Potty training older child?

Question

I'm kinda embarrassed to admit that my almost 4 year old is not potty trained yet. First off when she was 2 she had a really bad yeast infection due to antibiotic and she would scream when we had to put the cream on her and change her diaper so as soon as she got over that we were going to start PT but the she got really bad constipated so after 3 days of no BM we took her to dr he gave her miralax we did that for 4 days still nothing called dr back and he said take her to ER so we did. They had to give her a rectal exam and then an e***a so that worked for about a week then i noticed that when she had to go she would hold it in so i took her back to dr and he put her on a strong dose of miralax and that made her go after 2 months she was still holding it in not wanting to p**p so her dr sent us to a GI specialist where she had to have another rectal exam and blood test so would fight and scream when ever we had to change her diaper and she would not let you use any wipes or cream on her. Finally dr said there was nothing physical wrong with her it was mentally he said she was traumatized by the exams and pain associated with all this and not to start PT until she stopped holding back meanwhile she takes the miralax every couple of days so know we have been trying to get her to go to the potty and she doesnt want to not even to pee and yes she still holds her p**p in but i'm getting desperate i feel like she is too old for diapers and i dont want other kids to make fun of her and yet i've tried everything we have promised her special treats for her if she will go or even make an effort we talk about it very positive. also we have a new baby so maybe that is making things worse i'm open to all suggestions please help me. she is very smart and knows when she has to go

Answer 1

with all the problems shes had I'm not surprised she doesn't like the potty she most probably thinks its go in 2 hurt take her to the toilet with u when have done a wee tell her it didn't hurt mummy do u want to try hopefully she will except and try the big girls toilet if not then try putting one of her dolls on the potty see if she will do it maybe then she mite want to copy her doll try and not rush her as this will only make things worse give her plenty of encouragement and lots of praise even if she only gos to play with her doll with it hopefully she will over come her fear and start using it i wish ur daughter al the bestxxxxxxxxx

Answer 2

this will definetly work. take off her diaper and let her run around naked in the house. She will not go on her self trust me she'll hold it and if she does make a mess. Then ur going to have to talk to her that the only way she'll get something on her bum is to go to the toilet. I tried this on my two year old and she was up and going by less then a week. I'm sure she will do it. think positive and yes it looks like she is traumitized. gl to the both of you and good luck with the new baby. =)

Answer 3

Hi there,

your poor things sounds like a horrible experience.

i think you should take things nice and slow you dont want to set her back. talking her through everything will help as you said she is 4 and very smart

firstly never get cross with her she will be afraid.

start with wee's,

tell her you are going to start with wees, to let you know when she wants to go the usual potty training stuff.

if she wants to do a poo that's ok she has to tell you then you can put a pull up on her and she can do one.

once this is established you can then move on to poos ( u usually find when children start PT they hold off poo until the night nappy as its very personal to them so treat this the same)

the key is to build up her trust with wearing undies and her trust with you - it will come

continually praise her when she does it correctly and never scorn her when it goes wrong.

easy does it, i have had success with this technique with older children who have not yet potty trained.

keep an eye of stools and go back to your doc if you r worryed

hope this helps you

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