Potty training...PLEASE HELP!!! I'm losing my mind!!?

Question

My son will be three in October and REFUSES to p**p in the potty for me. At the baby sitter's he'll do #1 and #2 in the potty and when just daddy is here, he'll do #2. He'll even go when his sister asks him to. Its just when I'm here...he will not tell me when he needs to go and will even sneak off and shut the door behind him to p**p in his pull ups. I have tried everything from bribery to punishment to over the top praise when he does go in the potty. What else can I do? I need advice as nothing is working. Thanks.

Answer 1

All of my kids loved using a real toilet.  I found a very safe and very sturdy stool with sides for the toilet so they could hold on the entire time.  http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...  They loved doing it all by themselves.  I put toilet paper over the water so there was no splash and my kids were so proud of themselves that they climbed right up and were potty trained right away.  This stool made all the difference and it was well worth it.  Hope this helps.

Answer 2

This is his way of controlling you. He knows it bothers you so he won't do it. He is asserting his will against yours. The way to stop it is to stop worrying about it. If he poops in his pull ups change him without comment except to say lets make you more comfy. Don't mention the potty. If he sees you aren't bothered he will soon learn its more comfy to use the potty.  

Answer 3

You need to throw away the pull ups and buy him all underwear its about that time my son is going to be 3 in October as well and he just learned i had to throw all his pull ups away he will get sick of crapping on himself.  

Answer 4

if he is trained that well... put him in underwear... he will hate the poopy underpants feeling and will just use the potty...

Answer 5

I had a friend that had problems with her son. She just took his underwear away from him! When he was at home with her she took them off. The first time he pooped and it went down his legs he freaked out. She did have a mess to wipe off the bathroom floor but he never pooped himself again! Not that I am tell you to do this. I know my mom tried suggestions when we first started... she said "now if he poops in his pants, make him wash them"! She swears it works. She doesn't believe in pull ups. For me, I just made him go to the bathroom every 30 mins or so. Pretty soon he got sick of always going to the bathroom. He was potty trained in two weeks flat!  

Answer 6

do you cottle him? by cottle i mean baby him.  

my five year old nephew that i practically raised from age 1 to 3 yeard old, acts different with me then he does with my husband.  with me he does alot a baby voice and acts helpless. takes him time getting dressed.

however with my husband, the baby voice is gone.  

i think its because i baby him.  so he acts like a baby.  

i am not saying treat your son like a grown up.  i don't have a kid this is just something i observed.  

Answer 7

take the pull ups away and hide them. u need to keep talking to him and ask him if he needs to go to the bathroom. and tell him to let u know when hes ready. potty training is not easy to teach. its quiet a challenge for some to do.

Answer 8

1. Try encouraging your child with a reward. Every time they can go to the potty without wetting their pants, they get a treat (candy, toy, etc…). I tried this with my nephew and he definitely loved it. He was so excited to show me he went potty all by himself. It may take a few tries before they get the hang of it but once they do it’s all uphill from there.

2. Use a prop for your child. One of my favorites that I use with Jacqueline is the potty undies. We picked a pair of undies that has a cartoon character she loves (in this case strawberry shortcake) and I tell her, “Make sure you don’t get Strawberry all wet. She doesn’t like that very much.” So now when she goes potty she finds me afterwards to show me Strawberry is still dry.

The main idea is to entertain the child and make it seem like going potty is a game. Children hate work and love fun, so why not make potty time fun for them. Trust me your child will absolutely love one of the top two ideas. Good Luck!