Pregnancy # 2! will i love this child the same?

Question

hi, my first child, logan is currently 8 months old, my partner and i love him to death, spoil him and give him everything, being our first child, i couldn't imagine loving another child more than him.. not that im concerned..because i believe when my next child comes, ill love them to same .... but for mothers with more than one child do u love all your children differently??? is there a favourite lol??

cas xx

Answer 1

You will love your children equally. It sometimes may seem as though you are favoring one child to the other due to their temperaments that day but in your heart you will love your children the same!!! Just make sure you give them both the attention they need from you even though it maybe hard sometimes since they are so close in age. You'll be fine!

Answer 2

I got worried with my second pregnancy that what if I was more bonded to the first, and it stressed me out but then when she came it just came so natural and I love them both the same, I do love different things about them though. I love how  my son is so smart and diligent about figuring things out and I love how my daughter is such a free spirit and so compassionate for people and animals. You will have plenty of love dont worry!

Answer 3

You will trust me. My mom felt the same way when she was having her second child and asked the same thing to my grandmother. My grandmother asked, "tell me which one of those fingers of yours wont hurt you if you cut it off?"

Answer 4

i have three and it is different but no one is a favorite. my first is special to me becasue she is my first my second is special because she is my husbands and my first together then my third is special because he is my first son and this time boy or girl i will love this baby because this baby will be my last. girls and boys are different too, i love my son but it is different he is my right hand man but my girls i want to lock them up in their room so no one can ever hurt them lol.  

Answer 5

I love both my boys equally.  I was so worried before #2 that I wouldn't.  My second is 5 weeks old, and it's scary how much I love both of them!

Answer 6

I am not a mother but study and research child development issues. I think you will have different relationships with your children depending on their personalities and their personalities seem always to be so different. Whether or not you are playing favorites, the older child might feel you prefer the baby because of the attention you will have to give the newborn. Hopefully you and your partner have prepared your first born so he knows how things will be different with the new arrival. If you haven't get a discussion going or go buy a children's book on having a new sibling. Jealous erupts not because your pick favorites but because the older child isn't prepared for a sibling.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I definitely do not have a favorite. I love my kids both the same, I could not  imagine loving them any different! You will have plenty of love to go around!

Answer 8

Hun

I really think that having children is a blessed thing I'm having my first ATM and hun i believe that you love all of your children the same i think that alot of parents in fact worry if they love one more than the other and that is so natural.But in reality you are going to love them the same because they are both beautiful and your blood:)

wishing you the best hun :O)

Answer 9

You will love your baby just as much.  Each child is a gift and you will need to help Logan in the transition, since he will still be a baby when #2 arrives, and not capable of understanding what is going on when you start showering love and attention on the baby.  I also gave so much attention to my first baby; my son was 23 months old when I gave birth to his sister.  I had purchased little baby toys and wrapped them so each time the new baby received a gift, I would give my son one to unwrap also.  It is a small gesture to allow them to feel special and not jealous.  You won't be able to leave your oldest alone with the baby, i.e. (jumping in the shower, etc.).  I used to put my baby in a swing, keep the shower door open while my son played with toys to keep an eye on both at all times.  I also read to my son each time I fed my daughter...this allowed for bonding with both babies at the same time.  It's a great blessing...everything was 50/50...because I never wanted either to have hurt feelings.  

Answer 10

You will love your 2nd child just the same. There will be a special place in your heart for each child you have. Don't worry!

Answer 11

I was worried about this as well when I was pregnant with my second son. I do not have a favorite, I love different things about them.  In the end you will love them both so much.  

Answer 12

I love them the same, and have a different relationship w/ both of my girls. Sometimes I'm guilty of favoring my youngest, but I can bond w/ each of them. sometimes they need that individual one on one time w/ mommy beside group time w/ the whole family. They need that special time all to them selves w/ all of your attention. You should be fine, and yes u can love more than one equally...

~A