Please tell me how to fix my broken heart I lost my 18 year old daughter to a car accident?

Question

My daughter was killed in a car accident in june 2007 I still dont know why she had to die. She was a member in the u s army national gaurd, and i still dont have an exact reason why she was in the road on that foggy N.C. morning. With all the forrensics that they did in N.C. still they say her death was undetermined, but my heart is still broken, HOW do I FIX IT?

Answer 1

go see a counselor.

Answer 2

Oh wow that is sad, and not having an answer makes it harder for you.

I'd be devastated if it where my daughter, my only child.

Unfortunately time is the only way your heart will heal.

In the first year or so you will catch yourself going to talk to her, and this is normal, especially at special times like her birthday, fathers day and Christmas etc, you will feel a little sad, maybe even shed a tear, allow yourself this time, and think about the good times you had together.

Warm gentle caring hugs, and may the New Year be kinder to you and your family.

Answer 3

Don't just mourn their passing. Celebrate their life, focus on the time you shared, the things you did together as well as mourning their death.

Know that they are Home with God and are now in a vibration of peace and unconditional love.

They are not gone, they are with you forever.

Answer 4

You don't fix the hurt when you lose a child.  Faith in Christ, believing there is life after death is the promise to claim when you hurt so bad.  But you can't fix your heart.

Answer 5

When God brings you to it he will bring you through it.  You have a broken heart.  There is more room in a broken heart because it is larger now.  I lost my husband 30 years ago to violence.  I will love him forever, never forget him, talk to him in my evening prayers every night, think of him often.  Eventually a song, a certain scent, a place will bring you a memory that you will accept with a smile.  You have a long journey.  You are entitled to be sad.  Turn every sad thought into a prayer instead for your daughter and if she doesn't need it there are planty of people who do and have no one to pray for them.  God Bless Your Heart and thank him for the priviledge of 18 years of memories.

Answer 6

My sincerest Sympathy  :-(

Answer 7

1. Let any emotions out.

2. Have support from others.

3. Pray To GOD (She's With GOD Now)

4. Listen to sad music. Burn Incense. Light a Candle

5. Drink alcohole Don't over do it!

6. Remember the Good Times!

Answer 8

Talk to your daughter EVERY day.

My mother died 6 years ago and I still talk to her every day, and say a prayer too. I know that she is gone but I am still able to say the things that I was unable to say when she was alive. It does ease the loss a little bit everyday when I am with her if only in my mind.

Your loss is Gods gain. There is no real way to bring her back, but being able to have a chat with your daughter, even if one sided might help ease your pain,

If you look up in the sky and see a beautifull cloud, or a fantastic sunset try to think that your daughter was able to bring that sunset or cloud to you to share if only between you and her.

The pain of loss will never go away, but you can re-channel that feeling of loss by helping others. Adopt a school and help mentor some of the students that need help. Buy food for those that can not aford much, and buy Christmas gifts for kids that have no gifts at Christmas. Do this in memory of your daughter.

DON"T let your daughters death be a true loss, Please see it as a way to help others with the guidence of your daughter. I know that you will feel better by helping others. Your daughter would be proud of you!

Answer 9

You need to drive a safe car for now on.  The safest car on the road right now is a Volvo XC90.  You can pick one up now used for an affordable price.  Purchased private party is best.

Make sure all your loved ones are either driving or riding in a Volvo too for now on.  The safest car on the road.