Pregnant at 14 1/2?..HELP ME!!!?

Question

I'm 14 1/2 my boyfriend and i had s*x we used a condom but i haven't had my period for a month so iwent to the health department yesterday and took a prego test and it said I WAS!!should i tell my mom and dad?i don't wanna have an abortion because i don't beleive in it i'm afraid theyll make me get one!!

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear about your situation.  You should talk to your parents.  You might want to consider calling a pregnancy hot line, they will help you to examine all of your options and make the best possible choice.  

Answer 2

you have no choice but to tell them and NO you shouldnt have to abort ignore those remarks.. being a mommy will be hard but its not a mission  impossible.  

Answer 3

they should another welfare baby

Answer 4

Most condom failures are from improper use. Your boyfriend was probably too young to understand how to use it properly. You probably should have waited another two years.

Personally, I think your parents have the right to make you get an abortion. They care about your future. You have a baby and you most likely won't finish high school.

America doesn't need another dropout.  

Answer 5

Yes hon, you definitely need to tell your parents. Yeah, they'll be mad, but you know what? They'll get over it. They love you and will want what is best for you. If you feel the need, maybe ask a trusted adult such as another family member, friend, teacher or counselor to help you talk to them. But you cannot do this alone. You are still a child! And a very young teenager to be preggo. Tell your parents. Sooner rather than later.  

Answer 6

tell your parents. They cant make you have an abortion its up to you its your body! And Im sorry hun but your really young. I hope everything works out.

Answer 7

Right now you need to find an adult you trust - and talk about this - and soon.

Right now you have to make the decision to either have a termination - or carry your child to term.

(not great for a 14 1/2 body really - but many have done so before you)

If you decide to carry your child to term - you need to work out what support systems you have around you to help parent this child.

Your boyfriend and family will need to be allowed to have input on parenting - as this child is half his.

You will most likely need your parents help, advice and care - so yes - you're probably going to have to tell them.

Many have done this before you. It's not like you're the first.

If anyone tries to push you towards adoption - be very very aware of your rights - and make sure you read this -

http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pd...

Adoption is a long term solution to a short term problem - and the affects will last a life-time. (it's definately not anything like Juno in real life)

I wish you all the best - I'm sending you strength for what lies ahead.

Just take it all one step at a time.

And remember to breathe.

  

Answer 8

Tell your parentals.

They CANNOT make you get an abortion, but they can make your life a living heck.

Although your young, it might be a good choice.

Answer 9

you really should tell your parents bc i thought it was the hardest thing to do and i was 17 but they really didnt act like i thought they was goin to! now im 18 and 34 weeks and 1 day! and they couldnt be happier! but dont do anything you dont want to do!  

Answer 10

Tell your parents.. i mean they are going to find out sooner or later. I don't think they will make you have an abortion if you don't want to. I know it's going to be hard and you are scared but everything is going to be fine. May God bless you and good luck.  

Answer 11

You have to tell your parents, who else is going to support you.  Of   course they will probably be mad and disappointed, but you can't keep this a secret.  Plus you need to make sure that you get health coverage.  Man...14 years old...

Answer 12

No one can force any woman to have an abortion. If you don't want an abortion, don't have one

Of corse you should tell your mom and dad. It will be extremely difficult for the entire family but you cant keep something like that a secret.

There are always other options other than abortion

-Raising the child, with a lot of help from your parents of corse

-Giving the baby up for adoption. There are many couples who are not able to have children on waiting lists to raise a child.

Answer 13

Tell them!, If you are still counting your age in halves, you shouldn't get pregnant!

Answer 14

You need to be responsible and tell your parents Then figure out your best options for you and the Baby if you don't believe in abortion then you shouldn't do that but what about adoption.  

Answer 15

yes you should tell your parents, and yes you should have an abortion.

Answer 16

First off, ignore everyone telling you to get an abortion and whatnot.  It is your body and your choice.  Here is what you should do though, and I know from personal experience, I watched my best friend get pregnant at 14, and she made bad choices.  You and your boyfriend need to get BOTH sets of your parents together and talk about everything.  You are 14 so you are at high risk for complications.  You need to tell them what happened, that you are sorry, and you do not want to have an abortion.  There are mant couples who are unable to have children that would be more than willing to pay your medical expenses, and reimburse you for other misc. things.  You can have an open adoption, and most public schools will allow you to do a home study so you can continue your education, and you can have it set up to where the family will send you photos of the child growing up.  This I think is your best option.  It wouldnt require you to have an abortion, you could continue your education, and not have to worry about medical expenses piling up.  And you would be giving a couple who is unable to have a child the best gift in the world.  Good luck with everything!  

Answer 17

they cant make you...relax and im sure your parents will help you make the right choice. these things happen and there are the right (adoption) and wrong (abortion) ways of handling them.

Answer 18

i just opened an account specifically to adress this....i had my first baby when i was 17 and my boyfriend was extremelly abusive...its sucks going through high school pregnant...my mom tried to get me to have a n abortion i guess because she thought it was the "magic wand" to make all my problems go away and my bf put the pressure on too...i must have gone like 5 times and run every time..the last time i made it to the operating room before i admitted to myself that i was just going to have a kid and that was it....a girl who was in the room with me waiting to go in because she had an ectopic pregnancy was part of what stopped me...i said i was doing it because i couldnt take care of a baby by myself so young, her reply: "thats not much of a reason really.  if you dont want an abortion and thats the only reason you have you need to rethink it. you could get pregnant 15 yrs from now with the prefect man and the prefect life and he could get killed in an accident and you could loose everything. youd be in a very similar situation."

im now 25 and getting ready to have number four... i graduated high shcool im going to university, i got married when i was 21 started a good career and bought my first home...i would have never forgiven myself if i had that abortion because 2 years after having him i was giving him the life i never thought i could...it only takes time...and another thing that your parents and maybe even you need to always remember is that a beautiful child is nothing to fear...you could have just as easily have gotten aids and be on your way to your grave right now....give thanks and feel happy dont be afraid i know its hard...

Answer 19

let us know, we are here for u

Answer 20

you must tell your parents. they will find out anyways so you might as well tell them as soon as possible so you can get proper care for your baby. don't get an abortion. you will regret it some day. if you can't handle the baby then just give it to adoption.  

Answer 21

Make the right choice of telling them now. Be responsible for your actions. Then you know that you are not alone in this dilemma. Besides, there are other options than abortion such as adoption. I'm sure your parents love you and that they will make the best decisions.  

Answer 22

You should definitely tell your parents and your boyfriend. Find out if they will support you in keeping the baby.

Answer 23

Tell your parents.  You need to start seeing a doctor now to have a healthy baby.  Just tell them you tried to be safe by using a condom but by God's plan you became pregnant anyway.  Oh and refer to it as their grandchild.  It might make it too hard for them to consider making you get an abortion.

Answer 24

well duh your parents are the only one that can help u