Potty training nightmare!! moral support needed please!!!?

Question

Please help! i've been potty training my son for six months now and we are just getting nowhere. Has anyone else had a nightmare potty training their child. I've tried everything, so I don't need suggestions, I just need moral support!! 'Coz, believe me, I've tried EVERYTHING. I've read every book, tried star charts, tried BigBoy pants, No pants, encouragement, set times for putting on the potty, leaving him to do it on his own, you name it I've tried it.....help!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

This isnt always an easy thing. He just may not be ready or he may not want to. Just take a break and relax. I know right now you are probably wondering if he is gonna be in pre-k and still using diapers, lol but he will not. Some kids take longer than others and thats ok. Things will be fine. If it really concerns you, talk to his dr about it, otherwise just relax and try again a little later. I admire your patience over the last few very trying months!

Answer 3

Understand completely hun

I have been doing this every school holiday for a year!!!

But the last half term she just got it right and was staight away dry day & night. In her words 'Im a big girl now & not wear nappies again'

All I did was put her on the potty for about 5mins every 15-20 mins.

She is 3 this weekend but I know it is hard work but it will happen just keep trying

Maybe put a ping pong ball in the toilet so he can wee on it make like a game :-) hope this helps

Answer 4

hi yeah my 4 yr old was a nitemare to potty train only just about 2wks ago got him trained finally! lol with my 1st boy i made it in to a game it sounds silly but it worked for me... put a penny in the bottom of the potty and tell him to aim 4 it! and reward him with a sweet or sumthin it does sound really silly but it worked 4 my boy lol gd luck xx

Answer 5

I completely understand your frustration, but there is no need to feel bad or stressed out over it. There is something that many parents do not realize when it comes to potty training:

A child needs to be ready on three different levels to successfully potty train, and those three levels are:

--The child must be physically ready (their bladder and bowel muscles have to be developed enough, and every child is different, so some are ready before others)

--The child must be physiologically ready (the bladder or bowels send out a message to the brain through neurons, and the brain has to properly receive those neurons, and then properly translate their message)

--The child must be psychologically ready (many do not realize that diaper changing time is a private one-on-one time between a parent and a child, and a child sometimes is not ready to give that up).

The point is this: When your child is ready, they will embrace potty training, and until then, no matter what methods you use, your child will not be completely receptive to taking that big step.

Just keep on it (by asking the child every so often "do you gotta go potty?" so they can learn to identify when they might have to go), but don't worry-- your child will potty train when he is ready.  Remember, this is quite normal, and many, MANY parents go through the exact same frustrations.

Answer 6

the no pants worked for me but i have seen the new pull up that get cold when he pees if nothing else time will cure the problem good luck and try not to rush he may not be ready  p.s have you tried letting him pee outside if you do not live in city my friend swears by this method

Answer 7

I'm not there yet, but take a look at this: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25057503/

This woman in Chicago (for a fee) potty trains kids in a day!  They must be at least 2.5 years old.  She feeds them snaks and juice, lets them run around without a diaper, and when they wet the floor helps Them clean it up.  Sounds rough, but the kids then associate their body as their responsibility.  It sounds like a good idea. Take a look for yourself...

Answer 8

I don't have any kids but this is what my cousin did with her two (1 of each).

once they're standing on their own she takes them into the bathroom each time she had to go. She told them something along the lines of "Mommy has to tinkle." NO they aren't potty trained at one, but both were out of diapers at the age of 2.

She never used pull-ups because she said it confused them. And she let them decide when it time to start potting training - basically when they start pulling their diapers off. At this point, she would ask them if they had to "tinkle" 1/2 an hour or so before she would normally change their diaper. Eventually she switched over to training undies and had a pretty smooth transition with a few accidents of course.

So, you might want to take your son to the bathroom when you need to go and possibly make a big deal out of it when your finish. At this age I wouldn't be concern that he's not standing when he handles his business.

Answer 9

try giving him a beaker of juice or water, getting him to drink it in a short time, not sipping all day.

then 20 mins later, take him for a wee.

then 10 mins later, take him again.

or put him back in nappies for a few weeks and try again. maybe other things are more important to him now. my son could name every car by its badge at 2 1/2, but would happily sit in his own mess at 3 1/2...

Answer 10

I feel for you! But maybe he isn't ready yet- my sister had a job with her first- it began to cause so much stress she gave up saying that he'd be dry by the time he went to uni! (he managed it by himself a few months later!)

my daughter trained really well- and it was the doing it outside that did it- we lived in the med and it was summer, so she peed on the terrace and watched it dry- then she just progressed to the potty when the weather turned colder- not so easy as the UK during a wet summer I know-

Answer 11

you didn't say how old your child is.

we started at age 2 but my girls weren't completely potty trained till age 3.  Some people say it took them a month.  But whatever!  Every kid is different!

It takes time.  Consistency, consistency, and consistency.  Don't know how long you have been doing it.  

He will have relapses.  My youngest just stopped for awhile (for one month!) and I gave up because she just refused.  When she showed interest again, then we started up again.  

Every kid is different.  Keep it fun and positive.  And definitely, GET your HUSBAND involved.  You two should be on the same page and both be positive about it.  That should lessen the stress on you.  

Good luck and be patient!

Answer 12

I'm sending moral support via the sneaky psycic mum waves! Dont worry, sit and have a cuppa! Just remember that in the grand scheme of things, its not important, he wont have issues or hate you or anything else so take a deep breath! If he's not ready, nothing will work, so take a break, try again in a month and see what happens then. If you have a dog, it works well getting them to pretend to be a dog, because they have to go to the toilet outside, gives the dog a it of a complex though! Keep smiling

Answer 13

I definitely understand. My twins will be 3 at the end of August and they aren't potty trained yet. I am really nervous because I'm pretty sure they can't move up to the "big kid" room at daycare unless they're potty trained. One of my sons will try sometimes and never pees when his diaper is off, but my other son peeson the floor     every     single      time     his diaper is off. I am getting so frustrated because I am pregnant again and I don't want 3 kids in diapers! Plus, a 3 year old's poopy diaper is alot more disgusting than a baby's lol. So you are not alone! I am getting so tired of people making comments about how they're not potty trained yet. It's not from lack of trying. Good luck!

EDIT:

A friend of mine also potty trained her sons  by letting them pee outside. She said they thought it was so cool! My sons won't do it though, I guess they have alot of modesty or something lol.