Pregnant, Depressed boyfriend won't speak 2 me cuz i won't get rid of baby & might lose job cuz im not married

Question

Positives- i am 24, i just bought a new house 5 mnths ago, i have a car, i have family support & i have a good job.

Negatives - Just got out a 5yr relationship & jumped into another 1 a few mnts later... new b/f & i have been dating for 3mnths & now i am pregnant...he was the greatest thing next to slice bread until i got pregnant he told me to get an abortion cuz he can't financially handle it right now he already has 2 children & he is a builder & the market sucks at the moment, well once i said i wanted to keep it he flipped & i haven't spoken to him in a few days now...now i work for a very prestige firm & I was sat down by 2 coworkers who know my situation & told me basically what i might be in 4..as a single black woman i might be in jeopardy at my job because they worry about reputation etc & most of woman at job have put kids on hold to focus on career..so for me to have no college degree walking around single etc. might be a problem & they will find an exuse to get rid of me

Answer 1

They cant sack  a unmarried mother like that it happens please hold on nothing else will matter  to you when you hold your lovely baby in your arms beat of luck

Answer 2

Please do not get the abortion! I had 1 when I was happily married with 2 kids already and scared to death I couldn't handle another.  It was the biggest mistake of my life. The experience was and still is a nightmare.  You will regret it EVERYDAY for the rest of your life.  If they ask you at work tell the you eloped but decided to keep your name for business reasons. As for the baby daddy tell him where to go, he is the last thing you need ever.

Answer 3

Its illegal if you get fired because you are unmarried and pregnant. Call your lawyer cause  you have a lawsuit! And its your body not his. If you want to keep the baby, you can.

Dont have an abortion! there are so many people in the world that need kids, no need to kill one! And if he dont support you (emotionally not money wise) then you really dont need that, but its your choice.

We cant choice for you.

congrats by the way!

Answer 4

If I were you I would definitely NOT have an abortion. Almost the same situation happened with my friend, besides the job part. She stressed herself to no end and finally decided to have the abortion. Well right after the guy told her that it was really up to her and that he regretted telling her to abort the pregnancy.  She now regrets it everyday. I don't know too many people who have had abortions but the ones I do say they would never do it again no matter what the circumstances were. The guy will come around, if not then he's not worth being in the child's life anyway. I have several friends who are single parents. It's not easy but if you have support from your friends and family everything will work out. It may be a little tougher than you'd like but seeing your child will give you a whole different perspective on what's important. Also, there is always adoption if you feel you can't do this at this point in your life. As for the job... I'm not sure what to tell you about that, but who is anyone to judge your life and the way you live it. It is definitely against the law the fire someone for having a child out of wedlock but you're right they could put any reason down. I wish I could give you more advice on the job but if you need to talk e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

you say you cant imagine not having the guy in your life are you crazy hes trash come on it will be worst thinking every day you killed your child they are the most beautiful thing in the world im alone with my son and love everyminute im with him so dont get rid of him you can get another job but you will never have the same child you will regret it all your life

Answer 6

why didn't u have safe s*x instead?

Answer 7

If you and your boyfriend cannot work things out because he is an ******, then ditch him. You own your own house and sound like you have a good job, if you think you can do it on your own then go for it! You have the family support, that is more than a lot of single mothers!!! Also, your work doesn't need to know that you are a single gal having a baby, for all they know you and the father are happy! Just don't tell them, it's definitely none of their business whether or not you are married or even with the father. Good Luck!

Answer 8

watever happens, happens fact is you want this baby! i see your problem, but there are more jobs out there

Answer 9

As far as the job is concerned, that's the worst case scenario. Your boyfriend is a jerk. Chances are, even if you abort as he wishes, he'll leave anyway. Then, you'll have no boyfriend and a dead baby. Life has a way of working itself out. And since you mentioned that you didn't want to be a statistic....Here's one for you-EVERYDAY in America 1,452 black babies are killed by abortion. That's over 13 million babies in the last 30 years, or 1/3 of the current African American population. Like you, your kiddo doesn't want to be a statistic. Have your baby and love him/her. You'll both be glad ya did. Best wishes!

Answer 10

If you get fired because you are unmarried and pregnant you have a lawsuit on your hands, they can't do it! and 2. If you want to keep your baby, keep it don't be pressured by your bf's reaction, he may or may not change your mind, but you will never be able to forget his reaction.

Answer 11

Please, please, please, do not abort your baby.  Your boyfriend should not ask you to do this.  Would you consider adoption?  You can even do open adoption now.  Your boyfriend needs to grow up and be responsible.  If you give in to his wishes, you might regret it for the rest of your life.  Please be responsible and give your baby a chance.  Good luck on your job situation.  God bless you.

Answer 12

keep the baby if u want to, dont let what he says influence u to do something u dont want. also the women at ur job, dont pay them no mind do whats best for u and if u do get fired(wich i dought) sue! good luck, do whats in ur heart not ur mind(as far as pressure) u sound successful and smart!

Answer 13

Im sorry you have to go through this.  I can only imagine.  Remember that you do have family support.  Sometimes thinking about what is positive in a bad situation gets you through it.  Know that no one makes decisions for you and your child except you, his being upset gives you no reason to abort if that be Your decision.  As far as your job, as someone previously said, you have a law suit on your hands if they fire you.  However, maybe something else will come along that will help you put your child first, and career second.  Good Luck! And Congrats!