Post-wedding depression?

Question

Hello there.

I finally got married!! The wedding was wonderful, I didn't stress, everything went according to plan, the vendors were fabulous... people were saying that it was the best wedding that they've attended and the best food ever!

We had very generous gifts, everything was perfect, there wasn't even one cloud in the sky... it really was a beautiful wedding and everyone had fun.

I'm not the "depressed" kind, so this is just ridiculous. I really don;t know why I'm blue out of the sudden. I guess I just want to be 8/31/08 and do it againg, because it was SO much fun!!!

Any advice?

Answer 1

Who says the fun has to be over? Organize projects! Make a wedding scrapbook for you and your husband, your parents, his parents, grandparents, whoever else. Begin decorating your house together. Place all your wedding pictures around the house. Plan dinner parties. Have a game night. Doing things like this will get you out of that funk. The post-wedding funk is common, and I was in a funk after my wedding also (however, mine was mostly because my husband was deployed a month after our wedding). But I did a bunch of things like those, including putting together care packages for him, making him a wedding website that so he could look at our wedding pictures while in Iraq, and writing him letters/emails/etc. Keeping busy and keeping those memories alive really helped me out a lot. It kept my mind off things, and it cheered me up a lot through the beginning of his deployment. Hope that helps!

Answer 2

I got married too the same day with a fun, beautiful, awesome-weather wedding.  I'm guessing you're blue because all that is behind you, as opposed to happening right now or in the future.  For therapy, you might want to get busy tackling that big pile of thank you notes!  ;-)

I'm not feeling depressed at all.  I'm happy to be married to my sweetheart at last.  :-)  Also, despite the fact that the wedding and seeing long-distance friends and family was so much fun, I'm actually glad to get it behind me.  All the wedding prep has taken time away from other projects I want to do.  

P.S. I think the key to dealing with this is to plan fun things for the future, even if they're very small in comparison to a wedding.  For example:  make a new recipe for yourself and your husband, learn a new hobby, read a book you've always wanted to read and didn't have time for, take a bubble bath, etc.

Answer 3

You're married now.  Focus on that connection you have with your spouse.  It's an amazing thing that I can't wait for.  Yes, I am excited for the wedding, it will be a lot of fun, but the most important thing to me is that I am getting married to a wonder man that I love.  So now it's time to enjoy your marriage.

Answer 4

I'm hoping you are having fun on your honeymoon and enjoying your time with your new spouse.  When you get your pictures back, you'll perk back up and relive those moments again.  Try not to live for your wedding, but rather for your spouse.  He is where the fun is, not in your bride bouquet or your dress.  

Answer 5

Heey, congratulations!! That's great to hear.

What you're feeling is totally normal, I feel this way every time we go away on vacation and have to come back. The better the vacation, the harder it is to get back. I guess your wedding was so wonderful, it's sad to know it's over. But you'll bounce back in a few days, don't worry. Congrats again.

Answer 6

  The first question I'd ask is before you got married were you a party girl or not. The second question would be did something happen during your nuptials that made you kind a down? The reason i ask is because if something happened , like one of the brides maids making a show of her self and taking the attention from you, that you may be bitter towards her. But if your a party girl maybe you got married in the first place just to have a excuse to party. The second is totally the wrong reason for marrying, and the first should have been kicked out on her booty! I wonder though if you really wanted to marry to begin with. Was you going to be new hubby really the one you loved and felt you belonged with? Only u can answer that. However, since you are already feeling down it could very well be signs of a up coming divorce. But, i doubt it would be his fault. It'd be more like yours from the vague info youv'e given

Answer 7

I know what you mean. You plan for months on end and build your self up so much and then when the day comes you are on top of that roller-coaster having the time of your life. When it all comes to an end you are on your way down the roller-coaster back into normal life. It will happen more than once in your life. When you are pregnant, when you buy your first home, graduating from college, your kids growing up. Don't worry you will have something to look forward to again! :)

Answer 8

correct

Answer 9

Fairly typical reaction I think... Months and months of planning, the emotional rollercoaster getting the big day organised, then the joy of the big day going all as planned. (congratulations on that)

Then all of a sudden life's normal again. Let's call this feeling an "Emotional Hangover."

I'm sure the low feelings will disappear as you embark on your new life with your new husband.

Best wishes to you both.

Answer 10

Its completely normal to be a little sad...all those months (maybe years) of planning...and now its over. Its just a little let down...it will pass. And now you have more to plan for...

-write your thank yous

-make a wedding album/scrapbook

-set up house

-want kids? Getting started! Then you will be planning for the rest of your life =)

Goodluck and enjoy the time with your new hubby.  

Answer 11

You probably just need something to do after so many months of wedding planning activities.  You may just have lots of free time on your hand.  After your other priorities are satisfied (being a wife, mother or potential mother, working, family, friends, hobbies, etc.), if you still have time on your hands, consider adding something else to your agenda.

You may be a wedding planner at heart.  Since you are a Top Contributor on Yahoo Wedding Answers, maybe you have the gift to be a wedding planner.  Many brides think they can plan anyone's wedding after planning their own...that's SO NOT the case.  But I think you have the knowledge to be a great wedding planner.

Answer 12

Hi Blunt. Congrats on your wedding! Glad you had a good day.

I had some post wedding blues myself, don't worry - it will pass!

Answer 13

  awww, it sucks that such a happy event is followed by something like this : ( i feel for you, i really do, they say it happens to a lot of brides.  all the excitement and attention, then its over.  just think happy things.  think of how youll now get to use all the glamorous gifts! think about how in a couple days or weeks you will get to see the pretty pictures.  think of how he is now your HUSBAND!! : ) dont look at it like its over, look at it like its just the begining!

Answer 14

Ah, the wedding withdrawl....happens to the best of us.  Now we just get our fix by coming onto wedding boards!

Look...sooner or later this will pass and you will be back to your old self again.

Just focus on being a great wife and making the healthiest, happiest marriage of them all.