Pregnant girlfriend won't have s*x anymore? what to do?

Question

My gf is now entering her 4th month. We've had s*x 2x since she found out she was pregnant. She basically told me today to get used to my hand for the next 6 months as its not on her mind at all. She pretty much won't touch me and banned internet p**n and will get all offended if I look at it.

We don't do anything else either...is this normal and what am I supposed to do. I get she's preggo but whole thing is super frustrating...I'm also assuming things will be super slow after the baby is born as she'll just focus on the child...is this my future?

Answer 1

Wow, I'm really sorry, that totally sucks, well sometimes pregnant women get totally and completely turned off during pregnancy and sometimes they turn into every man's dream wanting it every day two times a day even. So it just depends on the hormones and also if she is nauseous and sick a lot. Try to be understanding but maybe you should try other things to get her into a relaxed mood where she might let go and get aroused like smelly good candles with an oil massage. Browse yahoo for foreplay ideas that you think she might like. I don't know if she shaves or waxes down there or anything, but sometimes it's nice to gently shave her and apply some KY warming oil for down there and just massage her all around the area even her thighs and not even stimulate her clitoris and see how things go with something like that. So really just be understanding and try to relax her as much as possible, and truly have no other motive than to relax and please her and then it may just happen. Good luck!  

Answer 2

well just try talking to her. maybe she is just scared the baby will get hurt. its a protective thing. all my sisters went through it. and just reassure the baby will be fine.  

Answer 3

you gotta show that you love her for more than just s*x, also you gotta seduce her, my girl is pregnant and i gave her space, but i would just hint at it, and i dunno she just has to want it =/

Answer 4

I was just like your girlfriend for a while.  Anxiety, fear and a dramatically changing body can make a woman RUN from s*x!  Then one night we happened to start talking about when we had first started dating and how much fun we had together; How we would belt out songs together in the car while just hanging out, how so natural our conversations always were during dates, how we could always make one another laugh, etc.  Reminiscing about these things got my motor runnin' in no time if you know what I mean!  Sometimes all we need is to feel those new puppy love butterlies all over again and remember why we let you impregnate us in the first place ! (lol)  

Answer 5

It happens, she will come around, if not now, after the baby, some women just go through this.

Answer 6

I feel your pain brother!!!!  It's not just you....trust me!!!!  That sucks about the internet p**n tho......ouch!!!!!

Answer 7

I know for a lot of women, it changes with the trimesters.  It's quite common for women to not be in the mood during the first trimester due to morning sickness, fatigue, etc.  And, for some lucky females the second trimester becomes a complete opposite in which the drive is heightened beyond belief.  And, then it slows down again in the third...often times because the position of the baby can actually make intercourse painful.  Each one is different!  And, yes it could take some time after the birth due to her recovery.  Those parts do have to heal!  Just be patient.  This is the time to pay attention to her and her needs.  Take care of yourself in the shower if need be as p**n just is not the answer.  For many women, that's just as bad as cheating.

Answer 8

some women do not like being sexually active while prego, but there are some who are very horny! It all just depends... I would try talking to her about it if it's bothering you this much!

Answer 9

This happens to a a lot of women.  Have you asked her why she does not want to have s*x?  Often times, she may be tired.  Pregnancy takes a lot out of you.  Is she afraid she'll lose the baby?  

I've known some women who just lose their s*x drive altogether.  I know it's hard, but I would not take it personally.  Her s*x drive should return a few months after the baby is born.  

You need to talk to her.  Be sympathetic.  Don't accuse her of anything as she may become defensive.  Hopefully, she'll come around.

Answer 10

What? is this your future? are you serious? is that all you are concernd about? s*x? Your having a baby, she is going though h**l atm, the least you can do is put up without s*x for a while, alot of pregnant women have this problem, and as for p**n, get a grip, If you look at that **** your just gona make her feel worse, you need to put you d**k back in your pants and start supporting her and the baby to be! Its her time now... Accept it and get over it..

Answer 11

I guess she wants to feel like a mother now. She's pregnant and she wants to act like it too.

Answer 12

Well sometimes getting pregnant is a wake up call for a person to realize they have been playing house without the ring. It makes a lady feel cheap and used for s*x to not be treated with the respect a mother deserves.

p**n is a whole other disrespect issue.  

Answer 13

i think she is being way to unfair. unless its a medical reason for the no s*x thing. next time u go to the doc. ask him about s*x right in front of her. and as for the p**n, id watch it anyway. its safer than in the end breaking down and cheating on her.

Answer 14

wow that's extreme. and only at four months i would understand if yous said she like 8 months. kinda. its safe so whats wrong? maybe you need to have an in depth conversation with her. whatever you do dont cheat on her please. i was cheated on the first time i was pregnant and i left his ***. dont do that for the sake of your child.

Answer 15

Well, the whole internet thing is just ridiculous. Stop being so selfish. She's having your baby for goodness sake!!!

She probably feels uncomfortable and sensitive down there, not to mention irritable and hormonal. She probably is worried about the baby. Also when your pregnant your     drive can decrease. But it will most likely come back soon after the baby is born, once she has the OK to have            , and she isn't sore anymore.

Don't worry, she probably will cave soon anyway

Answer 16

This is normal and her body is going through a lot of changes. SO do not feel like it is the end of the world and she does not love you anymore. There is a lot going on with a woman when they are pregnant. So be patient. If she does what to have s*x then I guess your hand will have to do. But be supportive and honor what she wants. She will come around soon. I can not say when , but soon. Hope you have a healthy baby.

                                                                                     Rose

Answer 17

I think she is being a little dramatic. It might be hard to get used too for a women but there are alot of pregnant girls who have s*x. Maybe you just need to talk to her about it.

Tell her that its frustrating and to at least compromise with p**n if she wont touch you. If shes understanding she'll compromise. But her hormones are also all messed up. She'll probablyhave mood swings.

Answer 18

i''m also 4 1/2 months and s*x is uncomfortable right now I don't know why but in my first trimester I wanted it alot so just give her some time hormones are a B!^%#

Answer 19

I would not worry too much because some women get like that when pregnant they want nothing to do with s*x. And then there are some ( me ) who's s*x drive increased as if it wasn't enough before! LOL! But dont worry it will pass after the baby is born. Maybe even before. As for her not letting you look up p**n. That is not fair. Its p**n, who cares if she gets offended you can't suffer and put yourself on hold just because she is controlling. I suppose to fallow her wants for now but explain to her that you still want some sexual relief and well there is nothing wrong with p**n. Seriously I dont get what her deal is. I'd watch it anyways. dont suffer lol. YOur not hurting anyone. Good Luck!

ADD.. well just do it then.. dont ask her permission to watch p**n your hurting nobody. just do it. if she gets mad she will get over it! trust me!