Pregnant....and realistic.........scared to death!?

Question

About two weeks ago I discovered that I was pregnant. My husband was out, and I had rented the movie "Juno" I started thinking about it and couldn't remember when my last period was and stopped the movie dead in it's tracks and went to the store to get a test. This pregnancy wasn't planned. Our one year anniversary is July 14th, and I am so frightened. My family is super excited, his family is as well...but here I am thinking my teaching job with a 30 minute commute is not enough..and then day care on top of that...how is this going to work for me? I see so many moms do it, but I feel so immature..and selfish!!! I feel like every single relationship I have will change, and we will be that couple that can never hang out (or will no longer be asked) because of our new addition...My husband is terribly hurt becasue I feel this way, but I desperately want to be happy about our baby...I'm just throwing all of this out there and looking for opinions, or comforting advice...

Answer 1

The only way you will be one of those couples that dont do anything cuz of the baby is if you let it be like that ... its  up to you how things go! Relationships with other ppl, and your husband.

Answer 2

I feel you. What people don't understand is that not everyone in the world is THRILLED to be pregnant. You have plans, goals, it's a scary world, you like life the way it is then BOOM... in 9 short months it's all going to be different.

The same thing happened to me. Sadly, unfortunately for you, you have a husband who is excited, and a family that is as well. When I ended up pregnant after being married 2 years, I was so mad at the world. I never wanted kids. Luckily for me, my husband wasn't happy with the situation either, so we decided to terminate the pregnancy. I literally couldn't find any happiness in then situation, so we decided we just didn't want to do it. I'm thankful I had him and all his support. To be left out there all alone with those feelings must be so terrifying. I wish you luck, and if you need to vent, feel free to e-mail me. Good luck!

Answer 3

Everything will work out. It might not seem like it right now, but it will. Learning you are pregnant is a shock, especially if it wasnt expected right now. There are a range of emotions that come with being shocked. It is a new and scary time. Some of your relationships will change, but not every single one. It is highly likely that you will make new relationships along the way. You wont feel like this forever.

:)

Answer 4

The moment you hear your baby cry while he/she is being born, the second they place him/her on your chest, and the instant he/she looks up at you- will melt all of these worries away.... TRUST me I was in a similar situation- and now i even feel guilty for feeling that way while my wonderful/gorgeous daughter was growing inside me....

Answer 5

One word: H O R M O N E S!  Just take it one day at a time and learn as much as you can about the baby.  Your life is going to ultimately change, but will with or without a baby.  I felt the same way with my first baby, a girl.  I was worried about our relationship and all that came with it, working and staying home, finances, etc.  She's 20 months today.  All I can say is that she's amazing and when she was born, it was the most amazing thing I ever seen or did.  To look at her tiny little eyes and see myself and my husband in one little person that was created is an amazing thing.  I can promise that you'll get more excited as it goes on.  Wait until you feel him or her moving and you see them moving around on the ultrasound.  It makes it that much more real and amazing that you are making a little person!  Congrats!