Polls&Surveys: How do you feel when your parents expect things of you and you don't agree with them ?...!!!

Question

For me they want me to marry with the man they choose...!!!

Answer 1

yes.......

Answer 2

A clever girl will tell her-sisters- cousins or aunts or grand parents -----about a guy she really likes ,

and get them to tell her parents about how good the guy-is !

(naturally this guy should be in the category her parents will approve)eh?

cheers!.

Answer 3

pretty crapy. but u know what. u have to make u happy. no one else can

not a partner

not a dog

not a parent.

Answer 4

Tell them you're g*y.

Answer 5

Well, you will be the one to live with him and not your parents. So, if I were you I should have to follow what is really in my mind and follow those things that I really feel comfortable with. Not all parents understand what is good for their children so as long as the thing that you're dreaming of is not a bad thing, then go for it! Your parents will surely understand you if they loved you.

Answer 6

As parent?

Decode this lyrics " You raise me up"

Sure will be quite sore at the dog that bite it's master.

After raising one up in time.

While telling " Sit boy !"

"Sit"

Getting bitten by the dog .

That they fed day in and day out.

Year in and year out.

In raising them up.

Then at old age.

Get kick on the butts by little horror chucky with self lack of knowledge in own home.

Luke 8.5-8,10-17

What do you think?

Answer 7

What the f*****k ? do we live in india, to where your parents have to tell you who your going to marry? Tell them to get out of your life!

Answer 8

It's hard to go against your parent's wishes, but marriage is a life long committment... it would be great if you could marry who you love, not who they want you to be with...

Answer 9

I didn't have this problem......or any problem this big with my parents so I can't identify with what you feel.

You'll have to make a choice to marry a man you love and hope your parents understand.....or marry a man they pick for you and hope you will one day love him.

Answer 10

My daughter was a very messy teenager (as they usually are!). When reprimanded by her father for the state of her room, she said "This is my lifestyle; this is how I choose to live"!.

To which he replied "Darling, you can choose any lifestyle you like - but not under MY roof"

There lies your answer - if you are beholden to your parents there will be expectations to conform to their standards and wishes.  To be independent of them, you must choose independence.  It can be a hard choice to make.

Answer 11

My parents wanted me to not have kids but I did anyway

Answer 12

Don't let them treat you this way, your the one that will have to live with him, not them. What if your not attracted to him and he not to you, their could be problems and resentment. You need to find someone yourself. Happy hunting

Answer 13

oh, im SORRY! tell them to send him to ME! I told my family (grandparents) i wanted them to find me someone to marry, they are STILL searching for someone willing! haha they told me it was my responsibility =( i cant find anyone either lol.. so maybe YOUR PARENTS can sort me out?!

otherwise, my direct parents are dead, maybe they didnt want the responsibility either?

seriously tho, did they have an arranged marriage? i guess that effects how they look at it. i would tell them when THEY have to live with the person then they can choose, otherwise YOU have to live with the person (apparently if you are married) . i had a friend from pakistan and he had an arranged marriage and he said love had nothing to do with marriage which i thought was sad but he said you  learn to love the person you are married to (in his case anyway) he said its more a practical arrangement of someone providing & someone (um, doing housework? raising kids, i dunno)

my dad always only wanted me to be happy so i never had that problem, my mother i would have to take to court to tell her to f**k off.

i dunno, tell them its YOUR LIFE so you should do what you see fit. ok, they GAVE you life, but that was their choice, they dont own you (legally or otherwise). im sorry you are in this predicament, how old are you?

otherwise find a nice man they approve of.. but finding a "nice man" can be a h**l of a job, are you SURE you want it?! LOL

tell them they couldnt choose you when you were born so they cant choose your husband either. wish i could help. dont feel badly about letting them down or nothing though, or let them put a guilt trip on you.. tell them even though YOU dont need their marriage arranging services, your friend does! ;) though they will probably run a mile at that task! LOL ;) take care my dear and stay strong!! =)

Answer 14

If I don't agree with them, then it is too bad for them, it is my life and I live it how I want. It can sound disrespectful but surely they want me to be happy. And what ever it is, they will get over it.