shorty and the other kid is massive I thought that this was a little unfair!

I actually started to make a point of speaking to the boy, quite pleasantly, each morning and afternoon, just saying "hello ****, how was your day today" or some other nonsense. The boy responded to the attention positively and now makes the effort to speak to me first when he sees me. My son hasn't had any more problems.

Coincidence or just a child looking for a bit of attention that they might not be getting at home?

I would do your best to try and resolve this without moving class/school otherwise you are teaching your daughter to run away from problems.

Does your daughter have any friends with older siblings in the school who could just "keep an eye" on her for a week or so at school?

Answer 5

Did you ever see the hand that rocks the cradle, the little girl is being bullied and the nanny(who is evil but loves the kid) took the bully aside one day on the playground and whispered in an assertive tone that if he came near her daughter again she would kill him and his whole family, tough words for such a young kid, but I bet he never went near the little girl again!

Answer 6

nothing

Answer 7

Have you thought about contacting his parents? to let them know about the situation?

Maybe they'll be able to speak to him and he'll slowly realise that what he is doing is wrong and not acceptable. It could also give allow his parents to understand that their son needs help with these issues.  

Answer 8

I'm so sorry to hear that, I really don't have any advice to give you right now. It must be so upsetting but all I can say is try your best to find out what to do. I also feel so sorry for your daughter, what you should do is be with her all the time and if he tries to hit her again, go in front of his face, stop him from attacking her and tell him not to do it! I'm sure thats the best thing to do since no one else can do anything about it! I'm so sorry I could'nt really help you out so please forgive me and try your best to face this problem like I said but I really feel sorry for your daughter. She must be so bright to stand up to this, honestly, I think you should block his attacks, hold his arms and move him somewhere else telling him not to do it and if your daughter has any friend, then she or you should tell them to back your daughter up. As this is a childs problem and just like adults are taken care of by their bad deeds by other adults, children can take care of other childrens bad deeds. Even though their just children, girls are much more mature than boys and they won't just get into silly fights! I hope your problem is solved because I certainly would'nt want that! I wish your daughter a good future to go with!

Additional: I understand that the bully is disabled in some sense thats why I won't say anything bad about him, or otherwise, I would've told you to have a little talk with him

Answer 9

Try talking to the little boy, explain nicely that it's not nice to hit anyone, especially girls, and come down to his level. and explain to your daughter, that he has problems so they both understand whats going on.

Answer 10

well, it wasnt in school, so he cant be suspended or punished there, unfortunetly.

maybe you should talk to his parents/guardians again and tell them to consider grounding him, getting him some counciling. im sure any normal parent would be pissed if their kid punched someone else is the face, and especially since its a boy & boys shouldnt physically hurt girls..nobody should hurt anyone!!

if anything happens in school, im sure the school should get him in trouble, etc.

and the age you can be arrested is 7 years old!! so if it keeps going on, once hes 7 if he does anything bad/illegal he can actually be arrested!!

Answer 11

firstly,it may sound harsh,but there's very little you can do....

bring it to the attention of the school board as the teachers arnt doing anyway enough to help...

secondly see the parents,voice your concerns STRONGLY...

and thirdly,well i cant really say on here...but its his parents that need to be ''sorted out''..

Answer 12

the little b****** needs sorting out. Take matters into your own hands. Call childline too because they help out good.

Answer 13

Change schools wtf thats unherd of here in Seattle the teachers would have a parent conference not just tell u o we will keep an eye on it  

Answer 14

If you want it to end I would put her in a diffrent school. Is there another school around you she can go to. So she can still see her friends on the weekends?

Answer 15

go to see the parents of this boy and tell them it has to stop they are responsible for his actions if they cant control him they should take him out of school i had the same problem with my 6 year old but she has a 9 year old sister and it got sorted lol

Answer 16

This is probably not the best answer and one you may not agree with but you have gone to the teachers and grandparents and have not gotten any help (typical, I might add) It has been 2 years and he is not going to stop because he knows he gets away with it. Have  your daughter ( the next time he starts ) warn him to stop and if he won't -she has to get the courage to hit him as hard as she can in the nose.

He will be so shocked she hit him that he will find someone else to prey on. If she fights back - bullies usually back off and

someone should tell him boys DO NOT hit girls.  

Answer 17

It's part of being a kid and there isn't much that you can do about it. Obviously your daughter is an easy target for some reason. Does she dress oddly or look a lot differently than the other kids? Is HER behavior in school different than at home, like does she egg him on? I've seen that happen before. Kids that are completely obnoxious and annoying and won't take hints from other kids to leave them alone so the other kids resort to hitting to get the person to go away.

When you saw your daughter getting bullied, what did you do?? At daycare last summer, there was a girl there the same age as my daughter that was always after her trying to bring her down. She said many rude things to my daughter, a few times in front of me. So instead of walking away and complaining about it, I told that kid what she was saying was untrue, completely rude and that she shouldn't speak if she's not going to say nice things. That pretty much ended it.

You can't fight all your daughter's battles  but you still need to stand up for her.

Answer 18

Document the abuse.   Start with the current.    Document your attempts to stop the abuse (dates, times, details of the discussions with the teacher).     This will come in handy.  

First, talk to the teacher.    Tell her of your concerns.     Ask her to keep an eye on the situation.    

Ask your daughter on a daily basis if she has been bullied.   Keep this in your diary as well.     If she was bullied, send a note (keep a copy) to the teacher or go to the school and talk to the teacher about the most recent problem.    

If this does not work, go to the school counselor.   Discuss your concerns with the school counselor and ask for suggestions in keeping your daughter safe.    Suggest that she go out at recess to monitor the situation.   Record these conversations in your bully diary.  

If this does not work go to the school principal  with your diary and stress to her that you have tried to go through the proper channels to make sure that your daughter is not bullied, but it is not working.    Demand that your daughter or the bully be moved to another classroom.     Make your request in writing--it should be respectful but  to the point.  

If this does not work, ask to be put on the agenda of the next school board meeting.    Do this in writing.   Be prepared to address the school board at its next meeting to discuss the bullying problems at the school and your frustration in not getting help to resolve the issue.  

You could also, as a last resort, hire an attorney to file suit against the school for failing to protect your daughter.    You could contact the local newspaper to let them know of your problems in getting the bullying issues resolved.  

If you have the time and are able, you might volunteer in your daughter's classroom, for lunchroom duty, on field trips so that you can monitor the situation.  

You could also teach your daughter to fight back.     If he's a lot bigger than her, tell her to stomp on his foot really hard and yell at him to leave her alone.    This will draw attention to the situation.   Or tell her to take her fist and hit him as hard as she can in the nose.    I generally don't condone or encourage violence, but sometimes a bully needs to know that you'll stand up for yourself and sometimes that's all it takes.    

His grandparents are a lost cause.    If he's living with them, they probably feel really badly about not having his parents around so they don't think he can do any wrong.    

Hang in there!   It will get better.   Be persistent.      

Answer 19

Everytime that kid punches her slaps her or calls her names.  Grab him by the scruff and throw him away from her.  It's okay to be mean to such a horrible kid.  I feel really sorry for you and i wish that kid was dead! (The bully that is) You have to take this to the extreme. IF he won't stop you tell the teacher's to make him stop or you'll make him stop yourself.  Sorry there itsn't much you can do!  

Answer 20

you take this matter further with the school.  keep a diary of all events and take it to the head.  Tell her/him that you have tried to co-operate with the schools way of handling this but dont feel its working in your childs best interest, if necessary you will be prepared to take it to the chair of govenors if the head still wont take it seriously.  remind them that they have a duty of care for your child whilst at school and you want to see a copy of the antibullying policy cos its failing your child so far.  Tell them that you want to work this out reasonably but swiftly as its gone on for too long now.

They will basically offer you a meeting with the other parents, or to move your child.  I would stand firm that your child has been disrupted and intimidated enough and they should find a discreet way of moving the other child to another classroom.

The very highest place you can take this if they dont listen is to the LEA (local education authority) but that is extreme at this age.

You also wish to make sure that they are not placed in the same class again next term and all supervision staff in playgrounds are aware of the issue too.

Finally, i made a point of offering my help within the classroom (reading, gluing and sticking etc) to keep my eye on such situations and found this worked brilliantly!!

Answer 21

Pray for God to deal with him.

Answer 22

I know it will be hard on her but it's safe then sorry: SWITCH CLASSES.

I cannot believe a 6 year old boy, that young would pick on an inasant 6 year old girl.  

Answer 23

talk to the principal

Answer 24

tell her to ignore him, and speak to him yourself, i have been bullied at a young age too and this is what my parents told me to do and it worked

Answer 25

go back to the head teacher and tell him/her that something more needs to be done about it, and if it continues and the school do not step in then report the school to the governing body. bullying is taken very seriously these days no matter how old they are.

and no you shouldn't change your daughters school why should your daughter have to go through all the trauma of a move away from her friends because of him if anything the bully she be made to move!  

Answer 26

tell a teacher. get him expelled. transfer your kid to a different school. go to school with him. talk to the princible. talk to that kid that bullies him.

Answer 27

take your little girl to a karate dojo. she can learn self defense which in time will become instinct or refex. no one will be hitting her in the face if she doesn't allow it.  

Answer 28

Your number one priority is to protect your daughter.

You are not describing bullying.  You are describing assault.

Do not, under and circumstances, send your child back to school with him.  Pull her out of school, change schools or homeschool her.

The police are wrong about doing nothing.  You must file a complaint against this boy - for the sake of other kids.  

Take care of your child.

ALl the best.

Answer 29

Simple.

Pay an older kid to kick his ***.

He'll learn that way.

Eye for an eye

Answer 30

Your child doesn't need help, the bully does.

Answer 31

can you not get your husband to have a word with him, get your husband to ask him if he would like someone treating him the same way he is doing to your daughter,just because he has behaviour problems this doesn,t mean he should be allowed to get away with bullying.