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i have a friend who's cousin took her boys away from her through the court system. my friend was a past user on drugs which now she has changed her life around. she was currently serving 9 months in jail for using drugs and the family protected services only gave her a short amount of time to do what she had to do to get her boys back. since she was jail that time was added and couldn't complete it all in time. her lawyer made her sign her rights away or the court was going to do it anyway. the boys are now adopted it's only been a few months since they were adopted. can she get her boys back??

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  1. well lf her kids were adopted then lts not likely shes gonna at all get them back period. once their adopted thats lt. years ago l had to put my child up for adoption but l still have no idea where my son is. but she won`t be able to get her kids back lf they were adopted lm sorry to say


  2. Well its a very difficult situation. I am no expert , but i would tell your friend to see help by legal aid, (they are free) and start the process and getting her boys back. These boys need to be with their mother weather she got locked up or not. she is their mother, she didnt molest them, or abused them in any kind of way. And if she pushes herself and tries really hard, tell her to go to any courts that she can, take witnesses , take drug abuse classes so she can learn the disease and show proof that she is really trying. The judge might reverse the decision. (good luck girl)

  3. I'm sorry to hear about your friend.  but I really don't think that they will give her her boy's back.  My aunt had all 5 of her children taken away not for abuse but she is slower and the courts didn't feel she could care for them properly.  But the courts did tell her that if she tied her tubes and got a job and all this stuff she may have been able to get her 2 oldest ones back she did waht she was asked but they wouldn't give her her oldest 2 back.  Instead they were all 5 adopted by one family.  I'm sorry and I wish your friend luck incase she decides to go forward and fight for her babies

  4. I am no law expert, but if they are adopted, then they are no longer hers.  It sucks, but law is the law.  

    The only thing that I can think of is that she needs to get an excellent attorney, explain the situation, how she felt that she was forced into signing documents under duress.  It has been a while since the children have been in her custody, so she will also have to explain what she was doing since they were signed up to this very day.  She should start logging everything, and I mean EVERYTHING--who she has spoke to, the time, what they said, the date, etc...That could be viable information.  

    And how did the boys end up with people that are worse than her.  Once a drug user always a drug user.  It is an ailment, and if they attend meeting, that just means that they have recovered, and hopefully can stay clean.  For that situation, you or her will need to start documenting their actions, their conversations, when they use, take pics if you have too.  It will be a while before she can even have visits with her children, but she needs to use everything that she has and fight for them back.

  5. since your friend signed her rights away... I don't think there is anything she can do.  She can always try to talk to her lawyer if she was in jail the whole time they gave her to "fix" everything, but I don't know how well that would do since she did sign them away.  Sorry to hear about this, and I have kind of been on both sides of the court system that's how I know and I do feel sorry for her if she has actually changed and loves her kids now.

  6. Ok, well may I just say -- Her cousin, raised in, more than  likely, the same family she was raised in -- what's wrong with this picture?  The family system was broken down.  Drugs, jail, violence -- no where to raise babies.  Probably has been for generations.  But no one MADE her sign papers.  The state can terminate a parents right due to abuse/neglect, but cannot make a parent sign a voluntary relinquishment.  So she signed voluntarily, or had her rights terminated (usually for more than ample reasons).  So-- if the family members who "adopted" the boys are dysfunctional as well, then they either:  1--Fooled the state (not impossible) 2--Started all the  dysfunctional stuff after the adoption was final (highly unlikely)   3--The state was so overburdened with the case that they placed with any family they could find  4--The family members are not the way you describe them.  That is easy to check -- run criminal background checks on them!  There are cheap or free sites to do that through each state.  If they are truly abusive or into illegal behavior as well, then the boys may surely be taken from them as well!  Let the school look into this, or day care, or their church.  Call CPS if you truly feel they are being abused, and let them investigate the family again.  And then, please, let's think of giving these boys a chance at a normal, safe life -- outside of the family if need be.

  7. The lawyer LIED.  She only has 6 months from the time she signed those papers to get her boys back, so she needs to get a lawyer now, even if she is in jail. Her signing those papers indicate that she did it voluntarily.

  8. She needs to get a good attorney.  If she was coerced into signing away her parental rights, and can prove it, then maybe.  But once you sign away your rights that is usually all there is.  The other problem is that her kids are adopted already which will be another court battle.  (If you remember the case that was in the papers years ago, it took about 5 years).

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