Positive Discipline ideas?

Question

We are trying to implement more positive discipline in our home. I have read Jane Nelson's book (for preschoolers) and I was hoping to get some more examples of how others are using it. We have always done a "quiet time" in our home, when tantrums or upsets occur he snuggles in his bed with his stuffy, but we also use time outs for things such as hitting. So I am wondering how to handle things like hitting and out right defiance (example- refusing to pick up toys) in a more positive way. Any other ideas are welcome, but only serious responces please.

Answer 1

I don't believe in allowing books to raise children.  My children got praised for positive behavior and were admonished for negative behavior.  We set rules from day one and doled out privliges such as television time, video games, videos etc.  If tantrums were thrown the children would be put into their room with the child gate in the door way.  There was no refusing to pick up toys because if they had toys in any other room than their bedroom they either picked them up or they didn't get their privliges.  If their rooms were a mess I simply shut the door.

Answer 2

im very glad to hear you ask this. keep trying. im only 17 so no advise but i just wanted to give you credit. :)

Answer 3

I'm not sure what you mean by " positive" since I haven't read the book. If a child refuses to pick up toys and I have to pick them up for them, they lose the privelage of playing with them. Having toys means you not only play with them, but you take care of them. Leaving them out , they can get broken and can be in someone's way. If the child can't pick them up, I will do it for them but the toys will be off limits for a time. Hitting is a no tolerance thing for me. I think time out is great as long as it is effective.

Good luck!