p**n taking over my life and driving me crazy please help ?

Question

i am married for 7 years and 1 child out of my marriage .my husband has an addiction to p**n movies that drive me mad okay .he does it and watches it and thinks i am unaware of this since we been married for 2 years , i hate this as a kid when growing up i was sexually abused and that guy would make me watch the movies and act like the ladies there my husband knows this and understands y i hate it so much yet he does it , what do i do , i feel that maybe i am not woman enough for him ? or dont turn him on the way he would want to , i dont know what to do any more cause in my mind feels like he has s*x with another woman when watching p**n please help

Answer 1

I personally feel it doesn't matter when or why he is watching it.... Knowing about your past and how this would so upset you and still does it says he has no respect for you or your feelings...

Answer 2

tell him to choice between the p**n movies and you you should not put up with him

Answer 3

When he watches p**n.....go out on the town.

If you cannot, find a hobby for yourself....lose your past honey...it will never help you and no one feels sorry for you.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how this must twist you up inside every time he does this.  I would imagine he feels guilty watching it as well if he knows it hurts you.

Have you asked him if you two made your own "special" movie together if he'd watch that when he got the urge rather than other women?  It may seem like a strange solution but at least he'd be looking at you not someone else...

Answer 5

I can understand why you hate it so much, especially with what's happened in your past.  I hope he doesn't watch it while you're around??

If he's favouring p**n over intimacy with you, he has a real problem.

And it's not you with the problem - it's him.

Answer 6

look this is not a good thing for your relation straightly talk to him that you are HIS WIFE NOT A TISSUE PAPER BE KIND WITH YOU and things that he used for a s*x its hurting you ,is he men mentally disturbe?

Answer 7

There is watching p**n and then there is an addiction. Is it a daily thing or just a weekly thing. You know what you do is gather the evidence and take it to him and jog his memory on what happened to you and ask him straight in the face why he is disrespecting you this way with some thing that is so painful for you. It's time to confront and lay it out there. Well they are in a fantasy world and they aren't thinking about their partner. The only way you can  deal is open it wide open and at least you can take it from there. Cause right now you are not dealing you are just knowing about it and keeping your mouth shut.