Please show me the way ..... PLEASE answer my question?

Question

My house is a total mess i dont shower every day just cos i am lazy and it takes too long to shower then dry and get dressed etc i can go like a week with no shower and i hardly ever brush my teeth ...... I REALLY want to be the total opposite of that ... how can i do it how can i change things around?

Answer 1

Honey, you have a psychological problem. There's really no such thing as laziness. It's more like lack of energy, or lack of motivation. Maybe you have depression. Do you enjoy things less than you used to? Do you sleep too little or too much? Eat too little or too much? Feel little hope for the future? If so, see your family doctor. You probably don't even need a psychiatrist. Tell the doc about all the things you're not able to do. They can help you with medication.

If you think it's really laziness, then try this: make a deal with yourself to brush your teeth once a day, if only for a few seconds. Reward yourslef in some way, if only by thinking to yourself... "I really didn't want to do that, but I cared enough to make myself do it. This is good." When you find yourself saying "I don't want to," think, "Do it anyway. You will be glad you did." Don't say, "I should take a shower." Instead, say, I will now take a shower."

Answer 2

get off your lazy @$$ and do it, all that only takes an hour a day. wake up 1 hr. early and do it. nobody can do it for you, so i guess it's time to grow up a little.

Answer 3

oh dear plssssss..first stop right here right now...take control of ur life NOW...before it i stoo late..u need to work on ur mind before u work on ur body...order urslf mentally  DO IT..get up n do it ..plssssssss...and trust me u can do it ...stand up for urself and u will b able to do it..first step u hav already taken by admitting that u want to change all this n get a better person...all the very best..

Answer 4

PLEASE, PLEASE, please, please, please!!!

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Answer 5

Pray u need family and friends to help you see your way out of the depressive rut u hav gotten your self in. Pray to the lord for strength and guidance and ask him to lead you out of your mess if you believe he will do it then He will

Answer 6

Could you provide some more information...are you physically disabled, elderly or have another malady that would make such an endeavor impossible?  Are you currently employed outside of your home?

If there is no other reason than your stated "laziness", you need to make a list:  

First, a list of why you want to improve (what good things can come from leading a neat and organized life).  You need to have a meaningful (to you) reason why you're making this change; it will keep you motivated.  Put this list on your refrigerator or somewhere it won't get lost or thrown away.

Second, do what needs to be done...throw away clutter--clutter is defined as anything that serves no current purpose; throw away garbage--garbage is defined as anything that has already been used; large-scale organizization--group things together with similar functions/locations (dishes, bowls in kitchen, shampoo, toothbrush in the bathroom--get things into their appropriate area or piles by location while you are taking care of the cleaning); clean--dusting should be done first, soaking, polishing, sterilizing second, vacuuming/carpet cleaning third; small-scale organizing--where you place everything in its final location.

I suggest starting with the bathroom or a linen closet because it is usually the smallest area, quickest and easiest turnaround, and you have a visual representation of your hard work.  Also, if you need to wash a large-scale object, the bathtub or shower has the space (more than the kitchen sink), you will know that whatever you clean in the bathtub will be clean as you would have already cleaned the tub.

From there I would head to the kitchen, then the bedroom, living room, and any hallways and other spaces.  

Whenever you feel "lazy", review the list on the refrigerator.  

Create a schedule for when you will do your cleaning--30 minutes per day will be much easier in comparison to the whatever number of hours you just spent cleaning your home.  

For example:

Monday - Dust Living Room and Clean Bathroom

Tuesday - Clean Kitchen

Wednesday - Laundry and Vacuum

Thursday - Dust Bedroom, Hallways and Clean Bathroom

Friday - Clean Kitchen

Saturday - Laundry and Vacuum

Do immediate things daily (i.e. cleaning  your dishes, washing down your counters, etc.) to make this change permanent (an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of a cure).

As far as personal hygiene goes, your issues may be deeper than just a lack of desire to be clean.  Have you experienced any major changes in your life (job change, marriage, divorce, relocation, death of a member of your support system)?  It might be good to consider some counseling for yourself.  If you are affiliated with any religious organization, you should be able to seek support at no cost to you.  If not, if you are employed your place of work may be able to assist you (and pay if you have insurance).  In addition to the possible mental health issues, your poor hygiene and living conditions may be contributing factors to your fatigue or other health problems (people who are healthy, are generally eager, willing and able to do things for their health and well- being).



Once everything is physically clean, use your computer or other excuse you had to be "lazy" (e.g. television, PDA, cell phone, etc.) and use those as rewards once you have accomplished all of the things on your weekly schedule.

Change can be very difficult...I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.  Remember...inch by inch, it's a cinch, yard by yard, it's hard.

Answer 7

First, we can't just take giant leaps.  Tyr showering at least every other day, and brushing your teeth at least once a day.  If you don't brush ofter, what about mouthwash?  Also, try cleaning your house little at a time, and You'll be done in no time.  Just be persistant.  Then, when your used to showering everyother day, and brushing, increase those so you become familliar to a routine that you can stick to.  Good Luck!

Answer 8

First things first.  You sound like you really want to change, but have gotten to a point where you are overwhelmed.

My advice is you need to start to clean your house first. (shower will come after).

I know it seems too overwhelming at this point, but start small.  First, get some trash bags and throw away all the trash/fast food bags/junk mail/etc. that is laying around.  Then, start getting all your dirty dishes moved into the kitchen.  

Then get all your dirty laundry centralised.  

Then go room by room.  Start in your living room and dust starting at the top, and work your way down, clean glass, then vaccum.  

Then move to the kitchen.  Get you dishwasher loaded (or wash dishes if you dont have one), clean the counters, take the trash out, mop the floors.

Repeat room by room.

Even if you start slow and take a half a day to do a few rooms a day, it will be an improvement.  When you are all done you will want to shower.  Trust me.  

If your house is a mess you dont get that good feeling from showering because you are all clean, but nothing around you is.  

You need to brush your teeth every day and shower eveyr day.  Then you can feel less depressed and better all around.

Answer 9

First of all, you have to decide how badly you want to change.

You should shower daily or you might get sick.  And people wont want to be around you because you will stink.  

If you really want to change sit down and work out ways to get the things done that need doing.  Then, don't think about doing them, just do them, and cross them of your list.  If it is really difficult you  might want to get professional advice from a phychologist or professional cleaners - but the cleaners can be expensive.

So how badly do you want to change?