Pregnant Teen....???

Question

before you jump to conclusions, it's not me that's pregnant. It's my friend. My friend's 15 and she just told me that pregnant & doesn't know what to do. I don't want to be the one to convince her to keep/give away/terminate her baby. I want to ask my mom about what to do, but she'll never believe that it's actually MY FRIEND. and not me. What should i do?

Answer 1

Dominicksorino, are you a male? If so it's impossible for you to know how any women, never mind most feel about anything. So please butt out. I don't advocate any one choice, but you need to get your friend some counseling quickly before her options run out. I have had an abortion in the past and it was the right choice for me at the time, however not everyone in a situation like this would find that to be the correct choice. Adoption is also a great option and there are plenty of people out there who would love to have a child and are able to do so. No matter what it's really important that you convince your friend to talk to an adult she trusts ASAP and yahoo answer boards is not the place for her to find that help!

Answer 2

Most women deeply regret having abortions after they do. its easy to want an abortion in a situation like this, but your friend will most likely feel bad for many years to come. what you need to do is support her, and tell her to keep the baby and do everything you can for her because these next few years will be hard.

also you can learn the lesson from her mistake, don't have s*x if your not ready to have a baby.

Answer 3

let her do what she wants with the baby. tell her it's totally up to her. it's her business

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is convince your friend to talk to a trusted adult.  I understand it is difficult to talk to a parent and although I would like to say tell her mother I'm not sure that would be helpful in all families, so instead I am going to say rack your brain to think of the most understanding and responsible adult you know and go with your friend to confide the problem.  Hopefully this person will be able to give your friend some of the guidance she desparately needs.  If you cannot think of an adult you would trust then my suggestion is to have your friend call her pediatrician.  A doctor has the obligation to keep information confidential even in the case of a minor and will be able to explain to your friend her options.  If she is afraid of talking to her own pediatrician then look in the phone book for a free clinic.  It is very important no matter what she decides to get prenatal care for both her and the health of the baby.

Answer 5

well i think that you need not to be afrid of what your moms gonna think and if u tell her your not the one she probely will belive u but u need to talk to her cause your friend is in torouble and needs your help oveusly sense she came to u so go to your mom and aske her what u can do to help her and o think u should wach one life to live cause they have a verry good story line about teen pregnensy and it could help your situation i also dont think she should abort the bay she should give it up 4 adoption  

Answer 6

Well has she told her mom and the father of the baby? Cause that is what i did right away. and as her friend tell her you are going to support and love her the same no matter what she chooses. you have tor eally mean that too. just please make sure that she really thinks about what she is going to do because both will have differnet and very big affects on her life.  

Answer 7

All you can do is be there for your friend.  Tell her she needs to talk to tell her parents.. maybe offer to be with her when she does if she is scared to tell them.

I was pregnant at 17 and know that it can be a very scary time for her.  She needs all the support she can get  - she doesnt need anyone telling her what she should do.  I dont recommend you talking to your mom until she talks to her parents.  That way they dont find out from someone else.  She can also go to Planned Parenthood (look it up in the white pages for your area) and they will talk to her about her options.

Like I said, just be there for her and support her  in whatever decision is made.

Good Luck

Answer 8

ask your mom. if its truly not you and your telling her the truth then its not you and you shouldnt be worried that she is going to think its you.

be there for your friend. honestly, no matter how old you are abortion is the WRONG thing to do. its a life. if you cant take care of it or arent mentally and financially ready, dont get an abortion, put it up for adoption so it can have a family that CAN take care of it and give it a good life

Answer 9

Stand by her side throughout the whole pregnancy!  I was pregnant at 15 and all my friends left me because I was "no fun" anymore and i had to grow up fast.  Best of luck!

Answer 10

It's her life.  As a friend all you can do is be there for her.

Answer 11

AS A FRIEND IT'LL BE BEST TO GET YOUR MOM AN ASK HER JUST TELL HER YOU KNOW IT'S NOT ME BUT YOU MAY THINK IT BUT I'LL DO EVERYTHING YOU'D LIKE TO PROVE IT TO YOU IF YOU HAVE THOUGHTS BUT SO IN SO IS PREGNANT AND IS VERY WORRIED ABOUT IT ALL I KNOW SHE'S YOUNG BUT SHE TOLD ME OUT OFCONFIDENCEE AN I DON'T WANT TO BE THE ONE TO TELL HER WHAT TO DO SINCE I AM NOT AN ADULT I DO NEED HELP. MAYBE YOUR MOM CAN HELP HER AN BE WITH HER WHEN SHE TELL'S HER PARENTS OR WHAT NOT ITS ALWAYS BEST TO GET AN ADULT INVOLVEDD WHEN YOUR IN DOUBT SINCE OF YOU AGES...GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS BOTH YOU

Answer 12

I believe abortion is wrong.its the same thing as murder,Who are we to say who can live and who can die? I would suggest telling her to go threw with the pregnancy and try to adopt to someone she knows so the child doesnt get stuck in foster care. i understand, i have a friend who's in 7th grade and pregnant, I know it sucks not being able to make it better. but all you can do is do your best to help guide her.

Answer 13

tell her to tell her parents. They would know what to do. Or they would make a decision for her if she cant make her decisions.

Answer 14

she needs to tell her parents. she obviously won't want to but she has to..they'll get mad obviously but they'll know what to do and will give better advice than a friend who hasn't gone through this yet. They'll get over it eventually..

Answer 15

you should tell your mom, and if you have to tell her which one. Just explain it SO SHE KNOWS ITS NOT YOU

Answer 16

tell your mom because if your friend is pregnant she is going to need prenatal care.  

Answer 17

Have her go to http://www.standupgirl.com  

It's a site for young pregnant girls, started by one who has "been there/done that".  It is the most amazing site on the Web for prenatal images, so in addition to finding some support online she can educate herself about her pregnancy.

If by chance you happen to be in the Los Angeles County area, try these online locations:

http://www.hisnestingplace.org

http://www.lapsforlife.org

Good luck!

Answer 18

give her a specific name

if thats possible

and explain to her

i want your opinion

on this but dont want you to lose trust in me

or doubt it when i tell you thats it is not me

Answer 19

Have her contact the pregnancy crisis center.  

pregnancycenters.org

They are pro-life, but will gladly help her deal with her parents and provide information about her options.  They have experience with situations such as this.  Please have her contact them.  She doesn't have to go it alone.

Answer 20

you should tell her to tell her parents about it and hopefully nothing goes bad but dont let her loose the baby

Answer 21

Tell your friend to go to her school counselor.  And then get a termination before she ruins her and someone else's life.  It's no fun being born to a teenage mother, or even worse, adopted.  

Answer 22

I work at a medical centre and there is a girl who goes there, shes just turned 16 and has a 4 month old daughter. She was 15 when she had her and now shes just about 2 months pregnant again.

She would have just turned 17 or will just about to turn 17 and have 2 babies!

So crazy.

But i admire her courage to bring up these babies!

Just be there for your friend and make sure she goes to a professional to seek help!!

Answer 23

the your friend to go to http://plannedparenthood.org