Pregnancy and depression HELP?

Question

So things are not so great in life and I have become depressed about it all, I am pregnant, no job, hubby and I just can't seem to make things better between us. I am having a hard time letting go of how I feel things should be and moving on. Just trying to find happiness in my life is so hard. I have a therapist, but that just is not enough what more can I do? I dont want to be around friends or family, I just want to be left alone.....I want to be better by the time baby is born. I just read that if a mother is depressed while pregnant that the chances of ppd is even greater - help!

Answer 1

I know you don't want to be preached too but everything will get better with time. If you truly and honestly put all of your faith and trust in God he will take care of everything for you. Try going to church and learning his word. Knowing what God has in store for you will help give you peace and a sound mind.  

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."

Proverbs 3:5-6

You should still continue to see your therapist until you feel stronger but I just wanted you to know that He will help you through all things....

Answer 2

i went through the fighting with hubby while pregnant with my son and i can only tell you what i did to help myself (no money for therapist) i tried to redirect my energy to the good things i had: friends, family and the son i was carrying. i wanted to seclude myself too but if you make yourself get together with people who love and care about you it will help. also try talking to your baby about how much you love him(or her) and tell the baby all the things you will do and learn together.  i did have ppd but not too bad i got through it the same way (no meds) and also through prayer. praying for the Lords help  helped me more than anything. good luck to you

Answer 3

I know how that feels like. I'm 25 weeks pregnant right now and things just started getting better for me. It doesn't happen naturally, though. You have to take steps to making yourself feel better and not just think that it'll disappear on its own. Have you talked to your partner about how you were feeling? I've had severe mood swings several times throughout my pregnancy and I used to fight every single day with my baby's father. Those emotions are just so hard to control, but he's been very understanding throughout the whole situation and I love him everyday for it. When I've calmed down, I explain things to him and of course I apologize that it was all the hormones talking and he doesn't think like it's a big deal. Try opening up to your mom or his family about it. In my case, I'm closer to my husband's family so I talk to them about my situation and they help me through it. Getting and feel better actually starts with you.. You need to put in extra effort and use your baby as your inspiration. That's what I'm doing and it's working out for me so far. Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

Hmmm.... pregnancy is the worst emotional roller coaster out there.  Imagine the Superman ride at Six Flags - only hourly =)  I think it's pretty normal to worry about making everything as best as possible for your new baby.  I thought the same thing with my first and it's worse this time around!  HOWEVER, I remember my first born's pediatrician commenting that his only advice for motherhood was to take it as it comes.  Don't worry, don't stress, just stop & smell the roses.  My wise 8 year old son also reminds me daily that he's not "sticking in the past" he's "moving forward."  Stellar advice from a young one, huh?

Try to count your blessings daily.  Remember this:  You don't live in a  country where women are subjected to cruelty just for being female.  You are having a baby - something thousands of people would give anything to have.  As for money - I know from personal experience that you can be practically penniless for several years and come out ahead.

Answer 5

Okay, you'll probably think this is stupid, but I would get a pet. A little kitten or something. Kittens always cheer me up :) I know a kitten won't take your problems away, but it might take your mind off things? Kittens are just so fluffy and loving and they depend on you and you can just lay there and cuddle with him, aww. They'll love you and not judge you.