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Question

My boyfriend has wanted me to have s*x with him for about 8 months I am only 14 and i don't want to. I found out 3 weeks ago he had unprotected s*x with my best friend and now she pregnant she hasn't told anyone else but me. She made me promise not to tell him and i did. I don't know what my question is really i just need advice on what i should do. should i tell my parents, her parents, guidance counselor, the father, her older sister?! do nothing? i want to help her! and she needs me now to help her though everything and to be there for her when she makes a decision on whether to keep, adopt, or abort. I wouldn't be 100% on the abortion but she isn't catholic so its up to her and i wanna be there for her as much as i can! ADVICE! PLEASE!!

Answer 1

I dont really have an answer for you... but for you to still want to be her friend I give you kuddos.

Keep doing what you are and just be there for her. Do what you feel is right.. and do what is best for her and you.

Good luck!  

Answer 2

Tell her whether she wants to tell anyone or not she needs to go see a doctor asap. She needs to make sure that she is actually pregnant.Talk to her and see if shes willing to talk to her parents,sister, a teacher, or guidance counselor.  If she doesn't want to do that suggest that she go to planned parenthood.They will give her information about her options. She will eventually have to do something about it. Tell her that you're there for her and want to help her.

Answer 3

Just continue to be there for her.... This truly will be a tough time for everyone involved. She is obviously too young to have a baby.. but its completely up to her. Just make sure she doesnt wait too long to decide to abort.. theres a time when its just wrong and the baby is already too much of a baby... So.. I hope she acts quickly if that is a option for her..

good luck. and stick with her no matter what.

Answer 4

Tell her to go to Planned Parenthood for help. You are too young to assist her with these adult decisions. The links below will help too. Best wishes, G

Answer 5

First of all you ask for advice, I am going to give it to you from my point of view.  

I think you are a very intelligent young lady.  You did not let a boy talk you into doing something that went against something you believe in. You are also a very strong girl to stand by your friend that had s*x with your boyfriend.  Maybe it is that you know how he pressured you and she wasn't as strong as you. But it takes a lot for you to be able to stand by her and help her with something that I'm sure hurt you. If I were you I would get rid of that boyfriend.  If he has s*x with your friend it was for gratification and no other reason.  You deserve someone who can care about you and respect your values and appreciate you for them and not run to someone else.  

As for your friend she needs to go to planned parenthood.  They can help her with assistance.  She also needs to tell her parents.  She is going to need medical care and prenatal vitamins.  Pregnancy is hard on an adult body and even harder on someone so young.  Encourage her and let her know you are still there for her.  It will be hard on her.  I hope that she doesn't choose abortion.  She made a mistake.  But abortion will be an even bigger mistake because it comes with a lifetime of guilt.  She doesn't need that on top of everything else.

Answer 6

You both need to talk to adults, preferably your parents. She is too young (assuming she is about your age) to make these types of decisions, and she's too young to be having s*x. Additionally, your boyfriend (I assume he is no longer your boyfriend) needs to be ready to be responsible enough to be a father.

Kids playing at s*x need to realize that babies, human beings, are the natural outcome of s*x. s*x is not a game, but a sharing of love and self with another.

The best thing she can do, if she doesn't want to be a mom, is give the baby up for adoption. This is a win-win situation. The child gets to live, a childless couple gets that baby they've always wanted, and your friend gets to have her life unhindered. Yes she'll have to be pregnant for 9 months, but it's the least she can do for the child who is innocent of any stupid actions or wrong doing. It's a small inconvenience to endure in order to give life.