Pregnancy outside of marriage & the lost bf: why only women are blamed at the end of the story?

Question

while her bf also involved in it? why women have been getting all the bad reputations for something bad that's done by men too?

blaming ONLY her isn't right. it must be both,and more to the man in fact, coz what men are without responsible. speaking of responsibility, the men in the girl's family should also be blamed altogether for not taking care of her properly. unless if they did, then it's ok.

not enough with the pain of pregnancy, childbirth and labor bleeding she then has to face the pain of humilities, while the men....? oh, hunting for the next prey?

why must the society be so shallow by putting it all on women? the worst thing about this is those who look bad at her aren't just the men, but women too... especially old folks.

Answer 1

Ideally both parties would behave in a responsible manner and share in the care of the child.  Unfortunately due to the one-sided reproduction rights, a woman holds the power and the mans future in the palm of her hand. Men do  suffer social and legal problems if they do not pay child support.

If a woman has reproductive rights not afforded to the fathers, then she should  bear the responsibilities that come with those rights...after all, it is her body, correct?

Answer 2

yes she might be the one to be blamed, and this is because she shouldn't have trusted the man in the first place. the pregnancy could have raised from her lust for him but she should have known better than to have unprotected s*x. if it was rape, he has to be reported. if they never had anything to prevent the pregnancy, and no time to get to a pharmacy, she should have opted for masturbating rather.

girls have to be cleverer than that cuz we cant just change the way ppl look at females, its easier to help ourselves than expect others not to talk foul of us.

thanks

Answer 3

She is the blame because while it takes two to tango she didn't have to open her legs plain and simple

Answer 4

Men aren't given any say or responsibility until the child leaves the female. What happens up to that point is entirely the females responsibility.

Your body your choice.

You are living in a victims fantasy world if you believe that, once the child is born, men get off scott free. They don't.

Answer 5

If that is the case please explain the term "deadbeat dad" as well as why this man can have a forced paternity test, wages garnished even imprisoned.

Answer 6

I agree with your remarks.  The reality is that the female inherits the mistake without being insulting to the child.  Usually, the male is not thinking beyond the upcoming weekend. I have considered your general situation for many years.  The tragedy for me is the promise of the females future altered as a result of an unplanned baby and so many hopes and dreams devastated.  I think you have to decide to go forward and achieve the goals you set for yourself.  Adults really see the father as the weak one in the story.  Because he will not step up and face his responsibilities.  Maybe, your age group sees it differently.  I do not know as I was never a teenager in reality.  Poverty makes you want out rather than love.  Trust me when I state that you are not the blame goat in the story you present.  In fact, you have the emotional of support of people you will never meet. The boy?  How can anyone respect his behavior?  What is his character?   Reach your own conclusions.  Forget blame.  It is less important than your future and the baby being brought here with love and teachers of wise lessons all around her.  Your family is not the object of blame.  You trusted someone and it did not nearly as it should have.  Answer:  the word "blame" should be dropped from the discussion.  Remember, the public does only sees one party as weak and lacking.  And it is not you or the baby.   Good luck.  Keep your confidence in yourself.  

Answer 7

I will tell you the reason why. If you were not so wrapped up in self and thought about doing the right thing you would have gotten married not knocked up .

  I am sick of women  complaining this very thing pointing fingers at others

  when you should be pointing at themselves

You get pregnant not him

I will be paying child support through higher taxes not him

  Your kids will be hearing  other kids saying "you ain't got no daddy not him  

  And worse of all if you are a woman of color you are living up to the stereotype that we have been trying to get away from

  And you were not really even responsible enough to use protection when you gave the milk away for free

  I hope all you got was pregnant and not some venereal sickness

because if he ran up in you all raw dog he did it to one before you and the next one as well

  I am a Father of four daughters and I told them what i expect from them  They better NEVER come around hear shaming the forefathers and mothers by trying to be "MODERN "and "NOW "That's not becoming to anyone who is anyone in life  

And as for the celebrity crowd they got money . And they got something fall back on

The bottom line is|" KEEP YOU d**n LEGS CLOSED" !!!and if you cant, get a cucumber

Answer 8

The premise of this question has no scientific basis and thus I cannot offer a reasonable answer.  This is referred to as a "loaded" question.