Pregnancy after miscarriage, is it normal to be so scared ?

Question

I have already had four full term pregnancy's resulting in my four wonderful boys, my youngest is 5. I had a miscarriage in October of last year and this is my first pregnancy since. That was my only miscarriage, and I was never nervous with the other pregnancy's, a little maybe but not like this. I am so scared I will miscarry again, I am running to the bathroom every five min to make sure I am not bleeding, every twinge freaks me out, I don't feel like my symptoms are "strong" enough. Is this normal?

I had blood work done yesterday and will again Friday to make sure my levels are rising, hope to get yesterdays results today.

Answer 1

Yes, it's very normal.  It's such a scary road to travel again after having such a horrible experience.  I am going through that right now.  I miscarried about 4 months ago and just found out a week or two ago that I'm expecting.  It's such a bitter sweet moment.  You are excited but then that excitement is subsided by the fear of going through that again.  I went twice in one week to get my blood work done the moment I found out I was pregnant.  I wanted to make sure my counts were rising properly.  I would honestly like to go back again this week but I'm doing my best to wait till my first appt next week.  As hard as it is, I keep tellign myself not to stress about it since stress isn't good for the baby.  I wish you all the best! And am very sorry for your previous lose.  Congrats on being pregnant too.  Good luck again

Answer 2

I too miscarried last November after 3 beauties. Sunday I began yet another miscarriage that hasn't progressed yet. It is absolutely okay to be terrified!  I right now am thinking I don't know if I'll ever be able to have s*x again. It is absolutely okay and call your OB's for everything no matter what.

Answer 3

im with u

i have had 2 babies since my miscarriage yet here i am wearing pads convinced im about to lose this 1

i also spend all day in the toilet sure im bleeding ive even started checking @ night

im cramping which can be normal but of course to me its yet another bad sign!

and feel my symptoms are not strong enough

doctor says its normal to worry hes a man what would he know!!!

you are defo not alone

good luck x x x x

Answer 4

it is very common to scared after a miscarriage. I had a micarriage in March 08 and April 08 and conceived again in may and currently I am 16.5 weeks and have been worried this entire pregnancy

Answer 5

I had 2 healthy pregnancies and then I had a miscarriage about 3 1/2 years ago. I am currently 17 weeks pregnant and I'm still worried to death about miscarriage. I think it's perfectly normal to worry like that, but it would be so much easier if there was some sort of guarantee, right? I will wish you the very best of luck with your baby and hope that you deliver a healthy, happy baby with no complications!

Answer 6

Yup..Normal..You will do this for quite a while..But, you will breathe a sigh of relief when you start feeling that baby move..Sorry for your loss..but this is normal.

Answer 7

I think regardless of weather you have had a previous miscarriage or not this is something every pregnant woman fears.  It is completely normal to feel like this, just try to relax and everything will work out for you this time.  Good luck

Answer 8

I'm right there with you.

It is TERRIFYING falling pregnant after you have had a loss.  And I can't think of a single thing that can reassure you that everything will be ok.  The only time I am convinced that I am pregnant is when I am at the doctor's having an ultrasound done.  The rest of the time I am analysing every twinge and pain and I'm constantly (sorry, tmi) squishing my b***s to make sure they are still sore!

All I can say is - hang in there.  There are lots of us in the same boat.  Chances are you've already had your share of the bad luck.

Answer 9

Yes, it natural to fear if this pregnancy will go full term since you already had a miscarriage.  

Answer 10

i have had 2 normal pregnancies and then january of last year i found out i had misscarried at about 12 weeks now im currently 24 weeks pregnant and i still soooo scared that ANYTHING could happen i dont think that feeling will ever go away until my baby is here safe in my arms....so it is normal to feel that away...good luck wit your pregnancy and congrats.