My story is kind of a long one. And any advice that can be given is appreciated. I have been with a guy on and off for 9 years now. I have a three year old son and daughter due in October. We have had a rocky past ( i believe mostly in part because we were high school sweethearts and had alot of learning to do). We had previously been engaged when my son was an infant, however- I chose to give the ring back and ended our relationship after he began hanging out with a group of guys who created alot of problems. It had seemed as though my ex had regressed back to his high school years while I was at home with our baby.He lost contact with us for 6months and then decided he wanted to be a parent again. Nevertheless, we went through custody and visitation for our son and had a plan worked out we both could live with. I still have had feelings for him, i was just hoping somewhere in my head he would grow up and we could actually be a family.
About a year goes by- and I decided I needed to tell him how i felt and try to make things work again. We had alot of family time together and it all seemed to be coming together. And then I fond out in March(08) I am pregnant with our second child. I was nervous but happy! I honestly thought it might be a blessing in disguise. He kind of acted indifferent, and I assumed that maybe it was because it was our second or that he was just being a guy ( scared ) or whatever. We had talks about it and abortion had came up, I told him no- and that even if we did not end up together we would not have another custody issue , it could remain the same as our son had been on. And things were ok, we still had stupid fights but for the most part we got along. I have gotten close with his mom and used her as a support system when things do get hard.
He had asked me to move in with him, and I am in my last year of nursing school so I told him as soon as i graduate I will, so he is not left supporting me and 2 babies.I thought that was the most responsible thing to do, but maybe I am wrong.
But anyway, since June my life has been in a downward spiral. My parents ( whom i have been very close to ) are seperating due to an affair, my mother who had been sober for 12 years began drinking again. And I needed him more than ever. Even though I am an adult, it has hit me equally as hard. I spent alot of time with him and just wanted to create a stable family. And as soon as things look up- he starts getting text messages from an ex (someone with him during custody issues). Instead of confronting him, i talked to his mom, she told me the girl had been too obsessive and he had quit talking to her. She had also just seperated from her husband. So I let it go. I didnt want to create a issue out of nothing. And then a week later, my bf and I go out to dinner. The whole time this girl is texting. I finally said something, I do not know if it was hormones or what, but I broke down in tears. I can't deal with anything else going wrong. He said she will not leave him alone and he loves me. I have never had infedelity issues with him in the past, so once again, i let it go. Well again for the past two nights- she has been at it- and last night I had enough. I told him his girlfriend must desperatley need to talk to him, "SHE NEEDED TO TALK TO HIM ASAP", and then later wrote why are you not responding- ?, he basically ignored me for the rest of the night- and i decided to just go home rather then spend the night then hurt myself more. I am now almost 7 months pregnant, and literally going insane. I do not know what else I can do- I feel like its my fault for s******g everything between us up. But at the same time, I am not sure what any other person would have done. I know this is long and possibly confusing, but i need advice on what to do? do i leave him alone until he comes around? should I call this girl and see if something is going on? I feel like such a fool.
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