Post random hookup etiquette?

Question

I hooked up with a guy I met through a friend. The first time we met we talked for about 20-30 minutes, lots of talking and flirting but nothing physical. About 2 minutes after leaving, he started texting me, and after an hour plus of talking he made it clear he wanted to hook up. The next day we did, and it was good. He held my hand afterwards, respected me by not telling all his friends, etc. But he leaves for college in 3 weeks. What should my next move be? And would him not telling more than one or two friends be a sign of embarrassment because he possibly isn't attracted (although asking for- and seemingly enjoying- several pictures)? I'm not used to the random hookup circuit, and need a refresher course as to how to deal with this.

*Also, we've been talking for at least an hour daily since our hookup while I've been out of town. And we still exchange pictures. So still plenty of contact.

Answer 1

Just say, "So what's the deal after you go back to school?"

Answer 2

I believe he is definitely not embarrassed but he is going away to college in 3 weeks. He likes you and is not embarrassed but he is mature. He wants to see where this relationship is going before he tells his friends about it and that is normal in my opinion. What if it stops now... through no fault of his or you.. but due to not seeing each other and exchanging pictures and just talking on the phone is not the same as seeing each other in person. he wants to be sure. if he is he will introduce you to his friends and I believe it would be a good thing to let him know that you really like him and really appreciate him and want to stay in touch but i would not make a too bold move after such a short time.. you should let him know in  a suble way that you are really interested in him and that you hope you will keep in touch and meet again and that this means something to you .. that should show him that you care and if he feels the same way.. you have not sold yourself cheap and have not made a pass at him but he then knows your feelings and if he reciprocates them and you stay in touch .. then it can lead to more.. . xx

Answer 3

I'm sorry but I want to laugh when I read the part about you asking if his not telling more people about the hookup means he's embarassed.  Some men do have respect and discretion, you know?

As for etiquette, it's clear he is still interested.  Just go with the flow and see if this turns into something long term.  Both of you are free to date others.  

Answer 4

It's no sign of embarrassment that he did not tell one or two friends. In fact, he acted properly and maturely. You just have to decide that since he is going away to school, what type of future status you will be satisfied with. Long distance relationships are rare. They do work in some cases and those couples stand by their commitment, but they are few. So as the other answerer suggested, ask him what the status of you two may be once he goes to college, and just keep the line open. If you meet someone or he meets someone, well, that doesn't mean you have to break off all communication. It just means you may not be that serious. Now, the dude comes home to visit and he wants to hook up and you're with someone else, make the call and decide whether you want to keep that relationship open or be totally faithful to whomever you are with. Until you are married or engaged, there is no firm type of "legal" commitment, so if you still want to take a bath in the same water, go ahead. Once you commit to seriously to someone else, well then you have to say "no". But until that time explore your options. You can like/love two people at once. But you have to be savey. You don't let the right hand know what the left hand is doing. This happens everyday. Be discrete. Until you are firmly commited you know, lie to one of them if you have to while you go through the selection process. What happens if you get caught? Oh well. You can try and salvage the injured party and if that doesn't work, you just try and do better next time.  

Answer 5

He's going away to college, probably didn't want a real relationship and he used you.  That's what I think.  Sorry.  I wouldn't text him or call him.  If he's interested, he'll do it.

Answer 6

Not embarrassed @ all.  U R Safe!!