Pregnant and hate the idea of having my own child, help?!?

Question

I never liked the idea of having my own kids, and I've always been grossed out by the idea of pregnancy. I think other people's children are cute, and wouldn't mind adopting 10 years down the line. But now, I just found out that I am pregnant, and I'm horrified by the idea. I feel like my life is over, and I'm afraid that I'll hate the child if I keep it. I deeply resent it already, I don't know if it's more that I hate the idea of my own offspring, or that it's going to take over my life. Why do I detest the idea of my own children so much?

Answer 1

give it up for adoption.

Answer 2

I would talk to a therapist if you are feeling overwhelmed or depressed by the idea.  Your depression may worsen. I thought being pregnant would be horrible but I have been pleasantly surprised that it's not as bad as I thought it would be.   I also have no clue what to do with babies.. I'm a little scared of having a boy (which is what mine is) and I wonder if I'll be a good parent because sometimes I feel like I can barely take care of myself.   You may be surprised at how your feelings may change when you hear the heartbeat for the first time... when you feel him move for the first time... when you see the first pictures of him.   If you have the baby, post partum depression is also I think more common in people who are suffering from depression during pregnancy..so let your doctor know how you feel.   Also keep in mind..there are SO many people waiting to adopt babies.. so if this is something you absolutely don't want ... consider giving your baby up for adoption.  I know people who would give anything to have a baby..even if it means adopting.

Answer 3

are you scared about the pain of child birth?

Answer 4

Ok you ask a earlier question about Aborting, did you actually look at those answers. Please go back and Look at the WEBSITE that Yahoo Answer DENISE posted. I am so sorry but if you can actually see those websites and not want to change your mind that you are cold hearted and do not deserve the blessing that children are. If you dont want your child than give it to someone that does. Here I am trying to have a baby.. and here you are having one and don't even want it.. This is so disturbing.

Answer 5

I'm the same way, but you should have been smarter when having s*x. Because I've got a feeling that you didn't use birth control AND a condom. Sooo you're at fault. Don't have the baby if you're going to hate it, whether you put it up for adoption or not, it will eventually find out and hate you just as much. So i'd recommend getting an abortion. it's not a child, it's mearly a fetus for the first few weeks. do it before it starts breathing so the remorse won't be as terrible on you.

Answer 6

i have no idea why you would hate your own flesh and blood, but now is the time to stop thinking about you and whats best for baby. my advice since you don't want the baby so badly find a family that does.

Answer 7

You're not ready to be a mommy yet. If you do keep it, it will probably change once you see your own baby that you created. They say it's a love like no other.

Answer 8

maybe you dont like yourself??  

Answer 9

I'm not sure why but if you were so against the idea the whole time then why weren't you being more careful?  Talk to your mom or girlfriends about what's going on. Pregnancy isn't "gross" it just sounds like you're a little immature.

Answer 10

I think that maybe your scared of mess it up. I think that you should one consider adoption rather then abortion but I am pro-choice anti abortion meaning no one should force to to have a child you don't want. Being pregnant does wonder to a woman, when you feel the baby move, your stomache growing. Your feelings might change over the coming months and even more so if you actually hold your child in your arms, look into thier eyes. I fall in love with my kids the very moment I find out I am prego but when I actually hold them in my arms I know that I would die for him and live for them. As for messing your kids up, it hard to. As long as you love them, kids will forgive any mistake. My mom made soooooooooooooo many but I know and feel that she loves me so I don't hold it against her. She is only human.  

Answer 11

It's pretty normal to go through a massive range of emotions regarding pregnancy, whether it's your own or not. If you can it would be a good idea to see if your doctor can recommend a good counsellor to talk to, to help you work through what you're feeling, and what choices are available to you.

All the best with whatever you do - I hope it works out for you.

Answer 12

Who knows? But, it's a little late for that now. You can always give the baby up for adoption.

Answer 13

I think you should wait. Go to the doctor make sure the baby is healthy do what you have to do. I think after a few months of this you'll love it. Learing what parts are devloping and seeing him or her on the sonogram is a great thrill.  

Answer 14

Well you should of THINK about that before you had s*x. Now that your brain seem to be some where smoking a joint! Y ou have to now take care of whats inside you. Or you can give it up