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Pregnancy:Now or never...but am i too young?

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Im 17 years old and i will be 18 in a few months. I am in a relationship with another woman and i desperatly want to have a child. Have thought through everything and i know approxamatly how much i would need in a year. I know it would be tight for now but my family and partner would help me through the first few years until i finished shcool and could get up on my own. I have always said i would wait but i have resently developed a condition that will eventually render me infertile. However i dont know what i can do to get pregnant besides having s*x with male friends without them knowing of my intentions. I am asking you what you think about this. Should i work hard tc now while i can despite the age. Or wait and risk never having a child at all?

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  1. ill sell u a tube of seamen

    lol

    jk


  2. see a clinic about getting impregnated, having s*x with a male friend and him not knowin your intentions would be wrong i promise you, please dont do that.

    but i wish you well and hope you get a baby!

  3. You are too young to have all this on you right now.

    Wait awhile and your partner can have a baby.It will still be yours. right? RIGHT????

    or maybe you are more hetero than you thought.You better wait and adopt with a husband of male gender.I think you might want to wait and see if you are a true L*****n or if its just a little phase.

  4. i dont think your too young, but if ur not ready adoption is an option

  5. This is one situation where I think you should have a baby. I know a lot of people are telling you you are too young and you need to adopt, etc but judging by the circumstances this really is your last chance if you are going to be infertile soon. And I think every woman has the right to have their own child even if they are young. No one should be forced to adopt because society doesn't think they should have a child. Adoption is great, but some women just want their own flesh and blood.  

    I think with your family and partner behind you this is perfectly do-able.

    What you should do is take the next few months until you are 18 to get yourself healthy. Make sure you are getting the required vitamins, especially folic acid and just take this time to get in prime health. Then when you are 18 you should consider visiting a sperm bank. I'm not expert on how that works, but my interpretation is that they usually just take a tube filled with sperm and shove it up you know where and release the little swimmers. Depending on your condition you might need invitro fertilization, which is a bit more complicated. you should visit your doctor now and find out which one of those will work best for you and then just use the months until you are 18 to prepare your body.

    Have you considered your partner having the child? I know it would not be your own and you want your own, but if worse comes to worse there is always that option if she is willing.

    Good Luck.

    Oh and another answer I saw above was harvesting your eggs. You could actually harvest your eggs and store them and then when the time is right your partner could act as the surrogate if you aren't able to.

    jrhswomen: Lesbians have as much right to childbearing and childrearing as single parents, interracial parents, poor parents, old parents, young parents.... There is no proof that children are raised to be g*y. I ALMOST wish a g*y child on you so you can see what its like. I say "Almost" because I don't think you could handle it and I would feel sorry for the child.

    To the person below me, the chance of miscarriage at age 18 is about the same as it is for women age 25. The chances of miscarriage are the highest in under 16's and over 35's. Inbetween that is actually prime childbearing age.

  6. Rather than spend the $5-10k this year on having a baby, why don't you look into having your eggs harvested and frozen for use years from now when you're emotionally and financially ready for this.  I think the use of the money would be completely worth it....then you can do IVF with donated sperm from someone anonymous.

  7. maybe you should get a man and stop your sinful ways

    just a thought

  8. I think maybe you should wait untill your life is stable, and then adopt, its really a win win, you save a child and gain a family.

  9. talk to a specialist about haversting your eggs in the mean time and when the time is right, use a sperm bank to fetizle them and have a donor carry the child. Win-win all way around. Currently, stay in school and get your degree's. You will be glad you did.

  10. wait a bit (18 yr olds often miscarry), go to some kind of college program, adopt or look into sperm doners, its much safer

  11. You're too young. Seriously. I'm 17 years old too, and I have three kids. Financially, I'm doing very well, but emotionally and physically, it's extremely hard. I wish I would have waited, even though I love my children more than anything. I would say risk it. If your still dependent on your family, then now is not the time. There's always adoption, and you could have your partner have a baby later in life, if your serious about being with her. Finish school, get a good job, get your life in order, then think about a baby.

  12. First you should go to school longer to learn to spell.  Then you should go to a head doctor because you seem to have some issues.  Your intentions are awful and you should be ashamed.  By the sounds of your question, you are not mature enough to handle a child now.  Children come with BIG questions and you can't decide whether to scam a guy into giving you a baby?  Grow up first and then get married to a man and live happily ever after

  13. They have a program called sperm donor. You could find someone that will do that and sometimes guys will just do it for the sake. He gives that doctor the sperms and than they are placed in you without having s*x!

  14. Yeah I know everyone will hate me for saying this but why would you want to bring a child into a lesbion relationship it is one thing for you to want to live that life but why in the world would you want to teach a child that it is ok becuase guess what it isn't everyone wants to act like it is these  days but it still isn't it is still as gross and wrong as it was ten years ago when no one was ok with it and everyone who was g*y didn't want anyone else to know oh how i wish that it was still like that

  15. definately too young

    maybe you should try keeping soeone elses baby for a week and see what it is like

    but even if you do that it wouldnt be the full expierience

  16. wait till your older and adopt. like that person up there said, you can save a poor child at get your own.

  17. if your in a relationship with another woman thats your first problem find a man and get on with your life

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