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Question

if i can do something else to look good to feel successful i would do ,if i can just stop feeling as a loser and pathetic i would turn my concentrating from my body to anything in the world, I care for my mother and I solve most her troubles and my friends open their lives for me to help them ,when I come to me I find nothing but a big Loser

Don’t think that i have no trouble in life and living in luxury

Everything is upside down, my marriage is coming and i m so tensed . our culture is hard I hope I just can say I don’t want him ,the man isn’t what I dreamed though If I say I don’t want him I have to have many reasons and the only reason is that I couldn’t step out of my ex lover*that my family no nothing about him because if they do I will be iN trouble

For food

i don't like meat anymore ,i feel good when i eat something junk then i feel guilty *NOT GAINING WEIGHT * now

i work out so much to burn what i ate ,i like pizza ,pasta, veggies ,cookies*i try to choose law fat *

When i eat meat i feel sick from the taste i rarely enjoy any food in fact i just to eat fo fulfills something in me

i want to drink chocolate drink and popcorn as real dishes all the time

What can i do?

Sometimes i stay 2days not eating but water and yogurt, prunes and drink water and eat nuts with dates

It isn’t about food ,its the same attitude

Consular is far option because I m the bride I m suppose to feel happy and that’s another concern when anyone sees me sulking they would say what’s wrong?, did you fight with him?

what do you think should I do?

The wedding is coming and I m just denying this fact because I cant think that this man will be with me forever

Answer 1

oh hon I am so sorry it is your life if you don't love this man don't marry him it is not fair to either one of you this sounds like an arranged marriage I don't know what culture you are from but I would honestly tell him and the rest of your family that you are not going to marry a man you don't love and that if they cant or wont accept that then maybe you need to cut the ties for a while I know who hard this would be for you but think about it this way it is your life it is for you and only you to live and control no one else has the right to make you do something you don't want to do your wedding should be something your are happy about not something you dread think about what you want only you can make the right choice for you and if your family doesn't care about what you want why do you Care about what they want good luck hon I hope this was helpful and I hope things work out for you  

Answer 2

You need to stop putting sooooo much pressure on yourself for one.

You need to love yourself when you do everything else will fall into place. Love comes from within.

All the best.

Answer 3

Breath!!!

It seems you may need to spend a bit more time in the counselor's office before you walk down the aisle.

1. I noted a potential eating disorder. If that is one condition you are dealing with the stress of a wedding will exacerbate it.  You are binging and purging, it would be unfair to your husband to be to go into a marriage with your disorder in full bloom.

My thought would be to suggest

that

You put your life on hold until the eating disorder if truly under control, and it's my guess you likely know what that means.

You are being self indulgent and self destructive, You don't need someone sugar coating it. You are sabotaging your life.  

Answer 4

Not sure what you mean to be honest with you. You lost me on the meat part.

Answer 5

i dont normally use capitals but i think it might be a good idea to use them here

YOU NEED TO CALL THE WEDDING OFF!

its obviously causing you major distress, so the sooner you call it off the sooner the hassle will blow over

you only get one life, dont waste it on a sham marriage

Answer 6

sounds like ur in for an arranged marriage, mind u one of my best friend comes from a strict culture, she had a bf which her family kew about coz she told them she wanted to marry him, but her family refused and said that she has to have an arranged marriage back in thier home country, so my friend just ran away from home and got married to her bf, this was in jan 2007 d now they have a 10 month ol baby boy, her family are now happy for her.

U should NOT get married if ur not happy, its ur life, speak to ur mom or sister (if u have one) tell them that ur have a boyfriend, they might freak out at first, but ur letting this go too far, sounds like ur engaged already, call the whole thing off before its too late, think about it, now its only the wedding that is making u so stressed, next ul end up having kids with him and ur gona be stuck with that guy for the rest of ur life.

u need to see a professional about ur eating disorder and talk about ur personal circumstances, no one has to know that ur seeing a councellor, ur eating disorder will only get worse if u end up getting married to the wrong bloke, ur life is in UR hands....do something about it before its too late

goodluck hun x

Answer 7

I am a little confused by your question.

Are you just having problems eating right? Are you depressed? Stressed?

You may want to think about re-wording your question because I want to help but I don't know what you are saying exactly.