Poll for Adults about marriage.?

Question

Were your parents married when you were conceived/born? Are they married now? And are you married or divorced?

Studies say that if your parents are divorced it increases the chance of the children getting divorced. Also premarital s*x increases the chances of divorce and I was wondering if it is true.

Answer 1

My parents were married when I was born and conceived.  They are still married today.

My husband was conceived and born during marriage, but his parents divorced while he was in elementary school.  Both of his parents remarried once, and are still married to the 2nd spouse.

My husband has always said that he would never get divorced, that he was only going to marry once.  I feel the same way!

Answer 2

Actually, statistics show that divorce went really crazy with the onset of women joing the workforce in the 60s and 70s...ever since that...its been pretty high compared to centuries of relative stability. Yes...divorced/broken homes might create an even higher probability of future divorces.

http://www.bsos.umd.edu/socy/vanneman/so...

Answer 3

My grandparents adopted me so I grew up with them being a happy couple and very dedicated to each other. My birth mom who I also grew up around does not know my father and has been married more times than I can count. I never really focused on that though. When I got older though and out of high school, I had doubts if I would ever be as happy as my grandparents because of how my mom was. I thought I took after her, but it was my grandparents who I took after.

I've been married for almost 7 years now and I couldn't be happier. I didn't lose my virginity until I met my husband. It was way before we got married, but I knew he was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with.

I think a lot of studies should be shoved up their butts. Everyone is different and you can't stereotype people. I think that is what studies are doing, taking a group that have the same issue and then saying oh since all these people are having problems then so is everyone else. Thats just my opinion.  

Answer 4

My parents were married when my Brother and I were conceived.  My Mom has passed away and my Dad re-married, they were married over 30 years.  I was divorced once and now re-married.

I do not think s*x before marriage has anything to do with divorce.  In a marriage it is all about respect and caring.  If you say please and thank you and excuse me to strangers during the day why not say it to your spouse and children.

Just be kind and polite to one another and all will end up well.

Answer 5

I'm not sure you can say premarital s*x increases the chance of divorce.  In general?  Regardless, I think it's a false cause and effect.  Like saying people who ate a banana vs cereal for breakfast had a higher chance of being struck by lightning, so eating a banana for breakfast increases your risk of being struck by lightning.  

Answer 6

Quote : And parental divorce make the people think "Well my parents got a divorce and I was fine." end quote .

Who exactly are you speaking for ?

I am a child of a divorce and I was not fine I still now at age 36 hold a lot of pain and anger over my parent's divorce , they blamed the vietnam war , marrying without fully knowing each other truely , being 20 and 19 the list goes on .

Their divorce made me fight harder for way to many year's to keep my 1st marriage alive and working I survived a lot of emotional / verbal abuse from my husband because I believed even though he was abusive and even though he cheated on me 5 time's that MY children deserved a better life with BOTH mother and father in the same residence , it was only on discovering his 5th affair with my sister in law that I decided enough was enough 12 year's of my life had been ruined and it was effecting the happiness of my children.

My 2nd marriage was a no brainer ,we had both agreed prior to my moving in we wouldnt get married and we didnt want any children together but then our son arrived 18 month's later unplanned I was on birth control and that's when his mother , sister and 2 of my friend's starting nagging get married you have a child you share the house your raising each other's children your married anyway so just do it legally , that was our whole point we'd done the whole marriage thing and didnt like it but we caved in and gave them what they wanted  I knew I'd found what I'd been missing and there was NO 2nd guessing my decision to re-tie the knot despite my original decision to never do it again , my 2nd husband had been burnt by marriage to his 1st wife and was of the belief that marriage was just a piece of paper , ring and a waste of money that could be spent more wisely on the home we owned , but that didnt stop him marrying me he never 2nd thought it we just did it .

He too was a child of divorce , his mother re-married and his step father adopted him and his 2 sibling's shortly after the early death of his biological father due to alcaholism , our marriage ended legally this past Tuesday and now we are living together in harmony , no more fighting no more arguing , no more hating , our kid's are happier , we're happier .

So what do you think? is it just a piece of paper to secure an insecure person who is scared of being alone as many have stated ? or is it something more solid ? dont bring god or jesus into it because in jesus's time marriage legality 's / soul wise / religion wise was not even in existance.

Look outside of the box and do not speak for all unless you have spoken to the billion's in the world person to person got a life time ?.

As to pre-marital s*x being the cause no thats a load of hog wash , fantasy land sad azzed excuse's for insecure men / women to use instead of facing the fact they just settled for mr / miss wrong instead of waiting for mr / mrs right .

Answer 7

as a marriage counselor, couples who live together first do have a higher divorce rate.

My parents were married and so were my grandparents on both sides.

I made a mistake at 18 and ended up divorced 3 months later, But, I have been happilly married the second time and for quite a while.

All 3 of my brothers have been married and never divorced, one 30 yrs, one 34 yrs and one 43 yrs

Answer 8

Parents were married before I came along. I'm married trying to get a divorce - due to his issues of infidility so I think it goes both ways.