Plz, can some one help me?i must to discuse how to punish a child in a right way not by hiting them?

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Plz, can some one help me?i must to discuse how to punish a child in a right way not by hiting them?

Answer 1

You cant.

Thats the problem with todays parenting.  There is no disipline and so our kids walk the streets kicking th s**t out of pensioners.

Best thing you can do is to take a belt to a kid.  You only need to do it a couple of times and they get the message.  Hard yes, but one of the best lessons they will ever get.

Answer 2

you must never "punish" a child but rather show them what is right and what is wrong.

You don't get punished for your faults do you? So why should a child get punished? It's best to tell a child the consequences if they don't do what is right. If they don't listen then they gotta learn it the hard way.

We all learn from  mistakes, not punishment.

Answer 3

Chya

It is simple

You will not hit him

but Say I will not talk to you until you ......

This is the way I brought my kids on the line at various times

Answer 4

The book 1,2,3 Magic is excellent!

But for quick help, I'll summarize briefly.

For 2-12 y/o.  Explain the program to them for fairness.  Tell them what behaviors you want stopped.  When they exhibit the poor behavior, hold up one finger and say, "One".  Wait 5 seconds.  If they continue, hold up two fingers and say, "Two".  Wait 5 seconds  If they continue, hold up three fingers and say, "Three, take 5"  (The 5 is an example for a 5 y/o.  The rule is one minute per year of age, so a 3 y/o takes 3 minutes in time out, etc.)  The key...NO TALKING, NO EMOTION.  Simply count and put them in time out if necessary.  If the child stops the poor behavior then it is done.  If they start the same behavior up within a small period of time, you can count the next number in line.  For example, you counted 'One' for whining five minutes ago and the child whines again.  That would be 'two'.  Use this for minor poor behavior like whining, arguing, stomping feet, etc.

For more major poor behavior like hitting, hurting, distruction -- those are automatic 'threes', you hold up three fingers and say, "That's three, take 5."

If the child gets out of time out, simply place the child (gently but firmly) back into time out.  Keep it up until the child stays there for the alotted time.  It may take a while the first few times, but the child will see that 5 minutes in time out is much better than an hour 'battle.'  

Not from the book:  Time out doesn't have to mean seclusion in a corner or on a step.  You can develop a place with activity for the minor offenses.  ie. playdough, coloring, etc, just to give the child a way to change his attitude.  Maybe some day,  your child will take himself out of a bad situation and go to the play table on his own before acting poorly?!

In the end, you will receive your child's respect because you are giving good guidelines and being consistent.  You would receive false respect if you were hitting him to scare him into obedience.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Talk to them. Let them know that you are disappointed in them. Choose your words carefully and don't talk to much. Get to the point fast and leave it at that. The more your drone on, they less they hear.

DON'T scream at the child all time as when you do this too often, it looses it's impact. Choose your battles carefully and really look at the situation.

If you scream and go off the deep end at little "Timmy" for coloring on the walls what do you have left when he hits another child? Surly the second example is much more serious than the first, and the discipline should increase with that.

Good luck!