Please tell me MOMS and be honest ?

Question

we know this lady who's baby was not growing and at 2 mo looked like a stick...he never gained more than a few ounces since birth..and when I recently saw him I could tell something was wrong..

he just got rushed to the medical center and has something wrong with him..not sure but all his blood tests were wacked..he may have pku which was not detected.

But how do you not know or challenge a doc when your kid is sickly looking ?

its not her 1st child..am i being harsh ?

Answer 1

Sometimes it just takes awhile for Dr's to really get concerned because some babies are smaller and some problems can't be found right away.  My cousins baby was the same weight for 3 months after birth and the Dr kept saying that all the tests were normal then all of a sudden he said "failure to thrive" but now her son is a normal weight and height for a 3 year old but he has speech problems and is obviously special needs but again the Dr didn't really catch things at first because it can take awhile to really get all the evidence they need to determine the problem. Like with Autism where they need to wait until they are 3 years old to really see all the signs.

Answer 2

Parents often know the truth...but don't want to believe that something really is wrong.  It is hard to understand until you see it happen to someone you know.  It's devastating to come to the true realization that your child has a problem.

Answer 3

I understand how you could ask that- how can you not know your child is sick? It's denial. I knew my best friend's daughter had ADD from about the time she was 3 or 4, but she refused to acknowledge any problems. It took years but she finally got her counseling and medication and now she's a totally different child behavior-wise.

Me, I have no problem telling the dr "I think you're wrong, I want tests done," because my dad was a nurse for 22 years so I grew up in a medically inclined household.

If she did this with the previous child(ren) then it's just her mentality and though I disagree with it there's not much to be done about that. If this is the first time, then it's denial.

Answer 4

Do you know for sure that the parents never challenged the doc or tried to find out what was wrong?

Answer 5

she may have been in denial and not wanting anything to be wrong....but me as a mother if something did not look right i would be at the doc off in a flash...i dont think your being harsh at all...just concerned for this poor baby...i hope everything turns out ok...keep us posted

Answer 6

wow umm is that a cas eof neglect that poor baby well if its not then i would deff go to another doc bcuz that is deff not normal i would get a second third fourth n so on opinionand no ur not being harsh its jus its very sad to see a baby that has a chance to be healthy unlike the lil kids that cant be in third world countries wow i deff got to know more about this e-mail me [e-mail]

Answer 7

My mom wouldnt care. She'd challenged the doctor anyway. She's  very stubborn. IF YOU KNOW SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH THE CHILD SPEAK UP!!!! It is for the kids own good. If you knew somethng about the baby, and he dies or something, you could be n trouble. Really say something. Talk to a CPS (child protective service) agent, and maybe he'll investeget the home or something. YOur not being harsh at all  I think. Ok good luck. Hope the baby boy is okay.

Answer 8

I think you're being overobsessed with someone else's child, not because of the situation but because you've asked the same question 20 different times 20 different ways tonight and at this point we all want you to go away.  Asking the question once is plenty and I hope you've gotten some good answers but enough is enough.