Pls help! ? i dont know what to do?

Question

My 5 year old has just told me that one of his older friends has put his foot at his "AREA" and said gas pedal!!!! He did it while they were at the other boys house. I dont know what to do because when they play here im always watching everything is fine they are good friends and if i told my husband he would want to kick some @** they will never go to his house again because now i know there is no supervision but d**n what do i do? i want to do things the right way and i dont want to make my son think that he cant tell me anything ahhhhh!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

And exactly how old is this "older" friend of his? Please add his age to your answer so i can give you a better response. Obviously, if it was me, id rip his bullocks off if he IS that much older, i mean like 11/12/13 etc. But at the end of the day, if he is younger than the suggested ages, there all just kids, and like you and me, will grow up having the exact same problems. Take a careful approach to this situation. Going all out crazy may ensue some distrust within your child. Please add this older friends age so i can help you more:)

Answer 2

I wish I knew.... But I know a trick that always works

<Tell his mommy on him :) ♥>

Answer 3

maybe you could talk to your son, and let him know that its not okay to do something like that, so the next time the other boy does it your son can tell him to stop? maybe even tell the other boys parents, you could also take to the other boys parents yourself and tell them about how you are concerned for both their safety since there is no supervision.

goodluck! cheers!

Answer 4

They are too young and naive to know any different. Don't make an issue of it, but keep him from those friends, or tell him that his friends don't belong in that area. The incident will be soon forgotten by him and friends if you don't make it an issue.

Answer 5

Tell the kids mom who did this. I know I would seriously talk to my kid and let them know not to do that again ever.  Plus they should have been watching them better so I don't know if I would want them to go over again.

Answer 6

They were just messing around. My friends do that all the time too. As a joke. As long as your son is not getting hurt than its fine! Just explain to your son and his friend that jokes can get out of hand and its no longer funny when someone gets hurt. But I wouldn't worrie about it to much.  

Answer 7

kids will be kids next time youre with them when theyre playing keep an eye on them to see if youre son is getting bullied , but it sounds like no big deal

Answer 8

Talk to the mom, face to face. Try to make sure that the boy is around too. That was really wrong, and the kid needs to know that.

Don't tell your hubby until it's all sorted out.

Answer 9

well first of all was the other boy hurting your son or were they just playing.  young boys can get kind of rough.  if he was being hurt then you should talk with his parent.  if it was just fooling around then explain to them that is inappropriate way to touch another person that is a private area and tell him not to allow people to touch him there.  don't make a big deal out of it unless it needs to be.  

Answer 10

GO OVER TO THEIR HOUSE & TELL THE PARENTS IN FRONT OF THEIR BOY.........  &  DEFEND YOUR CHILD,  PRAISE YOUR CHILD FOR COMING TO YOU,   TELL HIM HE DID THE RIGHT THING, & YES, TELL YOUR HUSBAND............

Answer 11

It might not happen again. It's time for the "nobody touches you here or here" talk and it's a good thing he told you.  Tell him not matter how old somebody is or how much they like or don't like them there are 2 areas on a boys body that nobody except a Dr. or mommy or daddy stares at or especially touches.  I say this because he uses the men's or boy's room and may see some very open people in a locker room.  

How much older is the other child? You could ask the other mom to watch them closer because there was apparently some inappropriate touching going on.  You don't have to say who at this point but she should know and maybe review the rules about areas that aren't touched.

I know he's only 5 but when my son was 4 there was another child who hit him in the eye and scratched just outside the cornea. Everyone who saw what happened said the other kid does this and it came out of nowhere.  My son was under orders to hit back anyone who hits him. He didn't want to but, we explained it's the only way to make it stop and not to worry about the teacher, we would believe him and straighten things out with the teacher.(of course there was a problem when he was 6 and a girl scratched him accidentally).

Good Luck and calm down and handle it calmly.  It could have been worse.

Answer 12

First of all...Just because this happened at the friend's house doesn't mean that there was "no supervision", do you REALLY see everything that goes on while they play at your house?  It just seemed like that was an unfair comment about your son's playmate.  Anyway, commend your child for telling you and tell him that he should not let anyone do that AND bring it up to the playmate's parents.  Why are people always so worried about talking to the other party about things especially when it has to do with their children?  

Good luck

Answer 13

Well...you could always make "friends" with the (un) supervising parents of the other kid, so you can just sit and talk with them and see what really goes on with your son. "play date"???

That way, they can still be friends, and if you see anything you don't want your son exposed to, you can get him out of there. I know he'll be sad to lose his friend, but explain to him that the other boys actions are wrong...He's 5, so he should start to learn what people shouldn't do to to him!

I wouldn't tell Daddy, males tend to get alittle...too protective at times

.* I Went to the babysitters with my nephews when I was 10. The babysitters kids were mean to my nephews, and for that matter SHE was rather neglectful. I explained it to my sister, and she found another babysitter right away. You can't always make your children  happy, but you can protect them...*

:)

Hope This helps.

Answer 14

I would explain to your son that what the other kid wasn't good behavior. It is natural at this age for kids to do everything that see. Curiosity with "private parts" is very common. DON'T over do your reaction. Just go over again about that area being private and that no one should put their foot there.