Plz i an at my wits end. i NEED your help- so plzz see my question- i beg you?

Question

okay so this is the deal. my uncle is a vegetable now because he had a heart attack because he was being r****d-he has two kids i love my aunt to death but her kids are the most ill mannered, dirty , disobedient, violent kids there are. my house is only about two years old and i am afraid they will wreck it. they are 3 and 5 . i have controlled them so far by being firm and promising them punishment for their actions (like no tv- or being graunded, or to take away the lip stick. the 5 year old is a boy and very strong and headstrong- the one that gives us more headaches and that took a bat and killed the plants we had and trowing things down stairs.

i need help - give me tips - give me ideas of activities to do that dont involve paint. i am 14 my grandmother is also with us but she nearly had a heart attack the other day and my mom has blood pressure problems and i want them to be safe.

please i beg you help me- any tips or ideas are welcomed-

oh and they will be staying for a co

Answer 1

Take them to the zoo

Answer 2

You have a hard time ahead of you!

Kids in that age often don't know yet, how to entertain themselves. Funny as it sounds, they need to be shown how to play (that is how to play in a fun but not obnoxious manner.) When you have to take care of them, engage them in relative quiet constructive activities: Build something with them out of building blocks, draw pictures with them, look at picture books, or play role games with dolls and stuffed animals. With some luck, they take to like these things and get more quiet.

And keep them away from the TV as much as possible. TV makes little kids more aggressive. Even the shows that are made for kids. The less TV they have, the better they behave in the long run.

Answer 3

Two Words...... Super Nanny

Answer 4

Set up a chart of things to do around the house. When they do a good deed, praise them for it. Make it a points system and when they reach say 2 give them a prize and if they do bad, loose it, they can also upgrade and not have the prize til they reach like 4 or 5 goood things done :)

Answer 5

social services!

Answer 6

you should take them to a park and let them run around to tire themselves out or try activities with them like arts & crafts  kids that age love to do those types of things

Answer 7

first of all don't blame the children for the way they were raised.  Obviously they have never been disciplined.  Also stop equating discipline with punishment  It is not necessary to punish a child who is well disciplined.  Start with setting rules and boundaries.  Grounding isn't going to work  because once they are off grounding they will go right back to the same behavior, it teaches them nothing.  Removing things they have taken for granted also teaches them nothing because once their "punishment" is over they will go right back to the behavior.  In order to properly discipline you have to CONSISTENT, time outs DO work if you use them properly.  Yes children will get out of time out before their time.  so YOU put them back in .  over and over and over.  Make television, video games, videos etc PRIVLIGES, privliges are that which have to be EARNED.  LIMIT their television game/computer time and if they behave all day they get to have their privlige.  When they don't behave they don't earn their priviliges.  Obviously at your age disciplining them is not going to work.  They need to be in the hands or adults and not other children.

Answer 8

Sweetie,I'm shocked to see you have a concern at your age about these bad children. First and Foremost, They have a parent that should be involved with their behavior. They actually need a good whacking because they are out of control! You are doing very good from what you said you've done. All in all it's not your job!

Answer 9

Take them out so they can run around and get tired all day. that way, you wont have to worry about the house. In the house, if they acted up, a slap to the face should do. They need to learn how to respect, otherwise, we know how disobedient kids evolve in life...its best to stop that behavior now.

Answer 10

Bless your heart for trying to help out so much!!

What about a local park?  Is there one nearby that you could take them too?  You may need to enlist some help to keep them all in check, but the outdoors has a way of tiring kids that age out.

Sidewalk chalk and bubbles are also great ideas.  Potential to keep them busy and again outside for a while!!

If you have a sprinkler...strip them down to their undies (or a bathing suit) and let them have at it while you sit and relax.

Inside...you mentioned paint.  They do have paint now that only paints on special paper....markers too!!  Check out Target or Walmart.

My 3 year old LOVES scissors.  Blunt tip scissors and some construction paper could make them happy for a while.  What about creative things like "painting with pudding?"  If they make a mess...it's edible and should wash out relatively easily from any fabrics or clothes.  You could also have them paint with other things like shaving cream.  At the store get the tray that holds two 12 pks of pop and tell them they have to stay inside the tray to play.  Toss the tray when they are done!!  Free cardboard...easy cleanup!!

Dress up.  Any old clothes you have let them dress up and put on a fashion show for you.

What about having them help you "cook?"  Bake a cake or get the sugar cookies that you pull apart and bake and let them decorate them.  Make sure they stay away from the hot stove though!!

What about a dance party?  Turn on the radio and see who can come up with the funniest moves.  

Nature walk?  Talk them for a walk around the neighborhood and look for bugs or leaves or flowers.  Take some leaves home and glue them to paper to make a picture...or lay them under paper and use a pencil or crayon to rub across for a leaf "imprint"

Hope at least some of these ideas help!!

Good luck!!

Remember it's only a few weeks...

Answer 11

I think that you seem to be doing a wonderful job. Why dont you ask them what they want to do. Instead of threatning punishment, try some so sort of incentive. "If you guys are good today or you dont throw anything down the stairs well go for Ice Cream!"

Try taking them outside also-Kids love it out there-teach them how to play tag, and hide and seek.  Good Luck and keep up the great work!