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Question

My fiance and i are both 18 will be 19 in oct, his bday is oct 27 and mine is oct 23. I am currently 5 months pregnant with a boy. His name is going to be Dylan Ray. I am currently working at Giant food store here in shippensburg,pa as a cashier, since i'm pregnant i'm working temp/part-time making $7.40/hr working from 12-25 hours a week. My fiance on the other hand works through manpower as a landskeeper working 40 hours a week mon-fri,make's $9.00 but manpower take's out $2 an hour. We are currently living at his mother's house paying $400 a month, we still owe $1000 on our bed set,and $850 on an old credit card we are trying to pay off. I am on welfare for my medical b/c i can't afford regular, and am on wic. We are thinking about going on HUD, but we want to know everything about it before we do anything, b/c we don't want to put our baby in a bad evironment. But we do need a car first so we can get back and forth to work,right now his step-dad is taking us to work.

Answer 1

I agree with the last answer. Your other half should look for a better paying job. Government assistance can only get you so far.

Unless your pregnancy is high-risk, can you work more hours too? I’m expecting myself and I’ll be working 8 hours a day until the very end.

If you have questions about HUD visit www.HUD.gov

Answer 2

Have you ever heard of Tough Love?

Well , I'm going to give you some. You and your boyfriend are going to have to get real ; you are bring a child into the world!

If your boyfriend can't get a better paying job, then he had better get a second job and work weekends.

Right now it sounds like your 2 kids playing house....

Your living off his parents, off welfare, and any other Government programs you can think of.

That's OK , if it is just a stop gap...in the short term,

until you get on your feet. But your never going to until you have a plan. Sit down and look at your income and expenses. Right now...how much can you save? Save as much as you can before the baby arrives.

What are you going to do when the baby comes? Can you afford to stay at home with him? Can you afford child care?

Are your "in laws" able to take care of him?

You only have 4+ months to figure this out... If you put as much effort into figuring out how you are going to take care of the child as you did...thinking up a cute name..everyone will be better off.

I know I sound harsh....But I'm asking the grown up questions and I have genuine concern for all of you.

There is a United Way in your town...contact them. They can help you with the life skills your going to need to make this work.

United Way

7039 Olde Scotland Rd

Shippensburg, PA 17257

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Answer 3

have your boyfriend get away from manpower and hit the classifieds for landscaper jobs. Have him try golf courses and see if they need a worker to mow grass.

Hud is a good idea and it sounds like your doing all thats already available for you guys. Both of you should be going back to school so you guys won't struggle in the future.