Please read.... do I act on this or not?

Question

I have a best guy friend, we are both 18. He knows I like him, (im in love with the guy) and so things were always a little akward. But in the past few months we've really got on. we tease constantly, playfight, hug etc.

The last two times we slept at a friends house together, we've been tipsy. Both occasions, as soon as the lights have gone out, he's rolled over to face me and waited for a reaction- as soon as I moved to face him, he's grabbed my hand and held it all night and slept with our faces next to each other.

Then tonight on msn, at 3am he came online saying he'd been out drinking, he said he was pretty drunk, but he could still type pretty normally. He was like, "oh youre here! that makes me happy!"

Then as we were saying goodbye, he came out with "wish u wer here, its always so much better sleep when ur here but hey ho" and so I said aww same to you too, then he said "sleep well, make sure u txt me 2mz!!!"

What does all this mean?? Am I supposed to act on this, or forget he said it?

Answer 1

You know, i actually have the same problem. I really wish things were as promising as they sound with you two, because i'm crazy about this guy and i know for a fact that he's g*y...and we playfight and whatnot, but i told him how i feel and he said he didn't like me that way. i was shattered for a few days (weeks) ((okay, i'm still upset about it, but not as much as i was for the first month.)) but we're still the best of friends and he still has no problem sleeping in the same bed...but he has never held my hand or anything remotely signalling that he wanted a relationship. I would suggest that you go for it and let him know. If he's a real friend (and it sounds like he is by the way you describe him) he'll accept your feelings, and if he feels the same way...who knows, this could be the start of a whole new relationship. I wish you the best of luck and i really hope things work out. The world could use a little more love.

Answer 2

You need to sit down with him and talk this through. He may just feel close to you like a best friend/sister, you need to be prepared for this and not let it spoil a good friendship if this is the case.

It may be he feels the same as you and is waiiting for some reaction from you so that he knows you feel the same way but does not want to spoil the friendship.

Either way you need to talk this through so that you both know where you stand. You are both obviously very close so this should not be a problem.

Answer 3

I would say you have to act on it get him on  his own and ask him were you stand with him that way you know for sure were you stand and what he wants from you! Good luck! Xx

Answer 4

You're not ready for a relationshipe which is called "love". s*x is not similar to love, I think you're confused these two. He doesn't love you, he just takes advantage from you. U must think carefully about maintaining this relationship. Just take some times off, you need to examine your emotions.

Answer 5

I don’t know what zibeline’s on about. You haven’t mentioned s*x and from the post when you sleep together it is just that- you hold hands and go to sleep. Something quite touching in today’s free for all society.

This guy feels just the same as you. He cares about you and probably loves you. (I say probably because strong affection can often be mistaken for love- that’s not his fault neither is it a ruse.)

There can be no absolute certainties where feelings are concerned. But that is what love is about. Trust. I’d suggest, if he doesn’t say anything the next time you sleep at a friend’s and hold hands before going to sleep, tell him how you feel. Say something like ‘you know, I really care about you.’ Get the conversation started and I think you’ll find you he’ll respond and you’ll suddenly find yourself with a partner.

Good luck. (Though it sounds like you don’t need it!)