Post traumatic stress from miscarriage? is this normal? help!?

Question

*sigh* Where should I begin...2 yrs ago I became pregnant but soon after miscarried. The pregnancy wasnt planned but I was determined to follow my morals, take responsbility for my actions, and have the child. I felt myself to be responsible, financially capable, and able, already living on my own and having finished my Bachelors degree. A lot of people discouraged me from having the kid and this made me doubt my own capabilities. The discouragement plummeted my self esteem.

In the 2yrs that followed, I saw more and more people get pregnant, both people I know and celebs. Everyone was so much more supportive and congratulative, even to the people that were slightly younger than me or not as responsible as me! This has added to my trauma. Every yr that goes by, I dont find myself "getting over it," but instead find myself more and more depressed. I feel cheated, devalued, underestimated, and jipped. I get depressed every time another friend gets pregnant. Is this normal?

Answer 1

It is very normal to feel this way after a miscarriage i had one not to lomg ago at 20 weeks gone and i have friends that are now pregnant and still i feel cheated and cant bring myself to even talk to them as if i did i would go home crying but i do know someone who has also been through this and they promise me it will get better in time just takes a while .if you feel it wont see a gp to discuss it

Answer 2

Of coarse its normal although you your self have to find out a way that your going to say its okay things happen and at that time it wasn't for me. My sister had a miscarriage and it was horrible every time i think about it it makes me cry i say him after he came out he was only 5 months and was all red it was so sad my sister had to watch him kick his last kick and its something that you go through and no one will ever understand. But eventually you will find a way to say everything is okay and forgive what people have said and think positive. I'm sure that one day you will have a little bundle of joy and be happy. I understand how you feel and its hard to get over but it will fade just give it time and all ways think positive. Your time will come ;) Good luck ;)