yes or no questions and no attitude, pls. i don't need it.
i am looking for yes or no answers given the following circumstances:
1. someone of the opposite gender to your SO came over, there was much drinking and heavy flirting between your SO and the guest.
2. the guest was so inebriated they required an escort home.
3. circumstances required your SO to be the escort to walk them home. s*x ensued.
4. big drama, big drama, forgiveness, moved on.
5. months later, your SO indicates they enjoyed the experience and wouldn't mind a repeat. big drama, your SO recants, was just trying to get your goat.
6. months later, your SO volunteers to deliver something to the guest's home, which is in the immediate vicinity. you're advised that upon their immediate return, there will be a family trip to the local playground, have the children ready.
7. half an hour later, the children are getting restive and complaining. you try to take them out, figuring SO can come over whenever, but the sun is too hot that nobody wants to walk anywhere and SO has the keys to the car. everybody returns home and more waiting.
8. 20min later, you go to the guest's home. the door is normally unlocked when they're home, but it's locked now. you knock. there is an extended pauses, some quiet conversation, another pause, then the guest answers the door in a condition more commonly associated with the term "just tumbled". as far as can be determined, they're naked underneath what little they're wearing.
9. you ask if SO is still there and there's a pause, they look down the hall (to the bedrooms) then "uh, yeah! in the kitchen!" (while leaning over to check and make sure).
10. you walk in and SO is sitting at the table fumbling a large glass of water - normally not something that is drunk. the coffeemaker is empty and off.
11. "did you forget we're supposed to take the kids somewhere?"
12. "yes, i said get them ready"
13. "we've been ready for nearly an hour."
14. "oh! uh... has it-- has it been an hour already? uh..."
you leave and return home, send the kids to the cheap playground next door. SO returns and is immediately on the attack:
"i don't have to explain myself to you"
"what, you think you own me?"
"you don't have a right to tell me what i can and can't do"
and so on, basically making it clear that you have no right to feel upset.
i know the answer is obvious to anyone who isn't a one-eyed chimp with scurvy, but would you have a right to be upset?
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