Pooping on the Toilet?

Question

I am trying to potty train my son (he'll be 3 next weekend) He has been doing wonderfully going pee he doesn't have many accidents during the day and he goes in the bathroom with out being reminded. But for some reason he will not go p**p he'll either p**p in his underwear or wait until bed time (when he wears a pull-up) to go p**p I have caught him trying to go a few times and I take him in to the bathroom but he won't go. I have tried to encourage him as much as possible I have tried to offer rewards, and stickers and nothing works. I don't know what else to do. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

when he does go in his pull up, take the p**p to the toilet dump in in there. Let him see this. Let him flush it. Tell him this is where the p**p belongs.  And of course, positive reinforcement.  good luck.

Answer 2

This is all about catching him at the right time and getting him on the pot.  Potty trainers find the whole sensation of pooping strange and sometimes painful.  Throw in straddling yourself over a pot of water and the event can be stressful.  Once you get him to the pot, try and distract him with a book that is only available when sitting on the pot pooping or a game or song.  Getting him to relax so the p**p slides out into the pot is the goal.  Once he is successful several times, he will prefer the pot.  Remind him that going on the pot means his skin on his bottom stays clean and won't hurt.  Being mindful of his diet during this period of time is best also.  Remember that cheese binds you up as well as heavy meats.  Eating foods that will move easily through the track will be an asset at this time.  I'm a preschool teacher who has potty trained many kids - I guess I'm a professional potty trainer?

Answer 3

He might be scared of the toilet, =].

So completely explain it to him so he understands everything about it.

(What makes fear is not knowing something is going to happen)

Answer 4

ahh..the fun part!

my  mom has done daycare all my life! (16 yrs) and we're potty training three right now!!

this is def the most tricky part!! when we sit them down is after they've had meals like lunch and supper, when they're most apt to have to go.

when and if he does go, make sure you praise him like crazy!! and even give him a treat!! (thats our trick!! they WANT to go all the time so they can get a treat!)

even try and bribe him! tell him that if he goes p**p he can have a treat, but only if he goes!!

another tip, you can kind of tell when the kid is tryin to go, kinda pushin ya kno?? sit him down on the ptty and tell him that if he can go in ther he'll get a treat!!!

i know bribin sounds lame, but it really works!!!

good luck!! this is soo hard!

Answer 5

we had the same issue with my son being completely independent going pee, but not even trying to go to the potty for p**p (though at earlier stage). typically this does take longer, but there are tricks to help- the above tip about having him dump it into the toilet works well for some (it's gross, but for some kids- it only takes once). if you catch him in the act- take him to the toilet right then. also maybe try staying in there with him- and if he goes just before bedtime daily- then make that a routine: get him to sit on the potty and read him a book or talk for a few minutes to let him try and do it every night or a few times a day. going naked sounds good in theory but it's not practical for everyone. try to get a new type of underwear (let him pick it out) and just let him know that we dont want to poopy on the new cool underwear (esp after he's dumped it into the potty and seen what a mess it can make). and just keep doing what you're doing :)

also once he knew how and just didnt want to-i got to a point that i said he couldnt get in the bath until he tried to go potty. even if he didnt go- he had to show me he could try before he got to play in the bath. that helped alot for us.

Answer 6

Just keep encouraging him and let him do it in his own time. My son had a horrible time with this until he was 3 1/2. I came to the conclusion that he just wanted to be in control of the situation and this was one thing he could control.  Don't worry he will get the hang of it.

Answer 7

I have had a horrible time potty training my son to p**p in the potty.  It finally got to the point that I realized he too would go in his underwear or wait for that pull-up.  To fix this, I did the only thing I could think of and took them both away.  That's right, I let my son run around the house half-naked.  Our house is cool enough I didn't have to worry about his temp and warm enough in the winter.  When he has to p**p he simply goes to the bathroom on his own.  He knows what it feels like, but just doesn't want to take time to pull down his underwear.  This worked for several months and it wasn't until last week when we were at the zoo that he actually went p**p in the potty in public (not his little potty either) while wearing underwear and even telling us in advance.  It took us quite a while to get to this point.  He turned 4 in January and simply wasn't ready for pooping yet.  Keep offering the rewards as well.  He has an older brother we can use as an example since he wants to go to school so badly.  Hope this helps.  It'll take time and patience, obviously he can't go naked in public, but he'll figure it out when he's ready.  The rewards for trying worked as well.  He'd get small rewards for sitting on his potty and bigger ones if he had success.

Answer 8

my mom used to wake me up and make me go and it be like i was drunk so i wouldnt no if i was doing a 1 or 2 hed probably be to drowsy to know so he might end up doing a number 2 haha

Answer 9

we had the same problem with our son when he was toilet training..he had seen a 911 show where a girl got her foot stuck in the toilet and that fear kept him from putting his booty on the toilet..we told him over and over  that big boys use the toilet...if we refused him the pullups he would roll on the floor for a week in pain from refusing to go..sad to say he went in pullups till our daughter was born he was 2 months from being five..he saw us change her diaper once and we just said see big boys use the potty babies use diapers..and that was it for him..hopefully your problem with the toilet versus the pull ups will be easier..watch shows on tv with the changing babies or in public when you see babies point it out that babies wear diapers and big boys wear underwear..and hopefully he will realize he doesnt want to be a baby...even with kids his own age point this out in private of course if you do public humiliation it wont help him any.....and mention this when he wants to do things that big boys do..ride bikes etc...big boys do these things babies cant...just like diapers and the toilet

Answer 10

Does he have a favorite teddy bear? Do role playing with him with it.

Oh look Teddy has to take a p**p.  Ask your son if he knows where Teddy bear takes his p**p?  If he says yes.  Then ask your son.  Can you show me where Teddy takes his p**p.

If he doesn't know where.  Then make if fun.  Get all excited & say... follow me.  

Then place Teddy on the seat.  Behind your hand... put a balled up brownie & put in the toilet.   Oh look Teddy did a p**p.   Time to check it out.  Then pretend to wipe Teddy's tooshie.

Make it fun.

Answer 11

Good luck!!!  My 37 month old even stopped going pee on the toilet.  

I read somewhere that the reason that they do not go p**p on the toilet could be because they are scared.  p**p to children, is part of them, and they are scared that it is going to be flushed away and be gone forever.

Try to figure out something that he really wants or likes.  My son loves birthday cake!!! We told my son that we would have a party with cake for him and his friends (cousins) once he goes on the potty.

Answer 12

don't rush it go at his paste

Answer 13

Have fun! My son loved to reason..I know, weird. But I would just tell him that the toilet likes the p**p and he would be sad if he didn't get p**p. LOL  A friend of mine went as far as to tell her son that the toilet need to eat p**p, but I think that would scare my son into not sitting at all. I have a 2 1/2 year old now, and we are in the same spot. Postive reinforcement always works.....even for just trying to p**p. Make it really good if he does p**p, even it's a really small amount, to get him excited about going more.

Oh....another thing I wanted to add....my mother swears by it, make a time table of when he poops and try to get him on there before then. If he hasn't pooped all day, stick him on before bed. Remember to give him a sticker or whatever just for trying and a bigger reward if he poops. I also wanted to mention, try not to let him see you get discouraged or frustruated that he hasn't/didn't p**p. It can have the wrong effect. We did, however, express our disappointment with it. That is to say, we would say things like.....Oh man, so close! You are soooo close to being my big boy! Next time we have to try harder to p**p in the toilet.       Seemed to work for the older one. We'll see how this one goes.

Good luck!