Plzzz help girls someone else has had to have gone through this?

Question

as you all know I'm 13 and both my parents passed a few years ago i now live wit my 19 year old sister i still cant get red of the pain especially the last couple of days cause i just got into 8th grade and every ones complaining that there mom grounded and they say there parents are so stupid the last 2 years ive tried everything 2 get read of the pain ive been fingered took extra meds i even let some random guy play wit me I'm kinda ready 2 take it 2 a whole new level like s*x maybe the pain will go away i really don't wanna do drugs plzz help also can anyone see that I'm wearing my pad and how far in is ur hymen thx in advance

Answer 1

You probably don't even have a hymen, especially if you've been fingered or ridden a bike. And people can see your pad only if you wear a really thick one with really tight pants and then open your legs lol otherwise, no one will know.

s*x isn't going to ease your pain, sweetie, I would know. I lost my Dad so I know how you feel....when people complain about theres I think well at least you still have one! Are you seeing a therapist? You may not want to, but antidepressants can REALLY help. If you are already on them and they are not working (or not working well enough) see your doctor about changing your meds or maybe upping your dosage. PLEASE don't overdose yourself! It sounds like you're pretty depressed about things, and rightly so. Losing your parents isn't something you can really ever get over....you just have to learn to live with it.

About the people that complain about their parents, are these people friends of yours? Maybe it would help if you told them how you felt. You don't have to get mad at them or yell or anything, just tell them that you understand that they're angry at their parents, but could they please not talk about it around you, because it makes things worse about losing your own parents. And if anyone...and I do mean anyone...tries to tell you that you've had enough time to get over it, don't listen to them. Just tell them that they don't know what it feels like to lose a parent, and when they do, they won't like it one but when people tell them to stop grieving.

Anyway I hope I've helped you....I'm sorry for what's happened to you, it must be extra hard at your age.  

Answer 2

I definitely know how you are feeling because I have lost someone very close to me (my father) and I have done whatever I could do to ease the pain from not doing any homework, s*x, and even ran away to another city.  Guess what?  Not only the pain inside me was still there, it actually gotten worse because I took the wrong approach.  The first right thing you did was opening up.  I would say talk to someone very close to you and open up your pain one day at a time.  Then try to shift along the right path of dealing with grief by taking small steps like writing a song or poetry. Remember this: grief is like a series of waves, the first tide is always the hardest.

Answer 3

hon,

s*x won't make you feel better for more then a few minutes!

so if you are doing this to try to get rid of pain then don't do it!

you don't have to get into drugs you can see a therapist i had to see one for a while! but don't do anything that you would regret! for your own sake! GOOD LUCK and i'm sorry!  

Answer 4

Don't have s*x at 13. It is probably illegal at 13 in your state, and there are other ways to relieve pain. You should go to your school guidance counselor and talk about the problems. I am sure they will help. You have hope. I am not a girl, but I know emotional pain. It can sometimes control you to the breaking point. I haven't experienced emotional pain very seriously, but know others who have. Drugs are also a bad way to go. They can control you after a while.

Answer 5

There are better ways to deal with pain.  

s*x?  uuuuh no, that will just give you MORE grief now and in your future.  s*x tooooo soon means the experience of REAL LOVE will be lessened and even ruined for you.  Never turn to a negative to fix a situation.

  Truthfully?  TURN to God and ask for comfort .  He never says no to His children.

Answer 6

One, if you're 13 you are WAY too young to be sexually active.

Two, turning to s*x and drugs is no way to deal with your grief!

The only thing that can really heal the pain is time, and even then you will always have the memories. Talk to your sister about this, and if that's not comfortable, talk to a school counselor or another adult figure you trust (I don't know the rest of your family background, so these are just ideas). They will help you learn to deal with your grief and hopefully things will get better for you. But PLEASE realize that s*x and drugs will not make things better, they will only spiral things downward.

In addition, talk to them about s*x! The road you're heading down is one you will regret in the long run, and ultimately a destructive one and you're putting yourself at risk for pregnancy (as a thirteen year old!) and sexually transmitted diseases. So PLEASE talk to your sister or a counselor and ask them for help and information!

Answer 7

You cant see a pad if you are wearing jeans

and idk about the hymen pain but I do know...

The pain wont go away, especially with s*x and drugs.  I understand you so much, and I feel for you.  I am not lying my eyes are watering now from reading your story.  NO JOKE.  You have to find a healthy way to heal that will actually work.  Maybe you have some sort of talent that just needs passion to go with it.  Or maybe you just need to accept their death, and look upon it another way.  Your parents went to a better place and they are probably partying since they arrived there, while you are in a depressed state because of the physical disappearance of them.  They are still with you and in your heart and soul.  You just have to understand that their bodies are gone but there spirits are living. Their spirits are walking around everyday, and trying to help you.   And I know you miss them soooo much, but it will be okay.  You must grow from situations like this and try to move on and heal.  Because drugs and s*x wont fill that void inside of you, or replace your parents.