Pregnancy weight gain, will she be able to shed it?

Question

My best friends youngest sister is pregant for the first time. She is 31. The baby is due in December. She is approx. 5ft7 tall and weighs at present 205 lbs which is equivalent to 93 kgs or 14.6 stone. Some women get back to their ideal weight as before pregnancy and others seem to have a problem. They stay at that weight. She had suffered from prenatal depression and a psychosis and was admitted into hospital because she talked a lot about death...Now she is at home and doing housework but she said to go back to work is too stressful to her and she has a sick note to stay at home from now and they have to keep the job open for her for the coming 3 years..She is not the kind of person who exercises. She is interested in a lot of creative hobbies and if they go abroad in snorkling but not other physical exercise and she is an expert cook. I wonder if she will remain at that weight which might bring back some depression if she does. Her husband buys her chocolate daily and she is eating a lot of cakes etc. right now. She has a craving for a lot of sweet things only. She is an expert housewife who keeps their house in perfect order but I am also afraid if she had prenatal depression that she may get postnatal depression again which is a lot more typical and her prenatal depression was extreme. She was in a psychiatric ward ..Psychosis and severe depression with thoughts of suicide...

Answer 1

she has these other serious mental problems and you're worried if she'll lose her pregnancy weight? some friend you are.

Answer 2

depression fits the criteria in what your saying, the problem is you can only help someone if they want to be helped, if she can recognise what she went trhough prior to her pregnancy and realise she may be sifering from pre and post nata depression then she needs to get help now before bubs comes along

Answer 3

maybe u cud just support her an be a friend to her now. perhaps u cud interest her in one of those exercise programs for moms, or yoga programs u do with ur baby. or u cud become gym buddies after she has the baby ♥ gud luck  

Answer 4

she does have some issues that may originate from her past catching up with her but she needs to take a step back and watch her life as if it was on tv and see different points of views . for eg. say she was bullied all her primary school life and she never stood up for herself at all. why where these people venting their c**p on her in the first place? well it because they found the most weakest link the most emotional person they could pick on so that they could make someone feel exactly how they felt. they just dont realise how much impact that they had on her life . now what i suggest you do is to invite her to a social group or as i love to call it body pump as the weight will just fall off. its awsome . and she needs to get confidence.she will also need weekly or daily conseling as she can take the baby along. she needs to see that not everyones perseption is the same as the others and she needs to learn that. and she needs to learn that if she doesnt use her muscles she will loose them and they will all turn to fat meaning she will be the size of a house soon. buy the slimming magazines,go to the doctors and ask for a dietician referal. and she needs to love herself because she doesnt . if she did love herself she would not talk about death and suicide. i believe if a person commits suicide their problems do not go away, that they relive the day that they died until they forgive themselves for being a child and love themselves. if need be you should write a letter to her gp. take care and remember if you burn the bridge of friendship at this delicate time you are never welcomed back ive been at her level and my kids told me to get over it .so if i can do it anyone can.take care if you do things positivly happiness will follow but if you do things negativly you will attrack sadness and anger. make her write a journal and write down why she is thankful to be alive eg to be blessed to have this baby. if she feels good inside she will feel good outside. take care she needs help from a friend.

Answer 5

I think her mental health is more important then weight at this point and time. Like the other person said......some friend you are.

Answer 6

If she doesnt get help with her mental issues not only she will NOT lose the weight she will probably gain even more!!!

No baby needs chocolate and cake and if she is not eating healthy even the baby will have problems with obesity when she/he is born and grown.

Answer 7

I think the "weight" is the least of her (and your) concerns. She has serious mental issues to deal with, and that's "weighty" enough!  Further, the weight may be a symptom of her mental health, and not the other way around...

Answer 8

Well I gained 20 lbs and after the baby was born I was back to the same I was before. It was all baby. but after a month I gained it back and haven't lost it yet. If she doesn't get out and walk she should do exercises or she wont just like me. : (

Answer 9

i think the question was saying if your body is in bad shape your mind can be. been so overweight can have an effect on your mental state.

try to encourage her to walk with you or maybe swim?