Pregnant and feeling alone....?

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Me and my bf just found out I was pregnant( very unexpected) he was all excited and i was very upset and worried. But kind of got over it when he told me that he would take care of me and i mean i really i belive him!!! well a few nights later i was staying at his parents and when we woke up in teh morring his mom had a "talk" with me telling me how awful of a person i am and how my family is not very tradtional.(me and my bf just recently got back together after a very bad break up and his family did know till that day she caught us together) well anys after the talk i was very upset my bf didnt stand up for me and just felt like ****. to top it all off he dosent want to be with me till i explain to his family how much i love him and i have to convince them that i am good for him. well let me tell you i feel emotional and cant handle his mom yelling at me like she did i dont think no matter what i say they will ever like me.( i am 22, he is 25) so now i am left alone going back to college this semester and hes the only one that knows and i just feel so a lone. i dont know what i am asking here i guess i just need to vent and have someone say somthing..... thanks

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before the break up his family loved me.... but after he talked alot of **** and so did his friends to his family. it just hurts so much i am a very nice girl and love this man with all my heart. there is not alot of ppl that dont like me( i am not concited, i just am a friendly person) so i am left 6 weeks pregnant and the one person i though would stand next to me has ditched me. i am a strong person, but i want to share this with him... this is a huge mildstone in our life and he wants no part. i know i am luck to be able to concive but its just not how i wanted thing to happen.......( i know life is not perfect) its just sucks that men have no idea whats it like to have somthing inside you, that they are able to just get up and leave like that!!!!

Answer 1

I wouldn't worry about him too much. If he loves you and your unborn baby he will come back and won't listen to his parents or friends. You and the baby should be more important then anything else. He is 25, i wouldn't expect him to act like he is 16. Good luck. And congrats on the little one. They are all you need.  

Answer 2

I know it is hard but if he can't even be a man and stick up for the mother of his child to his family, then he has no guts.  Tell him that this is his child, and you both need to think of what is best for this child.... Even if you have to maybe talk to his family and tell them that it is no longer about YOU or him anymore, it is about a baby and why would anyone want to bring a baby into a stressful environment full of tension?  It is HER grandchild, wouldn't she like to have a relationship with him/her?

I think that if your boyfriend stuck with you, through the thick and the thin, that his family would eventually get over it and see past all of the things that have been said and see the baby.  My boyfriend's family hated me after I told them about my pregnancy but as it has progressed and them seeing my boyfriend with me, and knowing the s*x of the baby and grasping the reality of it - they have come around and relaxed a little bit to the idea of a new addition to the family.

If your boyfriend is not man enough to own up to his responsibility and give this baby a great father, and create a healthy environment for this baby (it may mean moving out of his house and living at a place of his own!) then I would say he is not worth the effort on your behalf.  You are carrying a child, you need to be healthy and secure, and you can't be that with all of the drama going on.  If he can't be good for you or your baby then you can find someone who will be in the future.  Being a single parent is hard, but just think of how much you will love that baby when he/she comes out and how much that child deserves a happy place to live and a healthy life.

Answer 3

that is true, there are a great many boys as i call them that want the thrill of the moment in the sack and forget the rest that goes with the territory.   i am sorry for you that he is behaving like this. and his family to think that you are the only one that is responsible for the baby on the way,,takes two to tango.  just hang in there and make the best choices for you and the little one, there are agencies out there to see you through.  

take care and if you are feeling like you would do harm to yourself and baby, there are hotlines in the front of your phone book that you  can call.

Answer 4

Honey let me tell you first of all that its really awful to feel alone when you are preganat but I can relate to that. I got pregant when I was 18 and in my senior year of high school and my bf never took the time to make an effort or even be there for me through my pregancy. We still stayed together up until recently, she is now 2 and a half, and he honestly never did any good. You are in a much better situation to be out of that relationship now instead of later. If he really couldn't be there for you now he really never could at all then. When you bring a child into this world, as some of us lucky women are able to do so, the best thing you can do for them is to give them the best life ever. Not being with him now is better then staying with him and fighting all the time while your child is growing up. It takes a real emotional toll on not only yourself but your child as well. My daughter has suffered greatly because of the realtionship her father and I had and I hope that this will help you realize how important it is to make sure life is great for you child. If I could go back I would have wished my BF would have walked away before I gave birth, it would have made my situation better. Best of luck dear and I hope everything goes well with you and your baby

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish I can tell you that it'll just be like this for a while but I can't. No one should be yelling at you and telling you anything and your bf is so immature for not standing up to you. In a way I can relate with you because before when I was just my husband's gf everyone in his family loved me, but after that they found out we were getting married, they hated me. So now I'm married and pregnant with our first child. I too feel so alone. I'm 18 weeks preggo. My husband is in mexico getting his papers fixed and his family is telling him all these awful things about me and when I was with him in mexico for 3 months, his family made me feel like the worst and he never stood up for me.

Look I have been strong all my life and there is no need for me to prove to anyone and neither do you. The one thing that you can do is talk with your bf alone and tell him how it made you feel that his parents talked to you that way and that if you really didn't love him that you wouldn't be with him, but that you do love him and that you want to raise this baby together. Tell him that there are going to be so many obstacles that will get inbetween both of you but if you both love eachother, respect eachother, trust eachother and cherish eachother, then you guys will be together for the longest time.

If he doesn't budge to nothing, you'll have to be strong and I know you can do it. If he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life, the only person who will be missing out will be your bf. Your baby will always love you unconditionally and anyone who really loves you will always be by your side no matter what. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy. Remember a baby is always a blessing and an angel sent especially for you.

Answer 6

When you marry, you get the family as part of the package. I think you need to see a counselor or a minister and explore your options.  

Answer 7

Sweetie, I am so, so sorry for everything you're going through right now.  Listen to me, you are NOT a bad person.  His mother is an idiot!  It takes two people to have a baby, and her son is just as responsible as you are.  No one has the right to tell you that you're a bad person, and don't you dare believe her or anyone who says anything like that to you!

Anyway, you have to look at this from a long-term perspective.  Your boyfriend knows you're pregnant and he won't stay with you unless you convince his mom that you're a good person?  F that!  If he's not going to take care of you and stand by you now when you need him the most, chances are he won't be there down the future.

Knowing that, you have a decision to make.  You have three options.  You can have the baby and raise it, give the baby up for adoption, or have an abortion.  Now, I am not qualified to advise you on these options, so I would suggest seeing your local planned parenthood center in addition to seeing a doctor for pre-natal care, and maybe even a counselor to help you with your feelings regarding the baby's father and his family.

It's a very long road ahead, but you can do it, and there's help out there for you.  I hope you look for it.  And please, don't do anything thinking that this guy will be there for you and take care of you.  It would be nice if it happens that way, but by the way he's acting now, he might just leave you alone and broke with a baby while still in college.  Please, seek medical care and counseling.  You have my best wishes and prayers.

Answer 8

Ok sweetheart my heart out to you....Its never a nice feeling to feel alone even more when your pregnant.

But now thanks to the internet .... Youdon'tt have to be alone there are plenty of pregnancy  sites  with chat rooms out there with mums, mums to be, etc who are willing to pal up with you through the ups and down in pregnancy

Give it a try  

These sites were amazing to me when i had a silent loss in jan  and through  out this pregnancy..

Baby centerr.com and ivillage.co.uk and am sure there are many...

hey am always ready for a pregnancy pal feel free to email me

hugs